She is a Cub Scout and the two women who run it are in their 70s.
A recent task was to draw an angel, so she drew one that had brown eyes and dark hair, like herself. One of the leaders told her to do it again because, āangels only have blonde hair and blue eyes.ā
When I heard what had happened I was livid and wanted to make a complaint because you just canāt say things like that nowadays. Anyway, my daughter just shrugged and said, āDonāt make a fuss Daddy - sheās just an old ladyā, which I thought was pretty cool.
So, Iām going to respect my daughterās wishes and move on; Iām still upset about it though.
She's correct and it shows a lot of maturity in her response. When I was a kid, the older people still called people the N Word. You just shake your head and remember that time takes all of us out and we too will be offensive to Future generations.
"The woman is in her 70's though. I think you need to understand her experience."
Exactly!
You would think that a woman in that stage of her life, and especially working with children, would have developed some wisdom. After all, that's what elderly people are supposed to be renowned for. Andy's daughter displayed more of that than she did. This reinforces my opinion that some people have no business being in the positions they're in.
All we have is the OP's story to go on, it does seem odd to me in many ways. The age of the scout leader, drawing angels or drawing just about anything doesn't seem very scout cub to me either. Was this woman just filling in for the day or a proper scout leader?
That said, I still don't see it as racism which is the main point of the thread.
The OP has demonstrated a consistent pattern of expression here that makes him credible. His becoming upset over this was a completely human, understandable reaction. There's a special love that exists between a father and his daughter, "daddy's little girl."
Andy has been a world traveler for a long time, exposed to and adapting to a variety of cultures. I trust his experience here and his natural instincts as a loving parent. I was once accused of being an overly protective father. That accuser was completely shut down after I rescued my son (younger than Andy's daughter at the time) from nearly being hit by a car. That protective instinct is seen throughout the natural world.
Racism can manifest itself in a variety of ways, from overtly to being very subtle. As I've mentioned elsewhere in this thread, I'm dealing with a problematic neighbor who has a black boyfriend, has accused her neighbors of racism, and yet she refers to him with this word: https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/darkie
"I think telling a biracial child that angels only have blonde hair and blue eyes implies that there arenāt any Asian, Indian or Black angels."
Why would there be Asian, Indian, or black angels? According to the Bible, angels aren't from Earth, and they were created before humans were created. In other words, they are aliens / extraterrestrial beings. "Satan" is an angel (a fallen one), for example. In their physical form at least some of them are biologically similar enough to humans that they can mate with them, resulting in hybrid "Nephilim" offspring (AKA: giants), according to the Bible (Genesis) and the Book of Enoch, which was considered canonical at one time. But none of them are from Earth at all, let alone Asia, India, or Africa.
The idea that humans become angels in the afterlife comes from pop culture, not from the Bible.
It was a cub scout meeting in the UK in 2024. It wasn't a seminary in the 18th century. Or... I dunno... Arkansas. No-one cares about 'according to the Bible.' It's not the least bit relevant in most people's lives. And it certainly isn't relevant to the matter at hand.
The Cub Scouts isn't a Christian group. They're very explicit about welcoming people of all faiths and no faith. Because, well, they have to be in twenty-first century Britain, because even most people who identify as Christian themselves wouldn't send their children to listen to some wacky old-timer bang on about literal interpretations of biblical angels.
No-one cares. It is simply not the arena to air such views. Keep it inside your church. And, indeed, if this scout leader was preaching in some manner, you've probably provided another potential cause for complaint against her. I think her superiors would be unhappy with that behaviour. It's against their stated principles.
I do wonder what some of you imagine twenty-first century Britain to be.
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Thank you, Captain Obvious, but again, what of it?
"No-one cares about 'according to the Bible.'"
That's a demonstrably (and blatantly obviously) false assertion, and it's also irrelevant.
"And it certainly isn't relevant to the matter at hand."
Yes, it is. The Bible is the source material for "angels."
"The Cub Scouts isn't a Christian group."
Utterly irrelevant. And also, most of the Bible isn't Christian either, i.e., the books of the Old Testament predate Christianity by hundreds of years, as do angels.
