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My daughter has experienced her first incidence of racism towards her.


My daughter is 10 this year and has been lucky enough to have avoided racism until now. I am Caucasian and my wife is Indonesian šŸ‡®šŸ‡©

She is a Cub Scout and the two women who run it are in their 70s.

A recent task was to draw an angel, so she drew one that had brown eyes and dark hair, like herself. One of the leaders told her to do it again because, ā€œangels only have blonde hair and blue eyes.ā€

When I heard what had happened I was livid and wanted to make a complaint because you just canā€™t say things like that nowadays. Anyway, my daughter just shrugged and said, ā€œDonā€™t make a fuss Daddy - sheā€™s just an old ladyā€, which I thought was pretty cool.

So, Iā€™m going to respect my daughterā€™s wishes and move on; Iā€™m still upset about it though.

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I have to agree with your daughter.

Two old ladies should be disregarded. They were wrong, you and your daughter know they were wrong. No need to go any further with it, IMO.

Continuing to be upset with the situation does nothing but hurt you.

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Agreed - which is why no further action was taken.

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Hey good for you brother.

I'm just as happy for you as I am for your daughters maturity.

Move on and enjoy your wonderful daughter.

Congrats to both of you.

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Thank you for your kind words. Sheā€™s light years ahead of where I was at her age.

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Listen to your daughter.

She's correct and it shows a lot of maturity in her response. When I was a kid, the older people still called people the N Word. You just shake your head and remember that time takes all of us out and we too will be offensive to Future generations.

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Yep, sheā€™s one smart cookie šŸ‘

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I honestly don't care.

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I bet you do really šŸ˜˜

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Is it racism or the womanā€™s perception of what an angel looks like?

There are classic works of art that feature non blonde angels.

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I don't get this, 'either or' lengthy argument of racism vs ignorance when I see it as a combination of the two.

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It could just be the woman thinks angels have blonde hair and blue eyes.

It doesnā€™t have to mean racism. For eg if a person drew a Caucasian angel with black hair and brown eyes would the woman still reject it?

There was nothing in the OPā€™s post to suggest race was the issue. It seems to be about hair and eye colour.

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Sheā€™s going to be disappointed when she finds out what Jesus probably looks like.

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ā€œThere are classic works of art that feature non blonde angels.ā€

Doesnā€™t that demonstrate that the lady was wrong?

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Sure but it still doesnā€™t mean it was based on racism.

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I think telling a biracial child that angels only have blonde hair and blue eyes implies that there arenā€™t any Asian, Indian or Black angels.

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The woman is in her 70ā€™s though. I think you need to understand her experience.

I do wonder why a woman in her 70ā€™s is a Cub Scout leader and why scouts are drawing angels.

I still donā€™t see it as racism. From what you have written your daughter doesnā€™t even see it as a big deal.

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"The woman is in her 70's though. I think you need to understand her experience."

Exactly!

You would think that a woman in that stage of her life, and especially working with children, would have developed some wisdom. After all, that's what elderly people are supposed to be renowned for. Andy's daughter displayed more of that than she did. This reinforces my opinion that some people have no business being in the positions they're in.

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All we have is the OP's story to go on, it does seem odd to me in many ways. The age of the scout leader, drawing angels or drawing just about anything doesn't seem very scout cub to me either. Was this woman just filling in for the day or a proper scout leader?

That said, I still don't see it as racism which is the main point of the thread.

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The OP has demonstrated a consistent pattern of expression here that makes him credible. His becoming upset over this was a completely human, understandable reaction. There's a special love that exists between a father and his daughter, "daddy's little girl."

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It still doesn't mean it was racist.

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Andy has been a world traveler for a long time, exposed to and adapting to a variety of cultures. I trust his experience here and his natural instincts as a loving parent. I was once accused of being an overly protective father. That accuser was completely shut down after I rescued my son (younger than Andy's daughter at the time) from nearly being hit by a car. That protective instinct is seen throughout the natural world.

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Well, I don't know Andy. But that said it still doesn't mean it was racism and even his daughter seems non fussed about it.

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Racism can manifest itself in a variety of ways, from overtly to being very subtle. As I've mentioned elsewhere in this thread, I'm dealing with a problematic neighbor who has a black boyfriend, has accused her neighbors of racism, and yet she refers to him with this word: https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/darkie

Go figure!

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"I think telling a biracial child that angels only have blonde hair and blue eyes implies that there arenā€™t any Asian, Indian or Black angels."

