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Canceled Trip - More glitches


Just returned the rental car. It's too crazy out there, with too many unknown and dangerous factors to take this long a trip, in the middle of a serious national disaster.

Relieved to have made the decision. Also, my dear friend isn't far away from Tampa, where Irma's now heading, much to everyone's surprise. This way I'll be able to stay home and easily follow along with what's happening.

Rescheduled for Monday the 18th. Going to view this as an elaborate dry run.

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Today, again thanks to Diggory's encouragement (we knew one another for a few years from an IMDb board), I made it a short and relatively easy day. Checked into the same motel I stopped in on the way east, in Santa Rosa, NM. I liked it here, and it's so nice for *something* to be familiar. Even Sweet Girl is more at ease, because she recognises it.

It's actually still daylight out! This is the first time I've arrived anywhere early enough so it was. What a luxury, and the reality was I was getting way too tired and sleepy to go on any father. This was enough of a push.

The clouds are incredibly beautiful here, and the blue skies. There's a place very nearby another traveller told me about, called The Blue Hole. Sounds intriguing. I wanted to visit it on the way out, but didn't have time. But this time, by god, I'M GOING TO SEE IT!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blue_Hole_(New_Mexico)

In fact, I've decided I'm going to stay two nights here, and scr3w the extra costs of the motels and the car rental. I'll just have to work it out somehow. I need the rest, my dog needs the rest. And we need to have a little *fun* for a change.

On the drive today I was thinking that my friend's wife was going to blow up like that sooner or later; it was inevitable, as a result of whatever it is that's wrong with her. Better to happen now, before I move across the entire country, feeling that one of the main draws was that my friend who was like a family member (note past tense) lived there.

He called me today while I was on the road. Was surprised to see his name pop up on the car screen. I answered, but get this, he didn't speak! I then disconnected the call. W.T.F. Who behaves this way? Whose spouse insists the other behaves this way? He probably wanted to assure himself I wasn't dead or in a hospital, yet still abide by Psycho B!tch's rules. I'm not sure if I'd rather he hadn't called at all or not, but if there's a next time, I'm not answering.

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Glad to hear you're going to try to have some fun.

New Mexico is a beautiful place. Enjoy it. You could drive down to Roswell and see all the aliens.

It also sounds like your starting to make some decisions regarding your friend.
I'm glad to hear it. You certainly don't need to get dragged into whatever it is that's going on over there.
More dragged than what you already did I mean.

The drive might actually help you think more than sitting at home. At least on the road your
mind is occupied with other things.

Try to relax and enjoy yourself.

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It is a beautiful state. The rock formations are incredible. Ha, on the way out had thought of going to either the Grand Canyon or Roswell on the way home, if I had the time and energy. Grand Canyon would win out, but it would be fun to see all of the kitsch in Roswell.

I am starting to make some decisions about my friend. He called AGAIN, 5 hours later. Saw it was he, and nope, not answering, thanks. Left a VM pretending he'd called one of his sons by mistake, and to disregard. Yeah, sorry, you don't call someone twice in one day by mistake when you've never done it before.

I had no clue there were any problems in their marriage. He'd told me plenty about the problems in his first marriage, so since he hadn't said a single negative word about this wife, and in fact seemed to be very happy with her, I had no reason to think otherwise. He'd told me she was on some kind of antidepressants, but so are plenty of people, so that wasn't a clue.

Where I keep getting stuck is how wrong, how shocking and bizarre their treatment of me was -- even worse, them both knew what hell I've been through over the past 4 years, which worsened beginning last December. My friend had been very supportive, especially over the past 9 months. Even his wife was, or pretended to be, empathetic for the first few days.

I get very angry about this. A few nights ago I almost wrote him an email explaining exactly the realities of their actions had caused me. Over NOTHING. I'm glad I didn't do it because he already had the info to figure it out on his own, and not writing seems like a better course of action.

I want to be able to genuinely move past this. I don't like getting stuck. Maybe it's just too soon to ask that of myself. Probably so.

Anyway, today The Blue Hole, I hope. The pup isn't feeling so hot today. At worst, we'll stay here and rest today and tonight.

