Lately, most of the people in my life have been causing me a great deal of stress. I have had numerous headaches because of it and body pains too. The only one that I really love right now in my life is my cat; I will always love her and she will always be the love of my life. People meh. I can do without them.....
shareOr.....find some different people to hang out with.
shareMe too. Generally, I just don't like people. I always keep to myself but so many other people make things more stressful for me.
shareI know what are you talking about.
When I started going through life on my own(18 yo), I was pretty liked and respected. But, when I started earning great money(I worked all day long, in foreign country) than suddenly most people started looked me with evil looks. Both men and women. Even family members were sometimes awful. Friends suddenly started to wait me to pay drinks(?? some friends). After while, I started to be more lonely than usual. Well, after 10 years of literally killing myself working in Germany, I come home. I buy nice apartman, used Audi A4(in great state) and some other stuff. I lost almost all 'friends' due to success. 3 years past, I didn't work anything. Luckily, 5 years ago I started monthly safe in bank(life insurance), so for 2 years some money will waiting for me. Anyway, my point is: People are mostly same in all around world. They like success, but not successful people. And, I just don't like people like I'm used to when I was full of life and unexperience. Today I look world in different eyes. I only have few friends and I'm EXREMELY carefil. Family relationship are OK. Nothing fancy.
However, don't go into depression because of it. Find yourself something you enjoy and do it. Cheer up.
Adding to what you've said, the piece below I found in a comment section on cracked.com and it is really insightful:
*(1.30 minute read)
Short version:
"For men, well, males are all about posturing. If you see yourself as weak, ugly, and small (physically and/or proverbially), other men and women will see it.
Perception is reality, and in large part we have control over how we're perceived.
If you walk with your head up, work hard in whatever you do, are honest with yourself and others, take pride in yourself and your accomplishments, don't waste your time focused on what someone else has that you don't, acknowledge your faults while highlighting your strengths, then you WILL be successful in life.
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Long version:
The bottom line in every aspect of human interaction is that nobody likes a loser. The misconception is that "society" defines a loser by your hobbies and interests.
You can hang out at a comic book shop and go on at length whether TNG or DS9 was the better Star Trek, and still be seen as "cool."
It's all about controlling your own narrative, and if you walk around in sweat pants and a filthy tank top complaining about how you can't succeed in life because you're short/fat/ugly/nerdy/have bad acne, etc, then that's all anyone is going to see.
Losers are negative, complaining people full of self-loathing that lack the will to realize their aspirations, if they even aspire to anything at all.
Being 6'6" and handome gives you an advantage, sure, but so what? If you're 5'2" and resemble a Troll Doll, but choose to show others that those things don't define you, then you will know that any success you have in life will be based on merit alone, and that you earned every bit of it. It may be more difficult, bit it's worth more.
Positivity and self-acceptance shine through into how we carry ourselves. Believing in oneself and knowing your measure as a person, and knowing what value you have to offer in your capabilities will always get noticed.
Just my opinion, but ask yourself: will pointing at people who have advantages you don't, and calling out those advantages as unfair, make your life better?
Do you think tall men or slender women will lose their advantage if you yell long and loudly enough?
No, and all the while you only damage yourself; envying the people you secretly wish you were instead of focusing your energy on who you are and using what you have to make the best life you can for yourself."
Source:
https://www.cracked.com/article_26277_5-shockingly-unfair-ways-your-looks-affect-your-career.html
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I get this mentality because nearly everyone has at least once been frustrated/angry/etc. with another person.
People are probably the biggest sources of stress in life. The key is avoiding the toxic and welcoming the solace/peace/positivity more. The bad thing is that some of us are surrounded by toxic/stress/negativity/issues more so than others, which probably explains pretty well as to why some people end up with many problems/pain and others much less. I believe that the people we're around tend to rub off on us too much (i.e., you're around lots of negativity/toxic/dysfunction/fighting/family issues growing up and you'll have a much higher chance of having anxiety, depression, and other mental problems -- or just adopting the same mentality of your parents/family, which can be a really bad thing). I noticed myself that being around certain people influenced my mentality a bit and such, shaping my character/beliefs more like certain people. Now I realize I can't let myself be what I grew up around/the things other people thought/did.
It is just too easy to bask yourself in the worldview/mentality/etc. of those you grew up around, ultimately shaping you and limiting you to what you experienced in a sense. This is why I believe sometimes being more the opposite of your parents can be really good. Too many people just adopt everything/too many things they experienced when growing up & don't think independently much.
Just for example are the people that say stuff like, "My mom would've so I...." and etc. I get it, but it seems too many people want to base choices on what their parents would have done or something like that instead of what they actually think without any heavy influence/brainwashing. I get that parents can instill certain values, morals and etc. -- but you should still have power in your choice more than any past influences and the like.
In a sense you sometimes just get people who are very much like their parents/guardians/etc. in a new form, carrying on (possibly) horrible traits like abuse and certain horrid mentalities. Some people I know disregard bad things & don't just do/think like others around them did entirely, but it still seems to be a big issue in that so many don't really form their ideologies as much as others instill their ideologies/morals/etc. in to them, especially when we're small kids.
An example is parents "teaching" their kids how to act, think, behave, etc. Some is necessary to an extent (you don't want more feral-esque kids) -- other times it's more of them passing on what they were told as kids themselves and not considering anything different, which again goes back to my points addressed. To simplify, the problem is likely that too many just do/behave certain ways (instilled or not) & do not question themselves enough, which explains why so many in the present can be a toxic mess of past problems being carried on to new generations in ways. I don't hate/dislike people in general, but there are people I could dislike for various reasons, such as the ones I've mentioned here. It's complicated, but sometimes just parting your own way mentally is the best temporary escape at the least. By not letting yourself become sucked in to things around you, at least you have room to do otherwise.
I agree. Perfect statemant.
There is HUUGE difference with being/live with general as-holes,nasty people and being in depression.
What did we do?!
shareIf these pests are acquaintances or 'friends' get rid of them and find new ones
If they are family you are in a bit of a pickle (I know all about difficult family relations...there really is no way out here, unless something truly horrible occurred...blood is blood)
Try Yoga, stretching and long walks in the evening for the body pains
A light workout can really correct things
Best of luck:)