That is really my point. All the characters are decent people who make mistakes, and this show is entirely about mistakes, consequences, adapting, correcting, making more mistakes, moving past them, the inherent unfairness in the universe, jumping to conclusions like they are a lifeboat, and growing in the process. Hell, the whole show is built around a mistake, an unintended unwanted teenage pregnancy, and living with the consequences of the mistake, and, doing a pretty decent job of it.
Dean is a genuinely decent young man. Jess is a genuinely decent young man, but a bit of a jerk. Logan is spoiled and undisciplined and full of himself, but, and it pains me to say, a decent young man. Even Tristan, who is an asshole of the highest order, is not really a bad kid.
Rory is flawed, no more than any of them. Considerably less flawed than Paris. But Paris is also a genuinely decent person, just incredibly high strung, paranoid and needy. Nobody shits all over Paris.
Threads like this shit all over Lorelai and Rory, and never even Emily, who seriously..., the woman is horrible at times, but, Emily is a decent person who is motivated by what she believes is best, and those beliefs are not wrong in any sense that matters other than they are wrong for Lorelai. And, Lorelai can't outgrow her anger at her mother.
I am not sure there is a single character on that show that was without character flaw. The peripheral characters had flaws, minor maybe, they were gossips, rude, meddlesome, weird, controlling, apathetic, obnoxious, and so on. But, all of them were decent people. Flawed, but decent. Like the real world.
The show is about family, dysfunctional as every interesting family will be, friendships, unlikely though they may be, trust as a leap of faith, loyalty even when questionable, and, of course, love. And mistakes. And forgiveness. And coffee.
And pop culture references.
did you see the new series where Rory fucked some random furry guy in a Starbucks line?
Like, as if to illustrate my point. (I started watching the revival, got this far.)
Do you get what I am saying? Even you said she ditched her Mom to fuck Chewbacca. Her mom left her to go back to the hotel room because she was tired and bored with Rory's project. Rory didn't ditch her mom. Nobody ditched anybody.
And Rory decided to hang out with some people afterward, spent an evening socializing with other young people, connected with one, and had a one night stand. Her first, a 32 year old unmarried woman having a one night stand, and despite the fact she is horrified that she did that..., OMFG..., we need to nuke her from orbit, it's the only way to be sure.
Except "Rory fucked some random furry in a Starbucks line" is not what happened. But that just doesn't matter to whoever posted that.