how could you possibly explain to her that posting sexy poses and getting more followers is not mentally healthy?
I mean, is there any REAL way to sell that to her without sounding like you are just "not getting it"? Everyone knows it is a very false and damaging dopamine rush being noticed, but how do you explain it is bad for you when all the other girls are doing it?
Hasn’t your mom already talked to you about this?
shareNot something I have to worry about right now. I’ll address it when the time is appropriate - I’d like to think that I have the sort of relationship with my daughter where we’ll be able to discuss things sensibly.
shareit's an "interesting" world now. I'm curious how you would get around the "Get more followers feels good, bolstering my self worth/esteem" stuff that exists as a major part of teen's life now.
a pic on a holiday is fine for family and friends, but when a bikini gets 500 more guy followers, they THINK they feel special.
in my side gig working with models, ive come across girls punching much higher than their age on instagram and I wonder where their parents are in all that.
I’m hoping that she won’t feel the need to receive affirmation that she isn’t worthless.
shareSince you're in FL now, check this out when you have a few minutes:
https://www.cbsnews.com/video/social-media-lawsuit-meta-tiktok-facebook-instagram-60-minutes-video-2022-12-11/?intcid=CNM-00-10abd1h#x
or it's on YouTube, with a warning.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ItAseX1x_9o
I’ll check it out in the hotel tonight.
share👍🏻 It's 13½ minutes long.
shareI’ll watch it whilst having a well deserved beer 🍺
shareIsn't every beer well deserved?😁
shareEspecially on vacation! 🍻
shareThe worst of the storm has moved through, the sun is shining bright, it's now above zero on a Friday afternoon before Christmas and I'm in a celebratory mood. I feel like getting really snockered tonight.🥴
shareThe sun has poked out for a while here and there today. No more falling snow - just the nasty wind blowing the snow sideways. Interesting to watch - from inside. We're still below zero, though. I'm glad I don't have to go anywhere. 🥂
shareMy mailman is running really late today. He's usually here around 9AM. Saw him trudging through the neighborhood yesterday, so heavily dressed, he looked like one of those scientists that works in Antarctica.🥶
shareNaturally 🍺
shareI witnessed some very irresponsible behavior by several young people (all girls, ages 12-13) just last weekend at my granddaughter's 13th birthday celebration.
She invited six of her friends to come over for pizza, a movie, cake & ice cream and just hanging out. At one point in afternoon, three or four of the girls were crowded around their smart phones. My daughter and I soon realized what they were doing. One of the girls was texting random people on one of the social media sites, probably FB. They were judging the recipient on their looks, and saying mean things to them.
Thankfully, my daughter piped up and said, "You do realize that what you're doing is bullying?" They all got rather sheepish looks on their faces. The girl who was doing most of the texting, paused and then quickly texted an apology to whomever it was that they were dissing.
I'm so glad my daughter spoke up when she did. Obviously, none of those girls is mature and responsible enough to own a phone, and/or their parents never had a serious talk with them about the dangers of social media. Texting random people they don't know?? That's frightening behavior, and they have no idea what kind of trouble that could bring.
luckily, all this only happens to SOMEONE ELSE, doesn't it? Not MY problem. (idiot modern world thinking now (and my version of sarcasm))
pretty cool your same aged daughter was the voice of reason and corrected their thinking.
great job on raising her!!!
more people should be in tune with what their kids ACTUALLY do, and not what they assume they do.
Your daughter had good parenting. :)
sharethat was a perfect video displaying this issue!! Thanks for posting that.
years back, I would be all over the "Where were the parents?" but these modern issues transcend that. what would ya do? NOT allow your child to have a cell phone? and grow up as an outcast, mocked by everybody else on the planet? that doesn't seem realistic.
its just a shame great technology is used like this, more for profit than helping.
i think the effect is hard to notice. SEEMS like there is not much visible impact.... like if you could eat sugar all day long and not get fat, but it melts your brain after a year or something
... yet enough impact for families to sue, and 60 MINUTES to do a full segment on it.
but I'm just being creepy :D
"in my side gig working with models, ive come across girls punching much higher than their age on instagram and I wonder where their parents are in all that."
LMAO
how is this funny?
shareYOU EVER WONDER WHY ALL YOU EXCHANGES END WITH YOU TYPING AN UNANSWERED PARAGRAPH...YOU ARE AN OBVIOUS FAKE AND TROLL AND NOBODY HAS MUCH INTEREST IN DEBATING ANYTHING WITH YOU...WAKE UP.
shareYet many others respond. You wake up. Your bipolar disorder is hard to track.
If a conversation did not interest you, maybe stay out of it. Has that ever occurred to you once?
MANY OTHERS?..LMAO...YOU ARE DELUSIONAL...YOU GET SNIDE RESPONSES FROM THE NORMIES AND THE OCCASIONAL "HEY I LOVE TITTIES TOO" HIGH FIVE FROM THE TROLLS...NOTHING MORE...ANY CONVERSATION ON THIS SITE INTERESTS ME...ESPECIALLY ONES STARTED AND RINGMASTERED BY COMPLETE ASSHOLES WITH BAD INTENTIONS...GET USED TO MY HALL MONITOR ASS.
shareDo you even like movies?
