I realize the disproportionate amount of attention women get and how it impacts dating, I’m realistic. What I can’t handle is how they invariably choose men with no rewarding attributes, over and over. Some of them are abusive men they have difficulty leaving, but that’s a separate category of mentally weak women with psychological problems.
shareIf you're a winner you can just grab them by the pussy. - The Donald
Well maybe those ugly men have something you lack - CONFIDENCE.
Girls always like confidence in men. You don't really need to be asshole to get one. (Even though,assholes will get plenty of girls unfortunately). Just confidence.
I think your title says it all - sounds like all you are looking for is sex/getting laid. What a turn off.
shareNot anymore than any other guy. That’s all dating is is a mating game, even marriage doesn’t last anymore. If you’re implying I wear my libido on my sleeve I don’t, I’m pretty good at appearing genuinely interested.
sharePerhaps you should try being instead of appearing.
shareI mean I am obviously genuinely interested most of the time in a relationship ultimately, I guess I just said getting laid because that’s the common trope. This really applies to both.
shareBut I never hear you say you would like to find someone special to have a relationship with. You just complain about how phony women are and how they choose men you feel are inferior to you.
I don't know where you hang out, but perhaps you are looking in the wrong places.
It could be it's not their looks that attracts them. It could be their personalities, their sense of humor, some talent they have that few men possess, or something as simple as lots of money. I could think of quite a few ugly famous men in Hollywood that were able to get plenty of chicks because of their fame and fortunes; but even for them, it might still boil down to personality.
But I will tell you a fun secret, MovieBuff :D. I watched a psychological experiment done on a group of adults on tv, where they had an equal number of men and women. One of the most delightful findings that came out of it was; most people choose a soulmate who is similar in attractiveness to them (and this is totally subconscious, mind you).
Let's say, on a scale of 1-10 (10 being a super-hot sex god(dess), and 1 being "so ugly I want to stab my eyes out"), you can honestly rate most people on our planet as a 6, or in that general area: average in attractiveness. They aren't ugly or beautiful; just something in between, and are okay to look at. In fact, being super-gorgeous or hideously ugly is surprisingly rare among humans, if you think about it.
Now, let's say, there's a guy who's....oh...a 6.5. He's average-looking, pretty much. Chances are very high he's gonna end up with someone who ranges between a 7 and a 5, similar to him. It's the same for women too. It is super-rare to have a gorgeous woman fall for a very ugly man, or vice versa.
That’s simply not true, I see attractive women with average/ugly dudes all the time. They’re the majority in fact.
shareThere's another secret: those women wouldn't look so great without their makeup on.
shareThat’s simply not true, I see attractive women with average/ugly dudes all the time. They’re the majority in fact.
Visual attractiveness is much less important to women than to men.
That's been proven and widely documented in gender studies and social psychology.
shareShow us the studies lad.
I can tell you from my POV and my life’s experience that looks matter to women.
They do but not always. I was at the beach once and watched strangely matched couples all day. There were smoking hot women with dumpy guys everywhere. On the way back upstairs at the hotel we saw a sign for a dentist convention.
So sometimes it doesn’t matter. 😄
IM ASSUMING YOU ARE STRAIGHT.SO YOU FIND A LARGE QUANTITY OF WOMEN ATTRACTIVE...JUDGING GUYS IS OUTSIDE OF YOUR EXPERTISE...YOU WOULD HAVE TO BE INTO DUDES TO PROPERLY GAUGE A MAN'S SEXUAL/ROMANTIC APPEAL...ALSO THIS WHOLE TOPIC IS BASED ON LOOKS AND NOTHING ELSE...FLAWED FROM THE JUMP.
shareDude, when you see George Constanza, walking with Pamela Anderson all day something’s up. Also my wife said the same thing.
shareShow us the studies lad.
Lol I don’t have to the proof is in the pudding. Women everywhere w ugly slobs.
shareI watched a psychological experiment done on a group of adults on tv, where they had an equal number of men and women. One of the most delightful findings that came out of it was; most people choose a soulmate who is similar in attractiveness to them (and this is totally subconscious, mind you).
