"Having a wedding is a waste of time and money." Agree or disagree?
Just putting it out there.
shareDepends how big the profit is.
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Not at all - mine was brilliant!
shareYeah, I avoid them. They were fun as kids, because it was a time to see your cousins, but I always hated the process. Getting dressed. Someone can't find their tie. "We're not going!" followed by "OK, let's go" and it would always be an hour away. We got pulled over once. I know my dad was drunk. He says he blew outside of the breath-a-lyzer, and when it came inconclusive, told the officer, "Obviously I'm not drunk" and I guess he let us leave. But it was a wedding. I would ALWAYS get drunk (before it was legal, too) with the open bar, and my cousin or aunt would drive my car, and I'd crash over their house. Now everyone is old and I don't anticipate going to another.
shareEverything is a waste of time and money, it just depends how much time and money the bride and groom are putting in, specifically in relation to their income - and the cost to the guests (and whoever else is putting in, like the bride's parents for example). It also depends on the aim of the event - like, if the sole purpose is to collect from the guests, as opposed to just having a good time and celebrating with guests.
If we're talking the traditional wedding, then I'd say yes, it's a big waste of money in relation to the expenses you'll incur as a result and a lot of people aren't in the financial position they were like 40 years ago to host a major celebration and easily recover the cost. A lot of people start their marriage in debt as a result of the wedding, especially in non-western countries. I also know a lot of people who have weddings specifically so they can access their parents' money/their dowry, use some of it on a party for themselves, collect a bunch of money and gifts from their friends and family, and then get divorced quite soon afterwards and enjoy the spoils of the wedding without really giving back in terms of a fun night for others via their wedding.
But if you have a small backyard wedding, invite a few dozen people, and it's basically just a fancy celebratory dinner party, then generally it's not a big waste of either. If you're wealthy and have a huge blowout that people remember for decades after and it doesn't impact your finances much, then again it's not something you'd view as a big waste. It really depends, on your and your partner's finances, the intention of the wedding, the cost to the guests and so on.
depends on what benefits you get from being married like taxes and death
shareIf you have the time or the money, it's not a waste. Marriage is stupid though. Why not just be together without all that hoopla?
Signed, million man.
I'm a huge fan of those small weddings with friends & family
But dislike the huge ones that are billed as "events".
They're just a waste of money but if you can afford 'em, go for it. It
Also, if you're not wealthy, that money is gonna be really beneficial to ya after the wedding
‘Event Weddings’ are a major inconvenience, I was a groomsman for two, one in the upstate New York wine country and the other out in New England.
Both were lovely events but the food was horrible (both couples were vegetarian and full blown vegan sorts…give me a fucking break!!!) and I lost two entire weekends from Friday night to Sunday evening.
I hate destination weddings.
‘Oh great bro, I’m glad you’re getting your pecker sucked and you’re eating some ass and kissing titties but what does any of that have to do with my weekend free time?’
Fuck off, I work.
#destinationweddingsareselfish
I knew a couple who once spent close to 100k on just the freaking wedding. And it's not today's 100k, I'm talking about when 100k was A LOT a lot
And they weren't even wealthy, just middle class. Imagine the shit load you could accomplish with that money after the wedding.
Why do so many people waste THAT much money on a single day/weekend? "The happiest day of his/her life" my ass!
Anyways, the marriage lasted for like about a year and a half.
Crazy. That would have been a substantial down payment on a fine house but as you stated, it hardly matters because they plowed right into a wall anyway. Too bad for them, divorces are awful.
shareI've heard of countless people who've really regretted those extravagant weddings. Cause after the ''honeymoon phase'' is over, that's when reality hits ya!
shareMy wife and I were lucky. Her mom was involved in catering and event planning, mama got us some good deals on the limo, flowers, DJ, etc.
We did a 120 guest party with really good food and open bar for $16k. That was almost 19 years ago so it would certainly be much more now but still, we got lucky👍
We wanted a down payment on a house so we didn’t go completely bananas on a party.
You were/are one lucky man. 16k for party of 100+ people is pretty darn sweet
shareIt is probably better than wasting it on a funeral.
shareI hate funerals too but I can’t be the only guy here that wants to see a Viking funeral👍
That’s the coolest🔥
Instead of a sword, shield and bow on a fiery longboat we send our buddy off with his cell phone, skateboard and golf putter on a used Craigslist canoe.
And then a huge drunken Keg Party right after, the way Odin would want.
I had a friend who had terminal cancer that had a wake before he died so we could all say goodbye.
shareJeez, that’s rough, sorry about your pal. It’s a unique idea for sure.
I bet everyone got well and truly loaded.
He was a great guy. When he knew that he had less than few months to live, he’d park his car wherever he liked saying, “who are they going to chase for the fines?”
shareTip of the cap to him, he had grace and good humor.
shareThe last time I had a beer with him, he parked outside the pub (illegally) and phoned me saying he’d forgotten his wallet and could I lend him some money and that he’d pay me back next month (knowing full well he’d be gone by then).
He rented a room from one of my friends, so I got him back by saying, ‘my mate tells me he’ll have a room to rent soon’. To which he shook his head and called me a wanker, lol.
I want a "Viking funeral" for myself!
The fictional kind, not the real kind. Real Viking bigwigs seemed to have been buried with a ship and some dead slaves, but I'd rather be put in a boat full of firewood and accelerant, and have it lit before I'm pushed out to sea. The Vikings should have been that fabulous!
Exactly this! The fiery longboat, the horns sounding from the hills, all the warriors drinking mead or whatever was available. Very cool.
shareI've discussed this crazy shit with a real-life friend, who insists she wants a "sky burial", which is being put out for the vultures, but I want the "Viking funeral", but I want a burning boat with a hell of a party on shore!
https://i.ytimg.com/vi/2WoRpuCwEz8/maxresdefault.jpg
Some day, we have sworn to find out whether any of this is legal.
Ah! That show was really good for the first several seasons. It lost something when you know who got bumped off.
shareSorry, what show? The caption on Bing said something about a Comic-Con.
The only shows where I've seen a "Viking funeral" are "Game of Thrones", where they lit the funeral boat with a burning arrow (way cool), and an episode of "Doctor Who" during the Matt Smith years.
The show was called ‘Vikings,’ it ran from 2013-2020 on History channel and it’s currently on Hulu and I’m pretty sure Amazon Prime.
It tells the semi-mythological saga of a farmer, seafarer and raider named Ragnar Lothbrook who had his eyes on being king and launched multiple attacks on the British Isles and elsewhere. He was supposedly a great fighter and sea captain and his cunning was unparalleled but he also had a nasty streak, he could be ruthless.
How much of this saga is true is anyone’s guess, the Vikings wrote in runes and probably threw in a few tale tales here and there.
Funerals really help family and friends with bereavement. But as far as weddings go, maybe nowadays I don't think family and friends don't feel that strongly about couples deciding to celebrate their relationships.
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