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I am in a similar situation,but it's about my family,not friends....
Stay safe,Cat😉

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I'm so sorry, Croft. I'm in the same situation with my one remaining family member too, so I know how that feels too. It's bad with close friends, but worse with actual family. You stay safe as well, and may this -- somehow -- be resolved for you.

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It's hard because they are...menthaly ill.

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Oh. That is hard, because there's not a thing you can do about it. Well, nothing that could be done even if they were mentally healthy, but you'd have a better chance of reasoning with them. Not that that's worked for me with my family member.

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With them...i don't think so,Cat...they think that they are special...it's complicated...

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Hi Cat!
I have read some of the posts on this misadventure of yours. I just want you to know how sorry I am to have read of this sad situation. A close friendship over many years is one to be cherished. For yours to end in this way is a crying shame. I really am sorry that things turned out this way.
All that I can say is that some people change over the years. Circumstances can change them. As you know now, this really has nothing to do with you. Unfortunately, you were caught in some cross fire.
All that you can do is to chalk this up to an experience and move on. You did nothing wrong. You know that already though.
I hope that the rest of your trip home is a good one. Stay safe, enjoy it, and try not to let this get you down.
I don't even know you, but I do want you to know that I think you are one special person to have taken this trip, and I believe, to have come away from it a wiser and even stronger person.
In my book? You are the best!

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Hi MissMargo :)

Thank you. It's been 5 days, and I'm still blown away this actually happened. At first it seemed like a nightmare, not real. Still does feel that way at times. This has revealed to me that he's a much weaker person than I'd ever thought. I thought he had more strength of character, but now see his extreme dislike of conflict overrides his character, and he's married yet another woman with serious issues. That's not merely bad luck or by chance.

Yeah, I got caught in the crossfire, and he should have warned me. If I did anything "wrong" (by eventually interrupting her, because otherwise I could barely speak), it was so negligible, it's hardly worth considering. I somehow managed to not blow up at her for those 4 days of her interrupting me ;)

It is still getting me down, but I'm trying to put my focus elsewhere, as much as I can. I'm so happy I decided to stay here an extra day! How wonderful to wake up and not have to rush to pack everything up again and get back on the road before checkout.

Thank you. I very much appreciate your reminding me it was a big thing to take on this trip, and despite what happened, am on the road to becoming a wiser and stronger person. I think you're the best too :)

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Hi Cat,
Like MissMargo, I've been following your posts of your trip. So sorry to hear how things turned out with your friend. As difficult as this situation was to bear, I can't imagine how you'd feel if you'd moved there and then this happened. And I can't begin to imagine what is going on with your friend and his wife. Crazy, just crazy.

I think you made a wise decision to spend an extra day in Santa Rosa. I once made a solo trip from Phoenix to Indianapolis, and then on to Minneapolis before heading back to Phoenix. I think the longer the trip went on, the less stamina I had for a long day of driving. Although I made it back safely, I look back now and realize I shouldn't have pushed myself so hard. By the last day it was an endurance test to stay alert and focused.

Enjoy your extra time in NM and have a safe trip home.

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Hi GlenEllyn,

Thank you, too. God yes, this was bad enough, but it would have been so much worse had this happened after I'd moved all the way out there. What happened is absolutely nuts. Difficult to wrap one's head around it, because it's so far removed from within the range of rational behaviour.

Wow, your solo trip was as long as mine! Yes, that's exactly what's happening with me: the longer this is going on, the less stamina I have. Glad you made it home safely despite it all, but lesson learned the hard way to not push yourself like that again. I'm learning the same lesson.

Even if my dog isn't able up to it, and I can't see The Blue Hole, I'll never regret staying an extra day here.

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wht Cat? Why haven't I seen this before? How do I find out where you or anyone have posted here - I would have liked to have known you were posting about this sooner. Why didn't you tell me you had a post about what you were doing. You know I've been concerned. I just happened to see this when I went to check HACF.

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Hey Cin. You can click on any member's name and find their posting history. If you know their *exact* name, you can find them by typing in moviechat.org/user/[fill in exact name here].

Eh, I didn't think to post all this on the HACF board. It's been going on, what with all the planning, then aborted trip due to Irma, then more planning and glitches, for a while now. Close to a month.

