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does this behavior strike you as creepy?

posted 4 years ago by [deleted]
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I have a friend who just told me about this thing he did, where he sent a sincere, heartfelt apology to a teacher he has a bit of a crush on (she may or may not be able to see it), for being sarcastic and rude when she told him that she accidentally missed his e-mail asking for feedback on an assignment. He tried apologizing once to her already, but he was insincere, lying that he didn't mean to offend her, when he clearly was trying to give her sass. He told me that he saw through that she didn't take it too well, only saying thank you to be polite.

Now that it's been a good month later, for whatever reason, he finally decides to send an email apologizing to her sincerely and admit that he intentionally gave her an attitude that one time. As well as the fact that he wasn't being sincere in his approach to apologizing the first time. He also took the time to express gratitude for all the help she provided him last semester.

When he asked for my thoughts on this, I had mixed feelings. On one hand, I'm really glad he had the balls to man up and sincerely admit his mistake, but I'm worried for him that this might be perceived as creepy, as most people wouldn't even think about something so trivial that happened a month ago. I'm worried that this teacher might think he's been obsessively thinking about her all day.

Any thoughts?

Discuss...

[–] ShogunofYonkers (73751) 4 years ago

Good on your friend for owning up to his mistake but depending on his age it could be a felony and career destroying mistake for his teacher to continue contact of any kind

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

He's in college age, actually.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (73751) 4 years ago

Ok, in that case and assuming he is no longer in her class he should politely ask her out

HOT for teacher🔥!
We've all been there I'd bet

[–] FredBurroughs (20264) 4 years ago

Sounds like a tricky situation. Some colleges and universities allow fraternization between faculty and adult students, while some have a strict look-but-don't-touch policy. Since the teacher in question isn't currently engaging the conversation, she's likely not interested in your creepy goon of a friend.

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

He made it clear though, that this was the last time he was going to message her. He also wasn't really trying to initiate a conversation, but rather just send a nice apology/appreciation letter to her.

Not saying this makes it less odd, but I think you might be misreading my friend's intent here.

[–] FredBurroughs (20264) 4 years ago

It's called desperately trying to save face. Sure, he might hold to his word by not contacting her again, but if she reached out and expressed her interest in dating, he'd be all over that like Oprah on a baked ham.

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

That is, IF.

[–] FredBurroughs (20264) 4 years ago

Wow, it's worse than I thought. This attractive lady professor must be swimming in a sea of duds. What's her number? I'll make sure she has somebody to lean on.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (73751) 4 years ago

'...like Oprah on a baked ham'

I nearly spit iced tea all over my phone😂

[–] TalkinPikchorBox (2250) 4 years ago

I'm still cracking up over that.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (73751) 4 years ago

Zinger of the day!

[–] ShogunofYonkers (73751) 4 years ago

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[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

he sounds real smooth.

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

Yeah, my friend sure knows his ways around the ladies, doesn't he?

[–] Otter (24464) 4 years ago

What's done is done. it all happened, the teacher thinks he's a jerk, given that he acted like a prat and then bothered her about a trivial incident a month later. And given modern university policies, there's no way in hell she'd ever return his interest, that'd be a career-ender everywhere.

All he can do is learn not to act like a prat in the future.

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

I think you gave the best take so far.

[–] TalkinPikchorBox (2250) 4 years ago

Are you really the friend?

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

Yes, and with benefits.

[–] Wint3rFir3 (6931) 4 years ago

To answer the question, yes it does.

The apology was unnecessary to begin with - teachers generally aren't lying awake at night wondering about their previous students' bratty behaviour. Making repeated contact to ultimately achieve the same thing, when the teacher has already given a response, is creepy. And if the first email was insincere and the teacher knew this, responding to the second email makes no sense and serves no purpose except to make the student feel better - and why would the teacher care to do that at this point?

If I was in the teacher's shoes, I'd be worried about obsession. I think the second email just made the situation worse.