I just looked at your last 30 threads.. Sorry man, gotta put you on ignore. It's not just you, but I figure if I ignore the non-movie talkers, I'll eventually see more moviechat. I'm just here for some artistic talk. I don't know or care about instantgram
dude this is "GENERAL"
I post in movies all the time
YOU POST CREEPY GARBAGE UNDER THE GUISE OF MOVIE CHAT...MOSTLY YOU JUST TROLL WITH SALACIOUS POSTS AND TOPICS.
sharediscussing relationships is creepy? maybe because someone doesn't like to hear reality about them?
shareIT IS WHEN YOU HAVE NEVER HAD ONE AND HAVE NO GOOD INTENTIONS WITH THE POSTS.
sharewhy so much venom? are you conscious when you type?
area you actually saying that I have never had one relationship, or that my post is creepy to others that have never had one? I've had many. How would you even know?
Good intentions? Are you AWARE of the post you are in right now?
Doesn't get much more altruistic than this: I don't have any kids, I'm concerned for others kids, and with the adult level discussion here, it might open someone's eyes and save a life.
I'm such an awful person! :D :D :D
"I'm such an awful person! "
FIRST THING YOU HAVE SAID THAT I AGREE WITH.
What this site desperately needs is the ability to hide individual posts and entire boards from coming up in Trending/Latest Posts. It would make the site soooooooo much better.
The first board I would hide is The Karate Kid Part III. Then all the Star Wars boards other than the OGs. How very great a thing that would be!!!!
You insist on posting topics about “mental health” without having any apparent formal knowledge in the field. Why? “Everyone knows”? How did you reach this conclusion? Primary research? Secondary research? Take a wild fucking guess? Ask your Mommy?
It’s just sad, but it gets you the “dopamine rush of being noticed.”
what are you even talking about? are you new on the internet? tons of free information out there.
if im wrong, feel free to step up and prove it.
maybe you don't keep up on what social media is doing to people, that's not my problem.
you are allowed to ignore discussions that don't interest you, did you know that?
Or maybe it is a SJW thing where one must correct everyone else outside the safe space, to protect your fragile psyche?
very weird
STILLING waiting for proof I'm wrong....
naw, unbacked insulting is so much easier, yes? :)
You may find that you have made it onto his legendary Ignore list; everyone is on there (even me I think).
shareYou may find that you have made it onto his legendary Ignore list; everyone is on there (even me I think).
At one point he was very friendly towards me and paid me quite a few compliments, then one day I think I cracked a joke that he didn’t find funny and that was that.
shareIn my experience, the girls seeking that level of attention and validation have already been damaged, that's why they do it.
shareI don't have kids, so what I say matters not as much as a real parent, but I'm not sure if that is the case. This can easily happen to the best of kids these days, and is becoming the defacto norm for social measurement. ALA Black Mirror
this is a very new, unprecedented problem. very unlike anything in the past, there may be some general basic comparisons, but in the past, a girl was oogled in school or at the skating rink or football game... she'd hear a couple cat calls and out wordly be offended, and inward think to herself she's hot, boys like me.
Now, she posts a pic GLOBALLY, gets 1000 links with some pretty scary comments, and her dopamine goes, "Look how hot you are! All the boys love you. You are a 10!" When its the showing of skin is the 10, and her face is a 6 tops, conflating a false reality for her.
There are ton of studies out there (google them) proving the damage this sort of twisted praise is causing, from all walks of life.
DUDE...YOU DON'T SEEM TO HAVE ANY ACTUAL EXPERIENCE WITH OR KNOWEDGE OF FEMALES...PERHAPS YOU SHOULD NOT BE PLAYING BEANBAG PSYCHOLOGIST.😘
shareI agree with you and it goes hand in hand with what I was saying. I believe girls seek that attention because they aren't getting healthy attention from a father. Fathers teach their daughters how men should treat them. Fathers teach their sons how to treat others. Mothers play an equal role. I taught my daughters how men should treat them; my wife taught them what to do if they don't. That's why it's important for children to have both male and female parents, or at least role models, in their lives. I once wrote a paper on female strippers (who says college can't be fun) and every one I interviewed had a bad relationship with their father, or didn't have a father. Correlation is not causation but, in this case, it's reaffirming what is already known about relationships.
shareI have a few things to add to this topic.
- Yes you're right being hooked on social media and desperately wanting attention isn't good for your mental health. Unfortunately that's the way society is going. If your childs friends are own social media, your child will want to be as well. Outright banning them from using it will just make them bitter towards you and more socially isolated from their peers.
- I have a Freudian opinion that women trend towards exhibitionism and that men trend towards voyeurism. It's largely in womens nature to want to be popular and to receive attention. Good luck completely curbing human nature.
- You also have to worry about a boys internet usage. Likely more so than a girls. I'm a bit younger than some of the regulars on here and I grew up as a teen on the internet. The stuff I watched in my teens! Yes, pornography was a big interest but I also watched a lot of extreme gore (snuff) videos. A teenage girl trying to get likes and followers is cupcakes compared to what I and some other teenage boys did/are doing. Yes girls can be watching this stuff too however I think boys are more drawn to sex and violence so they're the bigger consumers of these sorts of content.
- As a parent you have to be hands on, know what they're doing and to talk to them about stuff. However it's a fine line. You can't be too controlling and restrictive.
excellent reply, all true.
its hard to determine what is good and healthy without also ostracizing or clipping freedoms.
another interesting video on this topic
How Instagram Changed Society Forever
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1exiUZncNnA
23 minutes
i have not watched the whole thing yet