Haven't yet been back to the HACF board since I last posted. Finally got a chance to see the latest episode last night, and today will have the time to respond. I appreciate your concern [heart]

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Dazed, I went to bed at 9:30 last night, which is unheard of for me, LOL! So yes, I did get a good night's sleep and am looking forward to another one here tonight, before having to hit the road again. I have about 24 whole hours ahead of me before then! Feels like an unbelievable luxury.

I don't doubt that he's feeling very guilty, as he should. Any reasonable person would be. The only purpose guilt serves is to let one know they've taken a wrong action and to do whatever's possible to amend it. Otherwise it serves no purpose. But, I don't see him doing that. Right, as long as he's in such a bad situation, there will be no making amends, and no repair is possible at all. Even still, I don't know if any full repair is possible. It does hurt, a lot. But somehow I have to figure out how to get past this. I REFUSE to allow it to eat me up.

Thanks, Dazed. You take care too. XO

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I know! Who the EFF does this kind of cr@p? ALL of this is unbelievable.

Oh boy, I'm so sorry your husband's son, and your stepson, is like this too, and that his weakness resulted in cutting off all contact with his dad, without even any explanation. It IS very hurtful. Sometimes there is conflict in life and while no one enjoys it (except those individuals who actually seek it out and enjoy it in some perverse way, probably his mom is like that), you have to learn how to deal with it and make good decisions. Don't blame you for not being sure if you could forgive him for this.

Yes, I'll wait until I get home and the dust settles some before making any decisions. As you can imagine, I don't exactly have great feelings about the place now.

But my biggest concern and worry at the moment is my girl. She's really not doing well, and I'm very worried about her. I thought a restful night and part of yesterday, not having to travel, would help her feel better, but she's not even wagging her tail a little bit when I talk to her, and that's unusual. Her breathing is more rapid than normal too, although she's always had more rapid respiration than most dogs.

If you pray or meditate or anything like that, I'd appreciate you, and anyone else reading this, sending her positive, healing thoughts.

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I don't think it's temperature change. I suppose it's possible her being in so much air con there and back could have something to do with it.

Ran a search on vets here and could only come up with one. I've called and left a message, awaiting her calling me back. Luckily she is mobile. I just hope she calls me back, SOON, and can come see her.

Thank you VERY much for sending good thoughts out into the universe for her!

I think 3 more days of travel. So worried, my thoughts are very scattered. Yeah, my so-called friend does have a lot to answer for. All I want is for my dog to be okay. Screw everything else.

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So far, she hasn't called back. I called her a 2nd time and again expressed my concern about my pup.

This is more than stress and confusion. She had a lot more reason to feel stress and confusion on the way out east. Yesterday I could tell she recognized this motel and was relieved to be here. She seemed a bit better, although I do recall her feeling on the warm side (her head) either yesterday or the day before. Not long ago I noticed the ends of her ears felt rather cold.

… Vet has called! But, she's out of town and won't be back until tonight and doesn't know how late. She recommended I take her to the next nearest vet/clinic, which is 1.5 hours away, for them to do bloodwork and keep her overnight. Explained she has the worst case of fear of abandonment I've encountered and no way could she be kept over night, plus am concerned about driving her 1.5 hours away.

Told her I realised she was flying blind here, but did she think it might be better to just stay put and let her rest? She said she couldn't really say without seeing her so it had to be my call.

Luckily I did think ahead and brought aspirin, a sedative/pain reliever, and a (mostly) natural calming treat-like thing, which I thought I might have to give her on the trip out. I'd ordered them for this trip and tried her out with them twice before we left. Just gave her 1/3rd the dose, just to be on the safe side, make her a little sleepy and relaxed so she'll rest better.

I will try your breathing technique and visualization! ANYthing that might help, I'll do. Thank you so much.

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Thank god the vet got back earlier than expected, called and arrived about 15 minutes later. I feel MUCH better now that she's been seen by the vet!

She said yes, her respiration is elevated, but she's not in respiratory distress. Heart and lungs sound good, which was a huge relief because I'd thought between the way she was acting and respiration, it might be her heart. Or a problem with her lungs. Sometimes the two go together.

