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Sometimes, beyond basic agreements, we are not sure how to personally FEEL about certain situations.

posted 2 years ago by TheMan18 (12588)
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As in, do we get distressed or a little upset and then move on, do we suffer for life because of something, can we let it go, do we hold lifelong grudge against someone responsible etc? Do we also treat men and women, for a variety of reasons, same or different for similar or related matters, including legally so (and morally for that matter).

I myself am a man and a guy yes. But a very sensitive one. You don't see me being a typical MRA-oriented white young man who selfishly believes immoral stances and then has neither a second thought, a sleepless night or a worry on his conscience. Yes, I worry, sometimes I don't sleep at night, I respect morality and law etc, and not just because I have to in order to avoid trouble. Although that too haha.

Plus, I often get tired of shallow and cliched stereotypes. And I at times feel worried if people online indulge in it and I personally find it unhelpful. Especially since I, as also possibly a Russian, was raised with certain rules and etiquette that I was even told is for my own good and my protection. However bluntly and strictly. Even if you're not perfect or a genius, why not go extra mile in certain areas or simply state "I'm not sure". I won't give any explicit examples, and I don't wanna become subject heavy here. But at the same time I find myself UNDERSTANDING. Anyways...

I am not saying that people even SHOULD feel a certain way. Then again, right or wrong, I often cannot help it. And I try be less emotional from now on even during conflicts. And you can tell I am not a conflict-oriented type of person, cheers.

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

Enough is enough. Time to exercise the Ignore button.

[–] samoanjoes (51749) 2 years ago

Is it the posts-per-day average, or is it the nonsense of each post?

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

The flooding, the nonsense, the lack of self awareness, the trolling.

[–] AnubisRaydeen (7897) 2 years ago

What did he say? I won't read it.

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

Just any of the last 20-30 threads in the last 2-3 days (except the one about cars).

[–] AnubisRaydeen (7897) 2 years ago

It's not cool to to be mean to handicapped people. Right? But what if they can drive, type 5000 words a minutes, and convey less than 1 idea a minute? Can sympathy survive that one student that keeps raising their hand but only recites the phone book when called upon?

When efforts to help are completely ignored, is it wrong to find solace in trying to create a balance of frustration? If someone is ass'ing, is it wrong to ass back? Even if they are a full-on autismo, reply junkie?

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

Hence the Ignore button awaiting pressing.

[–] AnubisRaydeen (7897) 2 years ago

Don't do it! We can't afford to lose any in the trenches! Double the cabbage and fart back.

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

It’s a complete waste of life.

[–] AnubisRaydeen (7897) 2 years ago

It does feel that way. That's why I say whatever because the result is the same. I won't ignore him but I am already ignoring 90% of the text. Feels exactly the same. Rhetoric disguised as deep interrogative. A personal diary inside the cover of a philosophy book. Responses that are simply opportunities to type more stream of consciousness ideas. A suspicious mix of complex sentence structure and outright crimes against grammar. Occasional overt cries for help that are not genuine expressions of a desire for help at all.

OPTION ONE: I think our master troll saw that video and based his new personae on it as a way to "prove" authenticity. Though hard to believe a troll would devote so much time to typing walls and walls of disconnected opinion. It is too much effort.

OPTION TWO: Mom n Dad have to take care of their adult autistic son and he only shuts up when he is on the computer. Cue endless avalanches of superfluous words and vestigial phrasing. Though hard to believe that a non-troll would ever say shit like "as a man and a guy" when they obviously know enough about language to seem normal at a glance.

The AndyKing Theory: He is a hybrid of 1 & 2. Hard for me to digest this. Yes, he is harvesting replies but it doesn't seem to be for the outrage. When I consider this, I lean more toward option 2.

Subtract the above musing from the sands of my life. sigh

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

I’m too old for this shit (he says, squeezing a movie reference on a movie site *cue applause, takes a bow*

[–] TheMan18 (12588) 2 years ago

OK I guess I need to call it quits and give it a rest. Believe me though I am not trying intentionally to "troll" and at the same time, well, yeah its a matter of opinion here and there and personal feelings. Also, if I were to SPELL OUT what I really mean sometimes, I'm afraid, people may think I am offensive and put me down big time. Except...

I do NOT think it is "acceptable" in those circumstances EITHER. Its just in traditional ones, I also held thoughts of a personal grudge too, as did people around me, theoretically speaking.

I also feel a little sad how inevitably, I conflicted with at least one user here as a result, hope he doesn't hold a grudge.

But its alright folks. And it may even be better if you DON'T KNOW. As we Russians say - the less you know, the better you sleep at night.

[–] samoanjoes (51749) 2 years ago

Yeah he's been flooding the boards the last few days.

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

Ya think?

[–] [deleted] 2 years ago

what happened to your no ignore policy?

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

Even I have my limits.

[–] AndyKing1967 (34377) 2 years ago

So, this will be my last missive to you (appropriately a movie reference).

I had a great time, but this wasn’t it.

[–] Otter (24464) 2 years ago

A new high in general incoherence, dude!

But as far as not being sure how to feel about certain things, please clarify. Do you mean that you don't know how YOU feel about certain situations? Or do you feel like other people expect you to feel certain ways in certain situations?

If there's a conflict, admit and acknowledge your own feelings, and if they're considered socially inappropriate, pay a bit of lip service to how other people expect you to feel. If you have something to gain by doing so.

[–] TheMan18 (12588) 2 years ago

"Do you mean that you don't know how YOU feel about certain situations? Or do you feel like other people expect you to feel certain ways in certain situations?"
Pretty much that yes.

[–] AmeriGirl26 (12472) 2 years ago

It's harder when you are in the minority in how you feel about something. There's always some public issue where the resident idiot crowd demands you take sides, and often you don't give a shit about the situation, or you have an opinion that is extremely unpopular about it. The worst dumb situation is where people think you should care about something, even if it doesn't affect you in any way, and you could care less about it, but people who watch the news and allow their emotions to be manipulated are shocked when you don't buy into the scam. I hate that.