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A mother and son dance at the wedding
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The way I look at it when planning your wedding. The bride and groom pick EVERYTHING. It's their day.
If your getting married, it's you and your fiance's day, Period. Don't let anyone effect your decisions. Yes, planning a wedding is difficult, I was married last year, i know, but remember it really is about the bride and groom. No one else.
If you know someone who is getting married. You will just have to be okay with whatever they choose.
I absolutely agree with you, JanX9, except for the mother and son dance
shareThat just make you stressed out and will drive you crazy.
I let people work for me. For the decor I was like "white with maroon accent" and the decor guy handles the rest. I didn't select the type of the flower, the table design, etc. They were professionals, they have better aestethic taste than me. For the music I was like "90s love songs" and the DJ does her job. For photos I was like "do your best."
Think of wedding like a movie producer. You decide the budget, then you decide on who would take the various jobs. Just guide them a little to make sure they understand what you were looking for. When the day comes, just have fun and enjoy the moment.
I don't even look at the pictures and video that often. Everything feels better in my head anyway. Because at my wedding day I was really happy, high and drunk with friends and families. It was like the happiest day in my life. I'm even smiling right now while I write this. Who cares about silly decor, music and flowers. Lol.
That's a nice way of looking at it.
My wedding day was the happiest day of my life too. Non the less, we planned everything and bought our own decorations and did or own setup and teardown. Sadly, the economy took a turn for the worst and really messed with my savings. So we did what we could to save money, but still had a beautiful wedding. Anyhow, yeah, we picked the ceremony music and the first few dances, otherwise we just gave the DJ a general idea for the type of music.
I never understood weddings. So much money thrown down the drain, when you could use that money to actually survive for an entire year. It's almost like telling the bride, "We might as well just use this money to actually live well off for our first year together and keep the marriage thing between you and I".
shareok, let me narrow it down here:
* Mother
* Groom
* Bride
* Definitely not the DJ
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I don't think there is any one protocol. I guess it depends on the couple. If a mother-in-law had a particular song she wants played while she dances with her son, why not let her choose? It would be diplomatic, and the groom's mother does not get a whole lot of say so in the wedding plans. Plus, if she doesn't have any daughters, she won't ever get to help a child plan a wedding, so it might be a nice gesture on the bride's part to let her mother-in-law choose the song.
sharewell put PlaintiveMelody
shareThank you, it might be a good idea to get in good with the mother-in-law at the start. Lol
shareThe mother-in-law had her chance when she was marrying.
shareTrue, but I think the bride might want to be kind to her mother-in-law, especially if her mother-in-law doesn't have any daughters. Women really look forward to helping their daughters plan weddings. If she doesn't have any daughters, then she has nothing to plan.
shareespecially if she was rich
shareThe bride. Most people below have said the groom, but it really is the bride. NEVER make the bride angry or the whole wedding is off.
You learn it the hard way and no, I was never married.
I think if she calls the wedding off because of something so trivial, she's not worth marrying and the groom got lucky.
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