She does have a temperature. Not high, but enough for the vet to be somewhat concerned. She thinks most likely Sweet Girl picked up a bug either from sniffing around or eating something she shouldn't have. Twice I did catch her eating who knows what (she does this) before I could stop her. She left a prescription for an antibiotic I can fill if she's not better in the morning.

I feel a WHOLE LOT better now, and even managed to eat something.

Oh boy, can't WAIT until this time next week, when we're both home, safe and sound.

XO

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I'm relieved to hear this, Cat! I hope you get some rest now. Safe travels!

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Thanks, GlenEllyn! I don't feel like we're out of the woods yet, but I'm certainly resting a lot easier than I was, that's for sure. I may just go ahead and get the antibiotics tomorrow. Can't hurt and might help. "Might help" is good enough for me to do it.

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That's great - I'm stilled awed about the mobile Vet. It's not that we don't have them here but very impressed. So happy to hear she's OK. Maybe you can relax now.

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What's amazing about this is she's the only vet in this area, and she's mobile! If I hadn't stopped here and decided to stay an extra day, who knows what would have happened. She came after hours, after no doubt a long day, only charged $35 and took my check (didn't even want my DL#) because she's not set up to take CCs. I'm very grateful to her.

We have a couple of mobile vets where I live too, but I didn't like either of them nearly as well as this one.

Trying my best to relax. Been too much adrenalin for too many days.

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Great news, Cat. So glad to hear Sweet Girl is going to be fine.
Have a safe journey home now.

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Thanks, Margo. I hope she will be. She's barely eating. Has eaten little on this whole trip but I wasn't worried for the first week.

Tonight I gave her part of my hamburger, which she ate somewhat enthusiastically. Refuses to eat her usual chicken which normally she loves, but I managed to get half of a chicken salad sandwich into her, feeding her by hand. So I'm glad she's got some food in her, and it's not surprising she's less than enthusiastic about food if she's still feeling off.

Wish we were only a day away from home, but we're not so will have to deal with it and take things slowly.

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Cat,
I’ve been following your travels and your concern over Sweet Girl. I’m so happy she’s doing better. She will rally when you get home. I have a feeling the trip was a bit much for her, especially with your upset. Our beloved adopted pals pick up our moods and manners. Rest easy and Godspeed!

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Thanks, Ksp. I too think she'll rally once we get home, and agree the trip was a bit too much for her. Oddly enough, and in this instance I'm glad, she's the first cat or dog I've ever had that doesn't react to my moods. Of course it's possible she is. Anything's possible.

Godspeed, from your lips to god's ear!

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Exactly my thinking: better to have and not need them than the other way around :)

Yes, we're going to be heading out, closer to home (!) this morning. I'm just going to drive as far as it feels right. Probably only a couple of hours or couple hundred miles for today.

A friend and neighbor where I live, who loves dogs as much as I do, called me this morning. She's a very positive person, gave some great advice, and I feel much better. Sweet Girl is a perkier and happier this morning. Still not her old self, but that's to be expected for the moment.

Thanks, Dazed! Expecting to have a much better, more relaxing, day today :)

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Today we got as far as just west of Gallup, NM! Which is only something like 10 miles east of AZ. After AZ, it's home state, sweet home state, and then HOME.

I could tell Boo wasn't happy about being on the road again, but she did okay. I'm sick of being on the road too, but at least I'm not feeling punk.

Looks like I'm not going to be able to reasonably make it home until Friday. I've tried all kinds of mileage, gradually bumping it up, until I got to where I knew there was no way we'd be able to do 4, let alone 5, hours a day.

Will have to call car rental agency again and tell them I'll be even longer getting back.

BUT, we *did* get to see The Blue Hole, by golly! Took some photos of it, and of SG, and I couldn't resist dipping my feet into the water. It was a very cool place, and I'm glad we had a little bit of fun.

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Had to find and take my girl to vet this morning. she's clearly not going well, and it's not just a bug.

blood panel run. she's anemic. vet not sure if it's spleen or some autoimmune thing. Prescribed Prednasone, have given her one ASAP.