Why would there be Asian, Indian, or black angels? According to the Bible, angels aren't from Earth, and they were created before humans were created. In other words, they are aliens / extraterrestrial beings. "Satan" is an angel (a fallen one), for example. In their physical form at least some of them are biologically similar enough to humans that they can mate with them, resulting in hybrid "Nephilim" offspring (AKA: giants), according to the Bible (Genesis) and the Book of Enoch, which was considered canonical at one time. But none of them are from Earth at all, let alone Asia, India, or Africa.

The idea that humans become angels in the afterlife comes from pop culture, not from the Bible.

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I think you should apply for the scout leading job.

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He has a point though. We like to think of these creatures as human when they simply aren't and they may not exist at all.

So when he says why would Angels be Indian, Asian they are worldly descriptions of creatures who are not worldly at all.

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I feel like the elderly woman was unlikely to have been making that kind of metaphysical point to a child. It's not that deep.

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Iā€™m pretty sure she wasnā€™t either.

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What I meant was, he would have done a better job than the scout leader did.

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According to the Bible


It was a cub scout meeting in the UK in 2024. It wasn't a seminary in the 18th century. Or... I dunno... Arkansas. No-one cares about 'according to the Bible.' It's not the least bit relevant in most people's lives. And it certainly isn't relevant to the matter at hand.

The Cub Scouts isn't a Christian group. They're very explicit about welcoming people of all faiths and no faith. Because, well, they have to be in twenty-first century Britain, because even most people who identify as Christian themselves wouldn't send their children to listen to some wacky old-timer bang on about literal interpretations of biblical angels.

No-one cares. It is simply not the arena to air such views. Keep it inside your church. And, indeed, if this scout leader was preaching in some manner, you've probably provided another potential cause for complaint against her. I think her superiors would be unhappy with that behaviour. It's against their stated principles.

I do wonder what some of you imagine twenty-first century Britain to be.

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"It was a cub scout meeting in the UK in 2024."

What of it?

"It wasn't a seminary in the 18th century."

Thank you, Captain Obvious, but again, what of it?

"No-one cares about 'according to the Bible.'"

That's a demonstrably (and blatantly obviously) false assertion, and it's also irrelevant.

"And it certainly isn't relevant to the matter at hand."

Yes, it is. The Bible is the source material for "angels."

"The Cub Scouts isn't a Christian group."

Utterly irrelevant. And also, most of the Bible isn't Christian either, i.e., the books of the Old Testament predate Christianity by hundreds of years, as do angels.

"They're very explicit about welcoming people of all faiths and no faith."

What does that have to do with anything?

"Because, well, they have to be in twenty-first century Britain, because even most people who identify as Christian themselves wouldn't send their children to listen to some wacky old-timer bang on about literal interpretations of biblical angels."

What are you talking about? There's nothing in the OP's story to suggest that the old-timer is "wacky" nor that she "bang[ed] on about literal interpretations of biblical angels."

"No-one cares."

Your demonstrably (and blatantly obviously) false assertion is dismissed.

"It is simply not the arena to air such views."

Again, what are you talking about? First, I didn't air any views at all. What I wrote was according to the Bible, and not a single author of the Bible incorporated my personal views into their writings, obviously. Second, this is the arena to air anything that isn't politics (read the forum description), plus the Bible is relevant to this thread, since the Bible is the source material for angels.

"Keep it inside your church."

I don't have a church.

"And, indeed, if this scout leader was preaching in some manner, you've probably provided another potential cause for complaint against her."

That's hilarious. And what if she was talking about harpies? Would that also be a "potential cause for complaint against her"? It's funny that students learn about e.g., Greek and Roman mythology in public schools, and that's "teaching," but e.g., ancient Hebrew mythology is off limits, because somehow that's inherently "preaching," and, OH NO! OH NO!

Speaking of which, substitute harpies for angels in the OP's story, and substitute "according to Hesiod" for "according to the Bible" in my reply. Would your reply have been fundamentally the same (such as making the laughable assertions that Hesiod "certainly isn't relevant to the matter at hand" and that "no one cares about 'according to Hesiod'" in a discussion about harpies)? I very much doubt you'd have the same irrational reaction to discussions about Greek mythology as you do to discussions about the Bible, and I also highly doubt that you'd equate such discussions with your concept of "Arkansas," despite them both being discussions of ancient writings.

"I do wonder what some of you imagine twenty-first century Britain to be."

