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Rudeness, and How YOU Deal With It


I was going to make this topic about cellphone rudeness, which really frosts my ass, but decided to broaden it to concern ALL forms of rudeness, because I believe that rudeness is the worst epidemic in our world today. Rudeness is leading to the collapse of our society. Rude fucks have all the sensitivity of Donald Trump's dick. They only care about themselves and their own little world, which is usually defined by their freaking phone. How do YOU deal with rudeness? For example, I've gotten to the point where I'm saying "Please watch where you're walking" or "Hey, heads up, Brainiac" (it varies depending on my mood) several times a day as I walk down a sidewalk or through a hall of a building, when I see some asshat on a cellphone about to walk right into me? What are YOUR defensive tactics? What types of rudeness annoy you the most?

Also, no rude fucks need reply.

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I know how to deal with rudeness ! Problem is, some ppl cannot not be told your true feelings too face ? They will perceive as a threat, accuse you or retaliation !

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I wouldn't buy from China. But yeah, every movie theater should have those. Schools too.

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Eh, I usually just ignore them and/or get out of their way.

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This!!!

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ditto

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I stopped taking you seriously when you said "I believe that rudeness is the worst epidemic in our world today" do even know what an epidemic is?
I also think you are one of those rude trolls.

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<< do even know what an epidemic is? >>

Wouldn't rudeness be more of a pandemic, as it moves through different communities?
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@ Cookie LA
you're right, rudeness has been rampant throughout the world for 4000 years and it will never change,

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@phantom8

Well, I just put another one on ignore...the OP! Are these ppl able to speak and/or write without profanity? Apparently not! Is their vocabulary so limited that typing the f-word, typing the d__k word, etc. is as common place as typing what day it is? Civil discourse has definitely spiraled downward. Our verbal communication has become swine like!

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Ksp, IMO you jumped too quickly putting R_Kane on ignore. It's your right and your choice, of course, however my experience of reading his or her posts, up until this one, is this is a one-off. You might want to check a poster's prior posting history before putting them on ignore.

I have more tolerance for swearing than you do, so perhaps it doesn't matter to you if a poster swears in one post or in 50. Just thought I'd mention this to you because, as I said, the OP usually posts very good posts. Perhaps s/he was in a very bad mood that day. Who knows.

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Maybe kspkap is one of those straight edge people who grew up with NO SWEARING in the household. I know one friend of mine, whose house I went to, and he told me not to swear because I had said a swear word that I thought nothing of. I had to bite my tongue around his parents so much because I am so use to swearing while I talk.

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Could be, Arvin. Some people have 0 tolerance for swearing of any kind.

Personally, I only swear occasionally, the way one might use hot chiles as an accent in food. For me, sometimes it's the only way you can properly express exactly what you mean, or to what degree you mean it. Others use haberneros -- or even hotter -- all the time, or a lot of the time, or more often than I do, or hate them and want nothing to do with them or anyone else's use of them.

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@Cat

I am unable to Ignore/Delete just one post. R_Kane may as you say, normally post without the foul words. But, the aforementioned post by R_Kane using the verbiage he/she did was disgusting. I'm unable to "skip" over the words because they are there. I see them, therefore I read them. Mild swearing doesn't bother me in the least. I, myself, use mild swearing words daily, he__, d__n, bi___h, but it's the words most foul, George Carlin's "seven dirty words", which I cannot abide by. Those "seven dirty words" have become so easy to utter and write. They are no longer "locker room" words. Can we not attempt to be more genteel? Maybe I'm expecting too much especially when we had a VP of the US utter "Big f-ing deal!".

BTW, the households I grew up in were not straight-laced. Sometimes more than one family under one roof! As I recall, my dear mother never swore, but my dad, aunts, uncles, etc. could let it fly! But, not the words I speak of. I never heard those growing up. They were not used at my places of employment....maybe now they are...

