Bringing A Girl Into the World Versus Bringing a Boy Into It
I have a close friend who has two daughters, and she told me that she was nervous about bringing girls into the world because she believes it's 'harder' to raise/deal with girls than it is to raise/deal with boys.
As much as I adore my friend, on a platonic level, and generally have very high regard for her wisdom on most matters, I disagree with her here.
When something goes wrong for your daughter, it's the *world's* fault. When something goes wrong for your son, it's *his* fault, and, thus, the blame of the people who raised him.
Since I always prefer to live my life GUILT-FREE, I prefer the former scenario (unfortunately, both sides of my family tend to produce more sons than daughters, and, so, the likelihood is that if I ever have biological children, they will be boys).
It may be traumatic, but I can deal with the grief of something terrible happening to my daughter. I CANNOT and WILL NOT deal with the FUCKING responsibility of having a son who turns out to be a POS, despite my best efforts to teach him otherwise. Grief and a sense of victimhood, is a LUXURY I'm happy to feel the 'burden' (🙄) of, but GUILT and BLAME I WILL NOT endure. 😠
Lashing out/blaming others is bliss. Those who possess that luxury are VERY PRIVILEGED and SPOILED indeed. They NEVER have to endure the anxiety and shame that accompanies the sense of being 'wrong'. Those who are born to be pariahs are the REAL VICTIMS.