Your non sequitur is dismissed.

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I think you're being wilfully obtuse, so I'll leave you to it.

But try not to imagine you know more about Britain, its social norms, its culture, its attitudes, and its laws than a British person who lives here. Because it makes you look incredibly stupid. Which you are not, so try harder.

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"I think you're being wilfully obtuse, so I'll leave you to it."

Your non sequitur is dismissed, and since you didn't address, let alone refute, anything I said, your tacit concession is noted.

"But try not to imagine you know more about Britain, its social norms, its culture, its attitudes, and its laws than a British person who lives here."

This is another non sequitur from you, given that nothing I said suggested, nor even hinted, that I "know more about Britain, its social norms, its culture, its attitudes, and its laws than a British person who lives [there]." And why would I, given that those things are utterly irrelevant to the definition of racism or the concept of angels?

"Because it makes you look incredibly stupid. Which you are not, so try harder."

First, this is negated by your false premise (see above), and second...

Comical Irony Alert

... you know, coming from the clodpate who claimed that "No-one cares about 'according to the Bible,'" (when obviously millions of people do), and that "according to the Bible" isn't relevant to a discussion about angels, which is like saying that Rocky (1976) isn't relevant to a discussion about Apollo Creed.

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When someone tells you 'I'll leave you to it', that's usually taken as a signal that the conversation is over. You haven't understood what you were being told, so there's no point in continuing.

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"When someone tells you 'I'll leave you to it', that's usually taken as a signal that the conversation is over."

No, it means the argument is over, and you lost, due to an utter lack of arguments and an utter failure to even address anything I said (tacit concession). You just replied again (obviously), so the conversation isn't over (obviously), though I don't know why you bothered after tacitly conceding.

If you want the conversation to be over, then stop replying (obviously).

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OK, buddy. If you say so.

There actually wasn't an argument. You were simply given information. You failed to understand that information or the context in which it was provided. But that's fine. Have a lovely day.

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"OK, buddy. If you say so."

Your explicit concession is noted.

"There actually wasn't an argument."

Yes, there was, though you only presented one set of arguments (in the common-speak sense of the term) and then immediately bowed out when I refuted them.

"You were simply given information."

Your "information" consisted of things such as false assertions, non sequiturs, Captain Obvious-type statements, and statements stemming from some sort of irrational aversion to the Bible.

"You failed to understand that information or the context in which it was provided."

I refuted everything you said, and you tacitly conceded, so this is another non sequitur from you (i.e., it doesn't logically follow from anything that actually happened in this branch of the thread). As such, consider it dismissed out of hand.

"But that's fine. Have a lovely day."

Your concession remains noted and your resignation is accepted. Also, why do you keep replying after conceding and saying that the "conversation is over"?

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Childish.

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"Childish."

Comical Irony Alert: Part II

In any case, your concession remains noted and your resignation is still accepted. Also, why do you keep replying after conceding and saying that the "conversation is over"?

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We don't care what the bible says, and the scouts are not a religious group. It's pretty obvious that many kids, if asked to draw an angel, might choose to draw one based on their own image.

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Just to let you know, interestingly all members are expected to attend at least 2 of the 5 annual Church parades.

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That rather undermines the values as set out on their website. 'We're totally inclusive... every faith or no faith... as long as you attend church parades. *mumble mumble*'

'What was that?'

'... attend church parades. and *mumble mumble*'

'No, still didn't catch that.'

'Attend church parades and LOVE OUR LORD AND SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST with all his Aryan angels, OK?'

It all starts to make a sneaky kind of sense.

I'm joking... Ish.

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And yetā€¦..

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I agree with you. Maybe it shows the state of our society that people immediately jump to racism, when in this context it really does seem more to be about a preconceived notion the lady has.

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A PRECONCEIVED NOTION ABOUT RACE SPOKEN OUTLOUD TO A CHILD OF A DIFFERENT RACE...I SAY WE ROUND UP ALL THESE PURPLE HAIRED CHURCH DEMON LADIES AND BURN AT THE STAKE....SELL POPCORN AND STREAMING RIGHTS...KNOW WHAT I MEAN?

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How about the entire world population taking turns to beat your head in with the gigantic dildo that's up your ass.šŸ†

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THAT DOESN'T SEEM REALISTIC...NEEDS WORK.

