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Why do girls say they want a nice guy?

posted 5 years ago by MovieBuff224 (5053)
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Who shows that he cares. By buying her flowers, holding the door and texting her daily with compliments, and posting daily on social media how no such guys exist when literally the majority of men would happily do those things.

Women are being inherently dishonest here. What they’re leaving out is that they want a guy who’s otherwise a complete ASSHOLE to do these things, and even they wouldn’t be immune to being friend zoned after exhibiting these behaviors for an extended period of time.

I have had countless girls who were admittedly physically attracted to me only to watch them slowly lose interest as they discovered I was a genuinely good guy. Now I’m not talking pushover, hanging on their every word “nice guy.” I’m talking genuinely good hearted person, very few women want that and that alone. If you don’t have some serious cockiness about you they will not stick around, they simply aren’t attracted to genuinely nice guys. It’s been acknowledged in practically every psychology/sociology article about dating and is the very foundation of pick up artistry. Frankly I think it’s total bullshit.

[–] chilone (17306) 5 years ago

In my many years of being with girls or being single, I have found I'm generally happier when I'm single, so now I really don't give a shit about romancing anyone.

[–] Catbookss (13664) 5 years ago

It's like you're the male counterpart to halomaniac88 😬

[–] mikethemartian (6117) 5 years ago

I’m amazed by women I know who strip for a living to feed their kids. There must be a million nice guys their age that would love to take care of them but instead they date and marry guys that send them to the strip club to support their kids.

[–] Keelai (32077) 5 years ago

A man can be nice, strong and confident at the same time. Don't confuse strong and confident with "cockiness" or abusive behavior. My women friends' number one reason for breaking up is they don't like how the guy treated them. Lesser reasons have been he's too cheap or too controlling.

Being nice means listening when she's talking, not looking at other women when you're on a date, not being controlling or bossy, respecting her opinions and feelings, taking an interest in who she is and wanting to know her, not being mean towards her or those around you. Remember her birthday or gift-giving holiday and give an appropriate gift. Pay a compliment only if you mean it. Don't be cheap - little gifts now and then. Be polite is opening a door.

A man also doesn't want to enter the "friendship zone" but that might be chemical.

[–] slimone (7996) 5 years ago

For the same reason men say they want a nice girl.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

If a guy goes out of his way to buy flowers, hold doors, etc then eventually the girl is going sniff out that this might be some kind of act or pretense. They back off because they think they are being conned. That’s probably why some women fall for assholes. They think these guys are more readable and honest about who they are. Some may also feel empowered if they can convert a beast and turn him into a prince. Readymade princes to them mean that some other girl already got to him, and is probably still in his heart. Blame Disney fairy tales.

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

I don't think they like assholes necessarily, it's just that they don't care whether he's an asshole, as long as he's got certain other qualities they like (tall, confident, wealthy, etc.)

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

Maybe men who have a lot going for them - looks, wealth, success - tend to be assholes.

[–] tcrum (29853) 5 years ago

No it is true . Women want a nice guy. It's about sitting and talking. Caring about the other person.. I don't want to talk bad about the next generation but cell phones , random site etc.. None of this matters, just sit down with a girl and communicate.