Vet said traveling won't make a difference, except for stress level. Keep her activity as low as possible (not a problem, as she already doesn't want to move very much). Rushing to get out of motel before checkout. They extended me an extra hour, thank god.

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I'm so sorry Cat.

Not at all what you needed.
Have you noticed any blood in her pee ?

This could be many things including a parasite or just low in iron.
I'm sure when you get home they will want to run a fecal exam to rule that out.

Try to stay strong.

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No blood in her urine that I could see. It did look a bit darker/more concentrated than usual, but at least I know her kidneys are okay.

I don't like giving Prednisone, and I'm sure you know why. But, if it'll help her, sometimes you've got to do what you've got to do.

Doing all I can to stay strong. I have to, for her.

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I had no idea anemia caused a decrease in appetite. Vet said drug should take a week, but of course am hoping for faster action than that! I had to put my cat on it once, and could see a reaction after only 1 or 2 days. Different problem, but part of it involved inflammation, so I'd think it'd kick in as quickly for that.

Your wish has been granted. I drove 740 miles today* and we are HOME! Once I got into Arizona, thanks to the fancy gauge in car, I could see the elevation was high, and knew it was only going to get higher once I hit Flagstaff. That meant less oxygen for her to breathe. What I didn't know is that the whole #%@! state is like that! I thought we'd be okay once past Flagstaff, but not. I drove as fast as I possibly could through the entire state.

Once out of it, thought I'd do my best to make it as close to home as I could, not thinking I'd ever be able to make it all the way. If the vet hadn't said the traveling wasn't doing her particular harm, except for the stress involved (but it did also mean little exertion and more rest), I'd have never attempted this. It was worth it though. It can only do her good to be back home.

XO

*Just checked and it was actually 880 miles.

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It really is amazing what we're capable of when the need is there. Honestly, my goal was to get her the hell out of Flagstaff and then Arizona when I realised the entire state was at such high altitude. Thought I'd have to spend one night somewhere on the way back because I was afraid I'd get so sleepy it'd be a danger. Ha. Adrenalin does wonders for that.

I'm beyond thrilled to be home again. Have NEVER been so happy to be home! I started telling her "we're almost HOME" about 10 miles away. I'm pretty sure she knows the word. She didn't react, but once I opened the car door and she could smell where we were, and then get out and verify, I know she was so very happy to be home again! It was SO worth it driving all those miles to get her home.

You'd better believe I'm celebrating! Not much sleep last night, but I don't care. Am taking the day to decompress and give her a whole lotta love; scr3w cleaning all her fur out of the car and returning it, and paying for an extra day.

No further calls from you-know-who, but ironically yesterday morning at the vet's, *I* accidentally dialed his number because I was so anxiety-ridden. Ha. Saw it said it was forwarded -- something I've never seen before, don't know what it means, and for now anyway it's at the bottom of my priority list of things to be concerned about.

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WELCOME HOME!
This has been quite a journey for us as well! LOL!
I hope your little girl recovers from all of this travel. You both need a good rest. So glad to know you are home. After what you have been though, I would have spilled out of the car, dropped to my knees and kissed the driveway!
I just hope that your so called friend can somehow understand what he and his nut job wife put you through.
You may want a nice warm climate to live in, but consider Wisconsin. The sights are magnificent. You have four seasons... You do have the tornadoes, but no hurricanes. The winters are cold and snowy, but the people here really are great. Cost of living is great too!
Just a suggestion.

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Happy dance for you that you made it safely home! Hope Boo gets back to normal soon!

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Thank you so much, GlenEllyn!

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Glad to hear you made it home ok. Now the question is: will you ever leave the house again??

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Ha ha. The way I feel right now, the answer is NO. Is there such a thing as bad travel-induced agoraphobia?

BTW, several nights ago I found this In 'n Out Burger themed blog post I thought you'd enjoy:

https://www.foodbeast.com/news/in-n-out-full-menu-hack/

A few of them are lame: ask for a wedge of lemon, squeeze over fries and add pepper to make lemon pepper fries? Eh. But a few of them are good and you might not know about.