"They're very explicit about welcoming people of all faiths and no faith."
What does that have to do with anything?
"Because, well, they have to be in twenty-first century Britain, because even most people who identify as Christian themselves wouldn't send their children to listen to some wacky old-timer bang on about literal interpretations of biblical angels."
What are you talking about? There's nothing in the OP's story to suggest that the old-timer is "wacky" nor that she "bang[ed] on about literal interpretations of biblical angels."
"No-one cares."
Your demonstrably (and blatantly obviously) false assertion is dismissed.
"It is simply not the arena to air such views."
Again, what are you talking about? First, I didn't air any views at all. What I wrote was according to the Bible, and not a single author of the Bible incorporated my personal views into their writings, obviously. Second, this is the arena to air anything that isn't politics (read the forum description), plus the Bible is relevant to this thread, since the Bible is the source material for angels.
"Keep it inside your church."
I don't have a church.
"And, indeed, if this scout leader was preaching in some manner, you've probably provided another potential cause for complaint against her."
That's hilarious. And what if she was talking about harpies? Would that also be a "potential cause for complaint against her"? It's funny that students learn about e.g., Greek and Roman mythology in public schools, and that's "teaching," but e.g., ancient Hebrew mythology is off limits, because somehow that's inherently "preaching," and, OH NO! OH NO!
Speaking of which, substitute harpies for angels in the OP's story, and substitute "according to Hesiod" for "according to the Bible" in my reply. Would your reply have been fundamentally the same (such as making the laughable assertions that Hesiod "certainly isn't relevant to the matter at hand" and that "no one cares about 'according to Hesiod'" in a discussion about harpies)? I very much doubt you'd have the same irrational reaction to discussions about Greek mythology as you do to discussions about the Bible, and I also highly doubt that you'd equate such discussions with your concept of "Arkansas," despite them both being discussions of ancient writings.
"I do wonder what some of you imagine twenty-first century Britain to be."
I think you're being wilfully obtuse, so I'll leave you to it.
But try not to imagine you know more about Britain, its social norms, its culture, its attitudes, and its laws than a British person who lives here. Because it makes you look incredibly stupid. Which you are not, so try harder.
"I think you're being wilfully obtuse, so I'll leave you to it."
Your non sequitur is dismissed, and since you didn't address, let alone refute, anything I said, your tacit concession is noted.
"But try not to imagine you know more about Britain, its social norms, its culture, its attitudes, and its laws than a British person who lives here."
This is another non sequitur from you, given that nothing I said suggested, nor even hinted, that I "know more about Britain, its social norms, its culture, its attitudes, and its laws than a British person who lives [there]." And why would I, given that those things are utterly irrelevant to the definition of racism or the concept of angels?
"Because it makes you look incredibly stupid. Which you are not, so try harder."
First, this is negated by your false premise (see above), and second...
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... you know, coming from the clodpate who claimed that "No-one cares about 'according to the Bible,'" (when obviously millions of people do), and that "according to the Bible" isn't relevant to a discussion about angels, which is like saying that Rocky (1976) isn't relevant to a discussion about Apollo Creed.
When someone tells you 'I'll leave you to it', that's usually taken as a signal that the conversation is over. You haven't understood what you were being told, so there's no point in continuing.
"When someone tells you 'I'll leave you to it', that's usually taken as a signal that the conversation is over."
No, it means the argument is over, and you lost, due to an utter lack of arguments and an utter failure to even address anything I said (tacit concession). You just replied again (obviously), so the conversation isn't over (obviously), though I don't know why you bothered after tacitly conceding.
If you want the conversation to be over, then stop replying (obviously).
There actually wasn't an argument. You were simply given information. You failed to understand that information or the context in which it was provided. But that's fine. Have a lovely day.
Yes, there was, though you only presented one set of arguments (in the common-speak sense of the term) and then immediately bowed out when I refuted them.
"You were simply given information."
Your "information" consisted of things such as false assertions, non sequiturs, Captain Obvious-type statements, and statements stemming from some sort of irrational aversion to the Bible.
"You failed to understand that information or the context in which it was provided."
