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How Can She Do That?

posted 7 years ago by jagger12
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I have watched this movie many times and each time I watch, I notice different things. For example, they show a montage of Connie with both Ed and Paul. They show her talking on the phone to Paul, right in the hallway near the room that Ed and their child are. She is walking around talking to him like a young girl talking to her crush on the phone. Also, in the bathtub scene, the same song that Paul played at his apartment when he first danced with Connie, was the same song Connie had on in the bathroom when Ed came in to join her. Ed even asked her about the song and liked it. Does this woman have any kind of conscious at all?? It is bad enough that she was cheating, but geez!

[–] ilovejnames 7 years ago

That's kind of the whole plot of the movie. It's about a woman cheating on her husband. You aren't necessarily supposed to sympathize with her. If you dislike it so much, why have you watched it many times?

[–] mspacman75 7 years ago

I know it's wrong, and we're supposed to hate her or something... but her husband is so boring! And the other guy is smoking hot! How could she NOT have an affair?! Maybe it's just the fantasy that's appealing. I think lots of women can relate. Being married, having a family, and a loving husband is wonderful...but ppl get bored (and boring, like her husband). Did I mention how hot Paul is?! It's exciting and fun and new. I think we can all relate, even just a little

[–] Strings101 7 years ago

History shows that branding a big letter A on her forehead does wonders for preventing repeat episodes. ;)

[–] strntz (10905) 6 years ago

How could she NOT have an affair?!

I suspect that if most women were like you, no one would get married. Relationship anarchy would reign..

Now if you're talking about strictly fantasy, then that's different. Everyone fantasizes. It's when one acts on it that fantasy becomes betrayal.

[–] Renovatio (2990) 6 years ago

Adultry happens... It's a very realistic depiction of an affair... I know of a couple of women who were in such a position, one went through with it, the other didn't... To my knowledge...

Both situations the husbands were successful business people/professionals, good fathers and loyal...

These things can happen... People decide to do these things, or not...

[–] strntz (10905) 6 years ago

No argument, but the poster I replied to said given the circumstances, Connie could not do *anything* but cheat. I quoted just one line but read her whole response to see what she was implying.

[–] Renovatio (2990) 6 years ago

i see... Sure, she could have decided not to cheat, to work on intimacy within her marraige, or to become independant and get a divorce... BUT, that requires strength and moral courage... I think she just followed her urges and took the path of least resistance,,,

In real life people are morally flawed and weak... Moral order takes effort and sacrifice... Others feel entitled to have it all, to have their cake and eat it... Somewhere in between are people who rationalise their actions, or who accept the imperfection of marraige...

I like it that she clearly didn't mean as much to Paul, the guy she has an affair with, than he did to her... for her he was a life she hadn't lived, romance, excitement, lust, etc... for him she was just another woman to enjoy...

[–] sneezer (166) 6 years ago

i think it was highly hypocritical of Connie to go off on Paul when she saw him with that other woman. Duh! She cheated on Edward. Why would she get mad if Paul was "cheating on her" with that other woman? This was not a relationship of love, where loyalty, fidelity, trust, and commitment are all requirements. This was an adultrous situation. She kept always saying "This is so wrong", yet we would see her and Paul in bed again and again.

[–] Renovatio (2990) 6 years ago

Hypocritical, but also authentic... It is understandable that she'd feel betrayed...

She fell for Paul not just out of sexual lust... She was into him emotionally... They connected over poetry and such... Or so she thought!

Seeing him with another woman, surrounded by books felt as if it was just a game for Paul despite it meaning so much to Connie... The words, he spoke to her, he must have spoken to other women... The moments they shared together, he had repeated before and since... What they had was not unique to them... That's why she 'needed' to have sex with him again, to reconnect physically...

It also must have been liberating for her, to let go... to be taken and played by him... It probably put her conscience to rest to feel as a pawn in someones love game rather than an active seeker of an affair... Even though she clearly did seek him... 😎