Marriage in the 21st Century.
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"A word of advice : trust no one,especially womens,you'll live longer"π
shareThere was one gal, I forget, who was still living and she was born in the late 1800s. When they asked her how she lived so long, she said she did three things. First, she ate eggs (not sure how frequently). Then, she made sure she got lots of sleep. The third, and this relates to your post, she lived a single life.
So if she lived that long because she was single, we may all be doing it wrong.
But then, there is a catch. Do you live a long life, knowing that you will never be with someone? Or do you take the risk, have relationships and progressing your family tree, knowing that you will sacrifice yourself earlier?
Indeed,do you want to live forever knowing that each time all your love ones dies around you?
"Whe aren't meant to live forever,death is a part of life.
Lara Croft - rise of the tomb raider
Regardless of whether you are single or in a relationship, I would think people around you would die. The only difference is you had to establish that relationship with a stranger, for the relationship; however, your parents will always be blood related.
The question then is not whether you want to live alone or with someone, it is more what will give you the best return of investment. Having relationships may lead to risk, where someone can leave you. Being alone, you cannot get anymore "alone" than that. Your finances would then dictate what you earn and how you live, but you will never worry that some of it may go away due to having a relationship. Of course, you can also attribute that to stress as well. If you are alone, you deal with your own stress. When you are with someone, you stress out about them and even their problems.
I find it harder everyday to know what is the right road.
I agree,arvin ,i do everything i can to help my family,but sometimes it's not enough.
share"she lived a single life.
So if she lived that long because she was single"
That was her genes postponing her death until they could be reproduced.
Not really. If she lived to 100 years then fully half her life was after menopause. So that long lifespan would not increase her chances of reproducing. The window of opportunity is from about 12-50 for women, so any years they live after that have no reproductive purpose.
shareWomen do live longer when they are not married, but men live longer when they are married.
(statistically this is true in America)
I think it is because a married man has someone taking care of him and making sure he goes to a doctor when he needs to, etc. That prolongs his lifespan. Single men tend to not take very good care of themselves, healthwise.
But single women live longer than married women, probably because of less stress and fewer people to take care of.
That is kind of funny being that the man actually has insurance (most of the time) through his work. You usually would think the women would be stay at home. Kind of reminding him that he has what he has earned and not really making use of it.
Then again, I would think it would be different financially. Financially, the man would be able to sustain himself longer and be able to afford hardships like losing a job or hospital bill, if single. If married, you would have double the chance of something happening. Then you add kids to the mix and something happens, it quadruples the chance (assuming two kids). Unexpected divorce may take away 50% income and the house (in some cases).
But yes, health wise, the man would probably do better in a relationship.
I thought you were talking about the 21st century?
If you were talking about marriage in the middle 20th century, then you'd be partially correct.
In the 21st century, both spouses have to work and women have their own insurance. Insurance really is not the issue, it is more about biology and behaviour. Single men tend to just not take very care of their own health, even if they have insurance. They avoid seeing doctors (sometimes seeing it as a form of weakness, trying to be the tough guy and waiting too long to treat a problem) and have higher risk lifestyle habits. (smoking, drinking, etc) . When a man has a wife and possibly children, he has more people encouraging him to seek medical care when it's needed.
Biologically men already have shorter lifespans than women on average, but the lifespan changes depending on marital status.
You can easily look up the life expectancy of men vs women, married vs single.
These are statistics about what actually exists, not guesses about what should happen.
Life expectancy for women drops when they marry, and it rises for men when they get married.
Living longer is not usually something that people think about when they decide to get married though, at least it's not their foremost motivation. They are usually thinking more about the short and medium term future, not the long term.
I am not sure if living a long time is even a desirable thing, because the extra years you gain are like, living to 80 instead of 70. or living to 90 instead of 70. Well, are those extra 20 years going to be great years?
20 extra years in a nursing home don't sound like fun.
But then again, some people do not live in nursing homes at those ages and since we really have no idea what death will bring, we, or at least I, would want them.
Now if at that age, you are pretty much in agony, than I may want to be put to death; however, it is almost a sin to not allow someone to live to their fullest.
Statistics are based on averages, not on individuals.
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