Then perhaps people should remove the internet from the equation when it comes to dating.
shareYou don’t get it, it doesn’t just affect internet dating it has impacted all dating.
shareWhy do you think I don't use the internet to date? I did it on IMVU and was severely disappointed twice. We all get unrealistic expectations of people. I'm just wondering why you believe that women have this power over men? Or that you have failed at life if you can't have someone to stick your dipstick into every other week? There's more to life than sex, you know. If you measure your life based on how often you have sex, you're going to be forever disappointed.
shareI didn’t say you didn’t use the internet to date? And if you don’t see the power and extreme advantages women have over men you are just being obtuse.
shareThere are many reasons I've never talked men into sleeping with me. For one thing, I don't do in pre-marital intercourse. I'm not a big fan of STD's, unplanned pregnancies, or making the mistake of trying to use sex to hook a guy in, and then he treats me like crap in the morning because I behaved like a slut the night before. Or he sees me as "easy." I'm not that kind of woman. Or worse, the guy is a Sex Brat and throws a tantrum and makes mean accusations when someone like me turns them down. The quieter ones I've seen just leave the girl and never talk to her again when he can't convince her in a subtle way to sleep with him after a few dates. Such guys are not worth getting involved with.
shareI'm just wondering why you believe that women have this power over men? Or that you have failed at life if you can't have someone to stick your dipstick into every other week? There's more to life than sex, you know. If you measure your life based on how often you have sex, you're going to be forever disappointed.Not all of us are prudes or asexual the way you are.
...I don't do in pre-marital intercourse. I'm not a big fan of STD's, unplanned pregnancies, or making the mistake of trying to use sex to hook a guy in, and then he treats me like crap in the morning because I behaved like a slut the night before. Or he sees me as "easy." I'm not that kind of woman. Or worse, the guy is a Sex Brat and throws a tantrum and makes mean accusations when someone like me turns them down. The quieter ones I've seen just leave the girl and never talk to her again when he can't convince her in a subtle way to sleep with him after a few dates.
Key word should, unfortunately it’s just the opposite. The ratios are terrible, there are millions of guys trying to do the same thing and not nearly as many girls interested in simply hooking up, most want a relationship.
shareKey word should, unfortunately it’s just the opposite. The ratios are terrible, there are millions of guys trying to do the same thing and not nearly as many girls interested in simply hooking up, most want a relationship.
Key word should, unfortunately it’s just the opposite. The ratios are terrible, there are millions of guys trying to do the same thing and not nearly as many girls interested in simply hooking up, most want a relationship.Answer us this: are you only interested in getting laid? It's okay if you are, just say so.
I agree with you. Casual sex is OK as long as both parties go into it with open eyes and hopefully take the necessary precautions to prevent pregnancy and STD's.
But I still don't think that is what the majority of women are looking for and guys that make it obvious that is all they want are a turn off.
I am not asexual. Don't ever assume I am. I know my ways are seen as "outdated" by today's society, but it's better than the alternative. I have issues with just sleeping around with anybody, getting STD's, unplanned pregnancies, seen as a slut, sex losing meaning, the relationships based around them are doomed to fail, etc.
And for the record, "asexual" normally refers to organisms that can reproduce without help from a sexual partner. I don't know how the LGBT community managed to twist it into something as stupid as that, but it is full of contradictions and the term makes no sense to those of us who were born before the stupid "gender revolution" that took place a few years ago.
And to be fair, if I'm husband-hunting, I'm not gonna hook up with a whiner like the OP.
I am not asexual....And for the record, "asexual" normally refers to organisms that can reproduce without help from a sexual partner.I have heard of that definition of asexual. However, I don't know how else to describe someone with little to no sexual urges or desires, as you seem to be. You've indicated on this thread and in other messages that you are in your thirties and never been married and you have now revealed that you don't believe in sex outside of marriage.
I have issues with just sleeping around with anybody, getting STD's, unplanned pregnancies, seen as a slut, sex losing meaning, the relationships based around them are doomed to fail, etc.And you haven't by now met a guy who shares your views?
Exactly! 100% that is the problem, it’s ridiculous how out of hand it’s gotten.
shareI propose we all pitch in for MovieBuff to get a Real Doll so he will stop with these insane threads.
https://myrealdolls.net/product-category/new/
Oh no then we would have dozens of threads from MovieBuff complaining about his Real Doll
- She can't cook
- She never cleans
- She's high maintenance
and so on
Only puts out for ugly/inadequate men.
shareNever wants to talk about his problems.
Doesn’t want to watch The Irishman.
shareALL THESE POSTS OF YOURS ABOUT WOMEN AND THEIR EASY DATING AND BAD DECISONS SAY ONE THING AND ONE THING ONLY...YOURE FRUSTRATED AND VENTING.
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