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How would you or did you handle this?

posted 3 years ago by Kj1oceanlust (1419)
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If you sorta knew someone who rubbed you and maybe some others the wrong way then found out something about them. However this was after you or others had lashed out at them in response to their demeanor. Then you later found out that the person had some mental disabilities you and some others may not have been aware of. Like being bipolar or something along those lines. What if you come to the conclusion that perhaps they were just very misunderstood and at times taken the wrong way as a result of their disability/s? Would you feel bad?

[–] TexasJack (12515) 3 years ago

Sure, I would feel bad and would probably apologize if that was possible.

[–] Mrmojo4700 (20534) 3 years ago

Wait, are you asking this for a friend or something?

[–] Kj1oceanlust (1419) 3 years ago

No, I'm asking for my own knowledge. Because I've seen these scenarios unfold. What's real upsetting is if someone is known to have a disability/s, and people antagonize them because of it. Those circumstances I think are more common with children. Or at least then it's more obvious. I've seen more matured people and even adults be bullies to others, they usually just go about differently than children would.

[–] [deleted] 3 years ago

Depends how you lashes out. You don't want to add more insecurity or hurt to someone who is suicidal, for example.

[–] AndyKing1967 (34320) 3 years ago

It depends. A friend of mine had s short lived marriage to one of the most obnoxious, rude and violent women I’ve ever had the displeasure to meet. She behaved terribly and if anybody said anything, she would say that it’s because she had “issues”.

Basically, she was playing the ‘issue’ card, thinking she could get away with behaving like a screaming harridan.

[–] Quasimodo (16388) 3 years ago

No I wouldn't feel bad. In my experience people with Bipolar can be quite difficult and are best avoided. And no I don't now, nor ever have, worked for a charitable organization.

[–] Wint3rFir3 (6931) 3 years ago

It would really depend on what their condition was. I'm friends with people who have mental disabilities and people with various conditions, such as autism and bipolar disorder, and none of those things are a direct cause of being a dick, as far as I can tell. So I wouldn't feel bad unless their behaviour was an involuntary result of their condition.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (72380) 3 years ago

I would feel pity for them as mental illness is a horrible circumstance to have to live with

And I'd avoid this person like the plague, I'm not looking for any complications in my life (that sounds awful but I'm just being honest)

[–] Kj1oceanlust (1419) 3 years ago

Yeah, but avoiding someone usually becomes obvious. Too them that is. And then they end up feeling like an outcast. And that likely won't help their self esteem.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (72380) 3 years ago

I don't want to sound cold but I've dealt with a few crazies in my life, I just lack the patience for it all anymore...best wishes to them but I'm crossing the street

[–] [deleted] 3 years ago

i guess i'm the person who's rubbed people the wrong way in your scenario. i've had a lot of problems all the way through school & all the work-places i've been in, had tons of conflict and hostility directed my way, and it's definitely made my life a bit of a challenge at times. i feel like i've gotten better at managing my behavior as i've eased into middle age, but i still have a hard time of it, and i to this day i definitely put my foot in it pretty often.

i've done a bit of therapy & that's helped me understand why i have the problems i do. it doesn't really change the reality of my life & the problems i have in dealing with people, but it's absolutely helped me make peace with it mostly.

as for how you should handle it - well, i think you should try to be understanding & keep a cool head. the person in question already probably has a hard time of life, and i'd say try not to make things worse for them.