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When I was young, I was your stereotypical bookworm; I absorbed all reading material like a sponge. In addition to novels and non-fiction, I also enjoyed short stories. O. Henry and Ray Bradbury were two of my favorite short story authors.
I remember one such story titled, For All the Rude People. That story struck such a chord with me, way back then, that the title immediately came to mind when I read your post.
I did a quick search of it and discovered it was written by an author named Jack Ritchie and it appeared in a collection of Hitchcock stories and I vaguely seem to remember it might have been dramatized on The Alfred Hitchcock Hour.
Just thought I'd share. I intend to delve further, reread it and try to grasp why it so captivated me back then.
Yeah, obviously, the world hasn't changed for the better whatsoever where this issue is concerned .

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there are much more things to worry about than rudeness such as cancer, HIV aids, terrorism/Isis, inner city killings, etc.

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Who said anything about worry ? The question the OP posed was, what's your coping mechanism? Speaking of inner city killings, many are motivated by someone interpreting something as disrespect. It's often unexpected and intrusive in one's life. Road rage is a good example.

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ok, I'll give you that, sooo let me rephrase that

there are much more things that frosts your ass than rudeness such as cancer, HIV aids, terrorism/Isis, inner city killings, etc.
do you really believe that rudeness is the worst epidemic in our world today?

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But what you are forgetting is that because something so simple is not being addressed, it can lead to all those others.

First, it is someone being rude. Then it could establish a belief that is taken into killings and escalate to the "isms" of bad faith.

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@db20db

"When I was young, I was your stereotypical bookworm; I absorbed all reading material like a sponge. In addition to novels and non-fiction, I also enjoyed short stories. O. Henry and Ray Bradbury were two of my favorite short story authors."

Same for me, yet my pref was non-fiction, and ANYthing besides those trashy romance novels my g'mother use to devour. That's the only thing she just couldn't get me to read (when I got older). Oh wait, she couldn't get me to eat pimento cheese sandwiches. Gaggggg! O. Henry and Bradbury were favs also.

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What I loved about the O. Henry stories was the surprise endings which was their trademark.

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Both O Henry and Bradbury were masterful storytellers.

Pimento and cheese sandwiches sound awful to me.

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Interestingly enough, one of Bradbury's items of advice to aspiring writers was, " fall in love with movies. "

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Ha, I didn't know he'd said that. Makes sense though, given his background.

I wish they'd make a film of it, but if you're a Bradbury fan, have you ever read "Death Is A Lonely Business?" It's one of my favorites, and was written later in his career.

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It doesn't ring a bell. One of my favorites was The Illustrated Man which was adapted to film.

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The Illustrated Man was an excellent short story and film. Rod Steiger starred in the film version, if I'm not mistaken.

If you love Bradbury as an author, you're likely to love Death Is A Lonely Business. It's semi-autobiographical about his youth, and the rest is Bradbury's typical, and extraordinary, imagination. It also includes his fascination with old film stars.

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I just googled it and it does look intriguing.

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It's a great novel. I'll never let go of my copy. I do wish someone would make a film of it that's at least relatively faithful. Although Bradbury is considered a classic, he may have fallen out of favor now, which is a shame if that's the case, and most probably is.

BTW, the novel is set in Venice, CA, during the period of time when it was falling into decay. Helps set the mood -- a combination of old glamour (ala Sunset Boulevard) and more modern decay.

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Yes ! From what I gleaned, it could become a great movie in the right hands as opposed to much of the repetitive, untalented stuff that comes out of Hollywood these days.

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and Rather than comment to both of You..Catbookss & db20db, I enjoyed the conversation, will see if my local library might have copies of yall's recommends, and yep, Catbookss, it's nasty, not as nasty as bologna or souse, but repugnant all the same.

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And then there's The Ray Bradbury Theater which had a well-rated, successful, seven year run on television.

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It did!

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Never, I enjoyed the conversation too. I think you're going to love that book. It's one of my favorites by Bradbury.

