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You can't accidentally leave kids in a hot car for eight hours.

posted 5 years ago by [deleted]
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So, there were three more deaths in the past week involving babies being "accidentally" left in hot cars for hours. And all the pop psychologists are coming out of the woodwork to try to make it seem as if it's a totally normal thing that could happen to any caring parent.

I'm sorry, but this is complete and total bullshit. If you took the time to dress, carry and buckle in your baby, how do you get in your car, slam the door, and think, "Okay, time to go to work"? Especially if you're actually leaving the house much earlier than you normally would on a workday so you'd have time to drop them off?

[–] Stratego (29286) 5 years ago

I always wonder how often people forget about their kids being in the car when it isn't hot.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

I have never, ever heard of anyone leaving kids in the dead of winter or fall or even a moderately hot day (60 degrees). It's always the absolutely hottest day of the year.

I am also curious to know the statistics in countries that are hot all year round and experience much hotter temperatures than we do.

[–] Stratego (29286) 5 years ago

Yes, I was also wondering the same thing about hotter countries.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

i don't find that hard to believe at all. people can get distracted & forget the most essential things. we can miss details that are right in front of our eyes. humans are prone to accidents & awful mental slips, & until robots rise up and take over, sometimes horrible accidents will happen.

i think it's very, very easy to believe that someone can simply forget about a baby in a car for hours, particularly if that person is busy & distracted & perhaps already prone to distracted behavior.

this is one of the areas where i think understanding & sympathy ought to be applied. there certainly may have been situations where people are intentionally negligent, & those people ought to be judged appropriately, though i don't know how you could discern between an honest mistake & a malicious act.

anyone who has a child die because they forgot about them already has the worst event on their conscience. i wouldn't want to have to deal with that level of regret.

[–] kspkap (13056) 5 years ago

“people can get distracted & forget the most essential things.“ Hogwash! You don’t forget your kid!!

I along with most responsible people *do* find it hard to believe! There’s absolutely *no* excuse and no sympathy for those who have let their children fry in a closed car! Parenting entails there are no other thoughts/distractions before the child...the child is upper most in their minds. There’s absolutely no way on earth I would forget a baby or older in the car. As I wrote prior, parenting involves being involved. People who have let this occur damn sure don’t know how to parent. I’ve never forgot my little yorkies in their kennels let alone a baby! No excuse what so ever! Distraction my foot!!

[–] BigWorm (683) 5 years ago

Explain postpartum depression taking the content of you post into account.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

Plus, I don't understand how a parent spends the better part of the morning getting the child ready to be taken out, carries it, takes it to the car and then instantly forgets to drive to the day care? It doesn't make sense. How could you forget in between the time you strapped the kid in and then got into the front seat to drive? So, people are telling me people can carry a child, open the back door, strap the kid in, go to the driver's seat, turn on the ignition and then right then and there think, "Okay, time to drive to work?"

Nonsense!

[–] kspkap (13056) 5 years ago

Because they don’t know how to parent. The child is the last thing on his/her mind when it should be the opposite. It’s just a “thing” of many things they have to deal with. There was a case in Orlando where the parents rented a video, drove home, went inside to watch the video while completely forgetting the baby in the back seat! The baby lived, but is brain damaged. How in the hell do you not think of your child within a timeframe of an hour or two? I have a she-devil 4 pound yorkie who when too quiet or not pestering me makes me wonder what she’s into! I’ll lay you odds they wouldn’t forget the ice cream or pizza in the back seat!

[–] ShogunofYonkers (72195) 5 years ago

Jeez...grim and horrible
Who are these people?!?

[–] slimone (7996) 5 years ago

People should never, ever leave young children/babies alone in a car. Isn't it illegal?

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

It is illegal. That's why parents who do it are pretending that they "forgot" their kids by accident and are victims of a cruel mistake.

[–] kspkap (13056) 5 years ago

I couldn’t have said it better! Agree wholeheartedly! 👏🏻

[–] Knish (1721) 5 years ago

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[–] kspkap (13056) 5 years ago

You are or may have come close to flaming the OP. If you don’t have anything worthwhile to comment on a subject maybe you should zip it!🤐 You added zilch!

[–] Knish (1721) 5 years ago

Who cares about flaming the op, she's judging about people she knows nothing about. It's disgusting. And someone should say something.

[–] kspkap (13056) 5 years ago

She doesn’t have to know anything about the careless people who leave their baby/babies to fry in a vehicle. She has every right to judge those who appear to not to give a damn about being a responsible parent...they don’t know how to parent. It’s a *thing* among the many things in their lives. These are cases which warrant the phrase “Ya know....ya just can’t fix stupid!”

[–] Knish (1721) 5 years ago

You are just as ignorant as she is.

It's so easy to judge someone's actions when you know nothing about it. Thankfully there are more intelligent and empathetic people in the world.

[–] kspkap (13056) 5 years ago

And your ignorance is quite apparent. When you are unable to engage in civil discourse about a subject, a tragic one as this, you Knish, begin hurling ad hominem attacks. This is a pitiful frame of mind to have when you care more for the irresponsible *parent*?,...than you do for the child who died a horrific death. You are pathetic. Now where is that Ignore button? Found it!

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

Thank you, Movie Chat, for the ignore button.

[–] R_Kane (15828) 5 years ago

You are a woman after my own heart. The Ignore button preserves my sanity, that which is left of it ;D

EDIT The poster to whom atomicgirl was replying, Knish, wrote something to the effect that “You are questioning clinical psychology experts when you probably don’t know anything in the field. The more an expert knows, the more aware he is of how little he knows. Why don’t you shut up and go read a book?” Only he didn’t write it that well. Anybody who posts, takes heat from other posters, then either deletes or completely alters his/her post has a limp noodle for a backbone and I think deserves scorn and opprobrium.

[–] BigWorm (683) 5 years ago

The problem is that without context its kinda hard to understand what happened. New mothers often suffer from a range of issues that from the outside looking in makes no sense. After giving birth there can be a very sharp drop in hormones and other chemicals that help us to function.

You cant just judge people without being in their shoes.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

One of the babies that was left behind was left behind by a day care worker from a facility that's had a history of complaints.

The other two babies were a set of twins left behind by their father.

[–] BigWorm (683) 5 years ago

I heard a story this past week of a woman who killed her two young daughters because they were getting in the way of her love life. So, I know there’s pure evil in the world. But, I also know that people make mistakes for a wide variety of reasons. Sometimes it’s a tragic mistake, other times it’s that the person is just a self centred arsehole. I just think it’s important to have all the information.

[–] BillHicksFan (10133) 5 years ago

I try to be the most understanding person, but this is probably a case of "Ah, nothing will happen", and something happens.