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Is this a red flag or am I overreacting?


Some old classmate (I knew) told me he had been interested in me for a long time. We used to go to the same school when I was younger.
He asked me out and I went on a date with him. Long story short after the date he took me back home and we were making out in his car.
Things got hot and heavy afterwards, I told him that we are moving too fast so could we slow it down and he said it was okay. He hugged me and said it was fine and we just stood there hugging each other.
What he didn’t know was that I could see his face from the reflection of the window of my place through his car. (If that makes sense) And he was making faces as well as putting his hands near me pretending to choke me out, thinking that I can’t see him.
I felt very weirded out by those actions. I didn’t address it because again it was very weird.
And since then it’s been about a week and I haven’t answered any of his calls (he left 20 missed calls) or text messages.

I just want to ask, am I reading to much into this? Am I overreacting? Should I call him back and apologise? I’m confused.

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You really want to be with someone you feel weirded out by?

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Pussy: RUN, do not walk, away from this guy. He is a major creep imho, and you could end up a statistic.



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PS And you are NOT overreacting!



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Most guys aren't like you. I say move on. You could do better, dude.

"Oh Lordy, I hope Larry doesn't see her dressed like that."

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That's pretty standard guy behaviour. We all think we're starring in our own movie. My dad still makes "stabbing my mother to death" gestures behind her back and they've been married almost 50 years.

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LMAO over here, Tandy.



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Making choking gestures because a girl won't go all the way on a first date ain't standard guy behaviour.

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Definitely not.



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It actually creeped me out reading it.

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It definitely sounds like a red flag, and I would make it known to him that you're no longer interested and keep your distance from then on out. If he continues to harass you with calls and messages, keep them all and report him to the police.

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Maybe ask yourself this: Do I want someone to tell me it's okay to date someone I know is probably no good OR Do I want someone to tell me it's okay to reject someone I know is probably no good?

Because you either want to date this person, whom you know is bad news, or you don't want to, but you don't want to seem like a bad person yourself. Honestly? Who cares if you look bad or not? You don't belong to anyone, so do what feels right.

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Get the fuck away from him, fast!

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