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Wow! 880 miles? How long did you drive? There is no way I could drive that many miles on a leg of a trip! Supercharged woman who’s goal was to get her baby, Sweet Girl home...and you did! My 600 mile biannual trip to FL takes me 8 to 9 hours and I’m exhausted!

BTW, did the vet check her for the Parvovirus? The following are the symptoms of Parvovirus:

Signs and symptoms of canine parvovirus include the following:
Bloody diarrhea (often severe)
Fever.
Lethargy (lack of energy)
Loss of appetite.
Malaise (discomfort associated with illness)
Rapid weight loss.
Vomiting.

I do pray she doesn’t have the virus.

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11+ hours. Turned out to be a good thing because even at 9:30 PM, driving through LA was congested! I can only imagine what it'd have been like had I driven through there anywhere from say 3:00-7:00. I didn't think I could do this. I didn't start out attempting to do it. But you're so right, a supercharged person CAN do it, if it's necessary.

Do you take your 600-mile journey in one go? Even with it being a familiar route to you, which helps some, now that I'm an experienced road warrior, I know that even 300 miles a day is a push.

I don't think she checked her for parvo, but she only had diarrhea once, on the way out, which is to be expected, and no blood. Vomited once. Her weight loss is normal, given her being off her food whilst traveling. Plus, I'm certain she was given a parvo shot when she was young. Her previous people appeared to have been very responsible, and the rescue would have screened her for that too. So, that's something for me to be thankful for and not have to worry about.

Her main symptom is respiratory, corresponding lack of energy, and low red blood cell count. She did this morning eat some more of the rotisserie chicken I bought her, and some cottage cheese! She was somewhat enthused, which is always a good sign. Took her for a potty walk and while she's obviously still having some problems getting enough oxygen, her spirits were pretty good. In fact she wanted to walk farther than I wanted her to. No doubt because she's so happy to be home and on familiar ground again!

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Just to be safe ask your vet. It’s my understanding the Parvovirus vaccine is a preventative, which means a dog can still get it. Keep in mind I am super cautious due to me being from Florida where all kinds of nasties live in the soil. Here is some info:

http://dogparvosymptoms.net/can-my-dog-get-parvo-if-vaccinated/

http://dogcare.dailypuppy.com/can-dog-parvo-even-vaccinated-disease-6204.html

As for my 600 mile one way journey, I make it in one day. After topping off the tank prior to leaving I gas up twice and rest stop 2-3 times. As you know I don’t eat when I travel be it by truck or plane. I leave no later than 7:30 AM. Depending on the time of year driving from MS to Central Florida I lose an hour of daylight. I don’t like driving thru Orlando at night. One time I did a turn around (it felt like it). I drove from Florida to here, MS, on a Thursday then went back on Sunday. I was definitely feeling it for a couple of days. Back many moons ago my dad would drive straight thru from Ohio to CA. All my relatives did. To top it off there were no interstates, but of course traffic was lighter. Dad would take a respite where picnic tables were available. He would stretch out on one for a short nap.

After that 880 mile 11 hour trek, did you have to pry your hands off the steering wheel?🤗🤗

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Thanks, Ksp. I appreciate your concern and doing the research on it. The symptoms aren't a match, however. Thankfully!

I can understand your being super cautious due to your having lived in FL and the south in general, and I appreciate that.

God, you drive 600 miles in one day?! Even with 2-3 stops to rest, that's one HECK of a long drive, familiar or not. Now that I've done it myself, I know exactly what it means, which I had no way of knowing before this. I hated driving at night, period, but on this last long leg, I felt I had to push for her sake, and feeling I wasn't endangering either of us or anyone else. If I'd thought that, I'd have stopped somewhere for the night and carried on today. But I'm SO GLAD I could make it!

I gained 2 hours going back, but was shocked to see how dark it'd gotten at 6:30 PM. When I left it was still somewhat light at 8:00 PM.

When I was on the road I thought about what it must have been like travelling for people like your father and your relatives. No interstates, granted less traffic, but also signs alerting travellers to GAS AND LODGINGS AT THIS OFFRAMP! Even with picnic tables and rest areas to pull off on, it's hard to imagine what it would be like to travel that kind of distance without having a good idea of where the next gas station would be.