Db, I'd forgotten about the Ray Bradbury Theatre. A seven-year run is a very good run.

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and It is..a good run.

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Sometimes I do something similar, politely ask people to get out of the way and thank them even if they were rude. That kind of thing was especially annoying in high school when people stood in front of my locker, lol.

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I was raised to be polite, too, but it seems like most people forget what that means. (I'm 20, btw.) I blame it on smartphones and the Internet: people are too obsessed with their online presence that they forget about real people. Granted, I'm just as guilty of this, but I've always been shy and it's easier to communicate online than in person (for the most part).

Also, my locker was right around the corner the stairs, so maybe that's why people congregated there. It was also a bottom locker.

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@Leia

Oh...to be 20 again! Only in my dreams! I turned around twice and it was gone....sigh...

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Amen.

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Not a problem. Most people (especially adults) that I meet in real life think I'm a lot younger than I am. Dunno why. Nice to have someone think I'm older for a change!

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Actually, Washington D.C. has it right. They actually instill walking etiquette. I am sure it would be more than okay if people were on their cell phone walking or driving, if they actually would abide by common courtesy rules. I know every time I visit my sister in D.C. they actually have an intercom that reminds people to keep to the right and let others pass on escalators, or on a sidewalk, you let people pass on the left and keep to the right.

Now when I get back to KY, all hell breaks loose. None of that applies and you see people cruising at the speed limit in the overtake lane and congest up the right most lane WHERE PEOPLE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE GOING THE SPEED LIMIT. I swear, from an airplane, traffic here looks like the most retarded. You will see all the cars in the overtake lane and no one in the right most lane. One thing I do give them credit for is changing lanes when someone merges on a freeway. In California, they would just drive right through you. But hey, AT LEAST IN CALIFORNIA, they know how to overtake and keep to the right.

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I live in California, drivers know that they will not get the courtesy of being let in, when you're at a light waiting to turn left, the oncoming traffic will not let you turn, you have to wait, it's a good rule to follow, much safer, in other states drivers will sometimes stop to let someone cross in front or whatever (trying to be courteous) and you end up with a 10 car pile up.
however, freeways ARE dangerous, they drive too fast and too close to the car in front, bumper to bumper traffic at 80 MPH,

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Relating to that, did you know that in California, they actually have the courtesy to keep the intersections clear? It was something outrageous, when I came to Kentucky, and found that people will flood the intersection on a green light. It becomes so bad that, when the light turns red, the intersection is still full and the cars trying to turn off their green or "blinking yellow arrow" have to gently nose their way in to make the turn. I have not seen such a phenomenon before.

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I spent 2 weeks in Covington Kentucky but I didn't notice any of that kind of driving, maybe because it's so far up and close to Cincinnati, however, no matter what state I go to, and there have been many, the drivers are not as courteous as California drivers, don't know if it's a law or an unwritten law, but they just won't let you in, they're just going too fast to slow down which would cause a catastrophe.

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This was an odd comment, not because of what was written, but because it never showed up in my notifications nor email. O_o That's weird.

Anywho, yeah, I do not think I have been to Covington. The closest I have been is to Florence, KY. While I was up there with my friend, I actually never paid attention to how people drove. In Lexington, people do it all the time. In Louisville, there are not as many four way intersections to observe, if they do it or not.

In California, check me on this, I think it is a law. There are signs posted in some that say "KEEP THE INTERSECTIONS CLEAR". Not only that, but traffic is regulated in California, meaning the cops will stop you if you do something illegal.

The cops I noticed here are pretty lax. There is something called a Kentucky Turn on Yellow here. Basically, when a yellow arrow is blinking (something I never had seen in California), you can go into the intersection and wait there until all the cars going straight, pass. Then, you can make your turn. Sometimes the light will turn red and that is when you will be turning because you cannot back up into the turning lane spot. I have lived here so long that I have gotten use to it and I even do it. I have asked many locals here and they say it is illegal, but the cops do not really care. I have even seen it done in front of a cop multiple times.