I refuted everything you said, and you tacitly conceded, so this is another non sequitur from you (i.e., it doesn't logically follow from anything that actually happened in this branch of the thread). As such, consider it dismissed out of hand.
"But that's fine. Have a lovely day."
Your concession remains noted and your resignation is accepted. Also, why do you keep replying after conceding and saying that the "conversation is over"?
In any case, your concession remains noted and your resignation is still accepted. Also, why do you keep replying after conceding and saying that the "conversation is over"?
We don't care what the bible says, and the scouts are not a religious group. It's pretty obvious that many kids, if asked to draw an angel, might choose to draw one based on their own image.
That rather undermines the values as set out on their website. 'We're totally inclusive... every faith or no faith... as long as you attend church parades. *mumble mumble*'
'What was that?'
'... attend church parades. and *mumble mumble*'
'No, still didn't catch that.'
'Attend church parades and LOVE OUR LORD AND SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST with all his Aryan angels, OK?'
I agree with you. Maybe it shows the state of our society that people immediately jump to racism, when in this context it really does seem more to be about a preconceived notion the lady has.
A PRECONCEIVED NOTION ABOUT RACE SPOKEN OUTLOUD TO A CHILD OF A DIFFERENT RACE...I SAY WE ROUND UP ALL THESE PURPLE HAIRED CHURCH DEMON LADIES AND BURN AT THE STAKE....SELL POPCORN AND STREAMING RIGHTS...KNOW WHAT I MEAN?
The rush to scream racism is what really strikes me here. The fact that the people screaming it are most likely white and yet the bi racial daughter isnāt fussed speaks volumes.
Woke White people taking offence on behalf of others.
I donāt believe for one second it was RAAACISM! I honestly believe the statement was preconceived ignorance. Angels have always been white to her, because thatās all which has been available for decades. People need to stop, think & recall when did we finally start seeing tree top angels in other skin tones besides White? When did we start seeing dolls in other skin tones? Itās occurred in most of your lifetimes. Itās only been in the last 5 years QVC began presenting Black & darker skin tones in Christmas items such as decor.
Stop it with the RAAACISM at every turn! These elderly women needed to be informed. Not bullied, but photos of the different skin tones in angels shown to them with tact.
I have a gut feeling if kids were instructed to draw a likeness of MLK & some kid drew him White, that kid would be told āMLK wasnāt White. He was Black.ā
Well done, Mustang, on one of the few logical and reasonable responses in this thread. Just ignore the resident troll and his dozens of woke sock puppets.
I agree with you. Maybe it shows the state of our society that people immediately jump to racism, when in this context it really does seem more to be about a preconceived notion the lady has.
MUSTANG HAS BE IGNORED BECAUSE I POKED AT HIS RACIST AND SEXIST POSTS EARLY ON...NO SURPRISE HE DOESN'T SEE RACISM...ALSO...NONE OF THOSE PEOPLE RESPONDING TO HIM ARE SOCKS OF ANYONE...THAT'S A WEIRD THING TO SAY.
That woman sounds like a bitch. As long as there's a halo and wings then it's an angel. Would she have said that to a brown haired brown eyed white girl?
If she's judging a kid's drawing in such a critical manner, she shouldn't be doing that job.
Report her to the council and get some younger blood in there!
Hope it went over your daughter's head and she's not upset by it ā¤ļø
Jesus when a thread gets to this length you know that if you open it it will be full of inane angry passive aggressive bickering in pedantic mini sub threads in smaller and smaller quote boxes tapering off to the right full of "no , you said .. then I said "
Dont get drawn in Andy !
Interesting to skim through the names only to see which of the usual suspects are involved.
In all the years that Iāve been contributing to this site, I donāt think Iāve ever seen one of my posts spiral out of control quite as much as this one!
THAT ONE DUDE...SKAVAU I THINK...HE SEEMS OK...I KEP INVITING HIM TO MOVIE CLUB BUT HE NEVER RESPONDS...HE SEEMS COMMITTED TO TOE TO TOEING WITH THE TROLLIES...I DABBLE BUT GET BORED EASILY.