One of the best pieces of advice you gave me, for which I'm VERY thankful, was to fill up the tank at the halfway mark. I did that, and on the way back there were a few very long stretches where there was absolutely nothing. It was desolate, empty, and ugly. No gas stations, no anything.

I had enough on my plate without worrying about running out of gas, so am very thankful I followed your good advice!

Ha, I did practically have to pry my hands off the steering wheel, and was very happy to do so. I don't plan to touch a steering wheel for the next 24 hours.

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@Cat

“on the way back there were a few very long stretches where there was absolutely nothing. It was desolate, empty, and ugly. No gas stations, no anything.”

You mean there are still places like that in our interstate country? Well, I’m glad I gave you that bit of wisdom. I learned the hard way. Back in the late ‘70’s I proceeded on my own to drive from Dallas to below Orlando. I had a little Honda Civic stick shift. Really good gas mileage. I-10 wasn’t completed at that time so I was detoured in several areas. I filled up somewhere along the line at one of the little towns. Finally I was on the competed part of I-10 tootling on down the road. I had been getting gas when I was at the 1/4 tank mark. Finally the Florida pan handle which never seems to end. I can’t remember where I was when I noticed the 1/2 tank mark and saying to myself “I’ll have to stop before too much further.” and continued on my journey. I was driving along when all of a sudden I was at the 1/4 tank mark and began looking for gas. Nope, can’t see one! Back then there weren’t many exits. No exits, no gas! It was getting dark on that desolate piece of road. I began to get panicky. By the time I reached I-75 South I was praying and praying in earnest! I was on Empty driving on a wing and a prayer when I pulled into a motel next to a gas station. I checked in, went to the room and went to pieces. The next morning the fumes left (being facetious) in the little Honda got me to the gas station. I was back on the road again. From that time forward I fill up on the 1/2 tank mark. I’ve talked to women who travel by themselves and they don’t stop for gas until they’re below a 1/4 tank! Not me! 1/2 tank it is!

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Whoa! Oh, man, am I glad to hear this! I checked yesterday when you posted about being in Gallup. Google Maps said 11 hours to the mighty Pacific ocean. (Okay, well, I didn't put "mighty" in the search bar.) I was going to post and urge you to drive straight through, but then thought that it's best to let everything up to the traveler in all cases.

I AM SO GLAD YOU ARE H-O-M-E-!-!-! I am SOOO glad. I hope you got an excellent night's sleep and that your little buddy is out catching the waves on the mighty Pacific ocean, along with all those other wild-and-crazy California girls...

So: When do we hear which state makes California fall to second place in the cray-cray stereotype department? :)

...And I have a strange feeling it ain't gonna be South Carolina.

One more time. I. AM. SO. GLAD. YOU. ARE. HOME. SWEET. HOME.

Godspeed to you both.

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Happy to hear from you, and that you found the update :)

Google Maps was right, for a change. It was about 11 hours of driving. I never thought I'd be able to make it all the way through, not without endangering both of us and other drivers.

Thank you!! I too am SO GLAD to be home! Have never in my life been so glad to be home :)! When I woke up this morning, finally home, it felt like the whole trip had been a nightmare I was just waking up from. Still have a lot to process, but NOT today.

One thing I noticed, in response to your query, is the farther north and west I went, the less friendly and nice people were. Granted, many were also travelling and from out of state, but I took note of the license plates of those who were travelling and am now curious why, in general, people in the south are so nice! Noticeably so.

Makes me wonder if I really do belong in NC, despite this horrible experience. Which also had its bright spots.

For instance, in the awful, scary motel I wrote you about, I was directed to a grocery store to get some food for my girl. It was a small grocery store, and the two people ahead of me wrote checks (which is now unusual to me). So I asked the clerk if I could write an out of state check. The guy ahead of me said to put the chicken on his bill and he'd pay for it! This was not a good area -- impoverished -- and yet this perfect stranger offered to pay for my chicken! I declined, thanking him, because I was nearly out of cash and needed to write a check for over the amount, and told him so. But WOW, what a lovely, lovely gesture to a stranger!

So as much as this trip was a nightmare, there were also some very bright spots I'll never forget. You're one of them.

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