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cops in California will stop you if you drive and chew gum at the same time, last year I got stopped on the freeway doing 90 in a 45, (work being done) it just creeped up on me, I gave him my papers and he walked back to his cruiser, he then ran back, threw the papers in the window and said sorry I gotta go, he took off very fast, my lucky day, it must have been a bank robbery, I think that would have been about an 800 dollar fine if not more.

In California you can also make a left turn on a red, not too many states have that,

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What?! How in the world are you allowed to make a left turn on red? You mean a right turn on red right? Most left turn on reds are at intersections where you have to wait until the arrow turns green. Right turn on red is closest to the sidewalk and you can make the turn if you look out for oncoming straight cars.

When I had gotten into my first accident, I had actually made a left turn on red, which is still legal here. The only thing was, they now have new signal lights put into place. Almost all the lights now have a green arrow that you have the option to use to make that left turn. I never saw it until that very day (now I am more aware). Since my accident was off a left turn on red, I will always look for other options in making that unprotected turn.

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It's true, but only if both streets are one way, and the cross street has to go right to left, it's on the test,
here is the rule book:

California Driver Handbook - Turns - DMV - State of California


A left turn against a red light can only be made from a one-way street onto a one-way street. Signal and stop for a red traffic light at the marked limit line. If there is no limit line, stop before entering the crosswalk. If there is no crosswalk, stop before entering the intersection.



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That is an interesting one. Throughout my raising in California, I do not remember one way streets. I do see what you mean though, because in Louisville, KY; there are one way streets and I have had to make a left turn. Even here though, they did have signal lights. I think it comes with my instinct that I never make a left turn on red. If there is no turn arrow, I would have to wait until the light turned a solid green and then go. Sometimes, here, you fear to do that because people get so aggravated. There have been times when I driver would get shot or something because they either were going to slow, according to the driver trying to pass them or not making turns because the other drivers wanted them to.

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There have been times when a driver would get shot

Holy smoke, remind me never to drive in KY, lol

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Oh yeah. There was one guy, where on a road within 10 miles of me, who got into a fight with a truck driver. This was on the news. The truck driver had a club and the guy in the car shot him. Another time, a Pakistani looking guy was on I-65 in Louisville, I know that freeway really well since I do extra work for movies there and I use it every time; and the guy was shot. It was a miracle that they were able to find the guys. Apparently the reason was because he was driving too slow in the right most lane (the slow lane).

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that's crazy.

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Talk about taking road rage to the next level.

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I have no problem with road rage, I drive so fast nobody can catch me, lol

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Usually,i'm calm person,maybe too calm,but if they keep pushing it ... well even my patience has limits

"That's right,run you bastards,i'm commin' for you all "

Lara Croft - tomb raider 2013

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I just kill them and walk over them....

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I'm with you on that one! Or, if you can't kill them, sterilize them and keep them out of the gene pool.

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Amen I'm all for sterilization!!

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Well, that's the premise of the story I mentioned, For All the Rude People. It's about a terminally ill man who decides to spend his remaining few months executing the most despicably rude people he has encountered. It has interesting parallels to the Charles Bronson classic, Death Wish.
Here are some great lines near the end of the story:

While I finished dressing, he sat down at his desk and glanced at the newspaper lying there. " The killer seems to be rather busy, doesn't he ? "
He turned a page. " But really the most surprising thing about the crimes seems to be the public's reaction. Have you read the Letters from the People column recently? "
" No."
" These murders appear to be meeting with almost universal approval. Some of the letters even hint that they might be able to supply the murderer with a few choice names themselves."
I would have to get a paper.
" Not only that," Dr. Briller said, " but a wave of politeness has struck the city. "

No wonder Hitchcock snatched up this story. It appealed to his macabre sense of humor.

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Sounds like a good one. I'll have to put it on my list! 😁😁😁😁

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