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Doesn't matter, you're not realistic either.šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

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I AM BETTER THAN REALITY...I AM KOWALSKIā„¢ļø

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The rush to scream racism is what really strikes me here. The fact that the people screaming it are most likely white and yet the bi racial daughter isnā€™t fussed speaks volumes.

Woke White people taking offence on behalf of others.

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I donā€™t believe for one second it was RAAACISM! I honestly believe the statement was preconceived ignorance. Angels have always been white to her, because thatā€™s all which has been available for decades. People need to stop, think & recall when did we finally start seeing tree top angels in other skin tones besides White? When did we start seeing dolls in other skin tones? Itā€™s occurred in most of your lifetimes. Itā€™s only been in the last 5 years QVC began presenting Black & darker skin tones in Christmas items such as decor.

Stop it with the RAAACISM at every turn! These elderly women needed to be informed. Not bullied, but photos of the different skin tones in angels shown to them with tact.

I have a gut feeling if kids were instructed to draw a likeness of MLK & some kid drew him White, that kid would be told ā€œMLK wasnā€™t White. He was Black.ā€

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Well done, Mustang, on one of the few logical and reasonable responses in this thread. Just ignore the resident troll and his dozens of woke sock puppets.

I agree with you. Maybe it shows the state of our society that people immediately jump to racism, when in this context it really does seem more to be about a preconceived notion the lady has.

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MUSTANG HAS BE IGNORED BECAUSE I POKED AT HIS RACIST AND SEXIST POSTS EARLY ON...NO SURPRISE HE DOESN'T SEE RACISM...ALSO...NONE OF THOSE PEOPLE RESPONDING TO HIM ARE SOCKS OF ANYONE...THAT'S A WEIRD THING TO SAY.

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Weird as in true, you mean. Try "poking" your Caps Lock key, for a change.šŸ–•

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false.šŸ–•

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Lol, of course, that's why you did as I said and actually poked the Caps Lock key!šŸ˜†

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I CAN'T TELL...DO YOU LIKE ME?šŸ¤”

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Thanks I wasnā€™t going to even open this thread but I did and kept seeing some people bang on about racism over and over again.

Even the daughter seems non fussed by it all. As you say itā€™s just the womanā€™s perception of what an angel should look like. Big deal.

I also question how likely the story is, 70 year old female scout leader, drawing angels? Hmmm

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That woman sounds like a bitch. As long as there's a halo and wings then it's an angel. Would she have said that to a brown haired brown eyed white girl?
If she's judging a kid's drawing in such a critical manner, she shouldn't be doing that job.

Report her to the council and get some younger blood in there!

Hope it went over your daughter's head and she's not upset by it ā¤ļø

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My daughter is completely non-plussed by it all, however, if there are further incidents, then I will make a formal complaint.

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Jesus when a thread gets to this length you know that if you open it it will be full of inane angry passive aggressive bickering in pedantic mini sub threads in smaller and smaller quote boxes tapering off to the right full of "no , you said .. then I said "

Dont get drawn in Andy !

Interesting to skim through the names only to see which of the usual suspects are involved.

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I had absolutely no idea that my post was going to spiral in all directions.

Most of itā€™s made me chuckle. I try not to let things get to me.

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This thread turned into a nice, wholesome conversation.

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In all the years that Iā€™ve been contributing to this site, I donā€™t think Iā€™ve ever seen one of my posts spiral out of control quite as much as this one!

Come back Ticketsplease, all is forgiven!

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This one turned out of control quicker than my sarcastic Goodfellas post a while back. Congrats on the new record.

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Warp factor 10 in 12 parsecs!

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it might be time to delete this thread. no fault of yours.

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Iā€™m sure itā€™ll die down soon.

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Some of these wall of text responses MUST have sprained a few fingers lol. You got some of these maniacs really riled up;)

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GOT SOME OF THE KEYBOARD CHAMPS WHO DON'T OFTEN HIT UP THE GENDIS UP IN THIS JOINT.

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I scanned some of that stuff but but didn't wade through any of it, I'd rather reread Moby Dick and that book is a real snoozer lol.

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THAT ONE DUDE...SKAVAU I THINK...HE SEEMS OK...I KEP INVITING HIM TO MOVIE CLUB BUT HE NEVER RESPONDS...HE SEEMS COMMITTED TO TOE TO TOEING WITH THE TROLLIES...I DABBLE BUT GET BORED EASILY.

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Some of the ā€˜back and forthsā€™ are amusing.

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Itā€™s nice to be popular, lol.

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I never envisaged it going down like this.

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