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If Elio was a girl, would his dad have had the same reaction?


I lost my $h!t at the dad being so cool with the affair. His underage son is a statutory rape victim and the only reason I can think of that he's so chill is that it's a boy.

Imagine if he had a daughter who was getting banged in his own house by a man he invited into his home. Would he be so accommodating? I think not.

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Yes, I get what you say. Everyone said oh the parents are so cool, knowing about the affair and just let them be.

I was also wondering about that. It had nothing to do with rape but still Elio is a child and Oliver made him very sad.

The mum did say nothing about that! A mum should be the first Person to ask what happened.


The Dads speech was great in a way because he told Elio its ok to be gay. But... yes, if Elio was an adult men it would have been ok for the dad to stay out of this but not in his Young age.

If Elio was a girl, it would looked more like rape to the parents I think.

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Yeah sure, but in Italy the age of consent is much lower than in the US, so rape would not have entered into the scenario.

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Yes why not?? If the girl was very mature and new herself and knew what she wanted, and Oliver treated well, what would be the problem??

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Having to waste money and resources taking care of an unplanned pregnancy.

Ask the American taxpayers how they feel about all the welfare babies that end up in prison due to single-parent households contributing nothing good to society.

A societal pang in the side of the principled.

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Legally it isn't rape. In Italy the age of consent is 16. In France it is 15. It's lower if the participants are both young.

Their attitudes may well be different or a daughter.

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However the parents liked Oliver very much and they maybe knew Elio was into him.
So they let them do their thing.

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This is Europe, they trusted Oliver and knew Elio very well - yes, they would be cool with that, especially back then.

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