Why Has Fat Enabling Become Such A Socially Acceptable Construct?

How about because society realized that someone's weight is none of their business.

I don't know what caused someone to be obese. I don't know if they can afford to eat healthy food. Don't tell me that it's cheaper to eat healthy, because it's not, especially with the cost of food these days. I don't know if they have a medical condition. I don't know if they have a mental illness. Depression is a big issue these days. I don't know if they live in their mom's basement, eating fast food and playing video games. I don't know and I don't care.

I'm gonna judge someone a lot harder on how they treat others, than I am what their body looks like.

Nothing wrong with some good old fat shaming

That's what happens when we start pretending that it's possible or desirable to be "non-judgmental", rather than having uncomfortable conversations about which judgments are sane, wise, and beneficial to both self and civilization at large

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Nobody on earth is attracted to fat fucks. The people who claim they are, are simply fragile egos who know that tubs of lard are easer to hang onto than the in-shape humans they secretly covet.

Bridget Fonda suffered severe back injuries in a car accident, and quit acting soon after. Whatever choices, trauma even, she made are her business. Just because she was cast as a hot character back in the 90s doesn’t mean she owes it to the world to stay hot forever. It’s more sad to see actresses go the botox and surgery route than to see someone just move on and decide to retreat from their celebrity status and live a private life. It’s not like she is out there promoting herself right now. In every photo, she is just trying to go about her daily life like any other person.

I can't speak for fat shaming. I can speak about Bridget because one has been interested in her story.

I don't think anyone, let alone a celebrity who will be consistently photographed, should let themselves go like that.

Bridget, someone I thought was really attractive in the 1990s, showed up in 2022 looking like a completely different person. And let's keep in mind, all the way up until 2009, she still looked fine. She shows up again in 2022 looking 30-40 years older, 60-70 pounds heavier, to the point at first, one thought her 2022 pics were a hoax.

There has been talk of a car accident which left her taking medication that caused the weight gain. I don't know, I suppose this could be true. But I must say, to me, it reeks more of laziness. I happen to also be in my 50s. It'd be real easy to quit, sit home, take pills, eat day and night and do nothing. Or, you can get up every day and work out. Move around; keep yourself physically active. Sad to say, I think Bridget, very simply, let herself go.

I don't think any sort of conspiracy is afoot. People just don't want to be mean, don't want to sound mean, and they want to protect others who they see as victims of this type of meanness.

I'm sure most of us have experienced a micro-version of this in our daily lives. I've had girls complain about getting fat to me before, for instance, and if they are fat, it puts me in a very awkward position. Because I know that I really have only a few options: I can either agree, disagree (lie), or try to artfully get out of this conversation (which is my usual go-to). If I agree, even in the most tactful, delicate, and sympathetic way, chances are as high as her cholesterol that her feelings are going to be hurt. And I really don't want to have that effect on someone. The easier, safer option, is to just say complimentary things like "I like a little meat on the bones", or "You're beautiful just the way you are," or some other such thing that, while it may enable her problem, will make her feel better in the short-term and make me look more caring and sympathetic to others.

We're a social species and an abundance of empathy is a big part of that, so we're usually inclined to bend over backward to nurture and protect those we perceive as vulnerable or underdogs (fat people, in this instance) and to do whatever it takes to make them feel better and to make ourselves look better to others.

That empathy, though, is a double-edged sword. Those impulsive feelings can blind us to what's most rational or effective. Not just with this topic, but with tons of topics. We'd rather coddle our young, for instance, because we want to protect them from outside dangers; even though that very coddling, in the long-term, causes them more problems in the future. People just don't instinctively think this stuff out, I don't believe. The most natural impulse is to prioritize short-term emotional comfort over long-term solutions. So that's the accepted norm.