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Finally finished his book. His life is so miserable


I appreciate the honesty. You dont see actors tell such intimate details of their life. It was good book. But Gosh it was so exhausting from the middle.

At first he tells how he was born, raised, how he came to Hollywood, how he got into Friends. It was very interesting. But as his life was going - he was getting more and more into drugs and health problems. And eventually everything become about drugs and drinks. In the smallest details he tells how much and when he took drugs, got to rehab, became sober, then again start using. Its was so exhausting that at the end I was just skipping it till the finish.

Its truly amazing how person can be so lucky to get into famous tv show and become so rich and be so miserable at the same time. And he wont stop using. He will stay sober for some time and will use again like he does his whole life. He is lost soul. All his rehabs failed because he didnt want to stop.

At some point addicts have enough and just stop. They take seriously their sobriety and work on themselves. Matthew Perry goes to rehab only because he feels physically bad and uses too much. Gets sober for few months, feels better physically then starts using again. Eventually his health declined so much that he cant use anymore but probably still will. Its very stupid. And he blames it on addiction as if he is sick and has no control over it. But in reality he just doesnt want to stop.

And he was in Friends for 10 years. But he barely talks about it in book. Usually he just mentions that he was in Friends. There is no stories from set and stuff like that. He spend more time explaining how he could not get into it because he was assigned to another show then he talks about making Friends.

And he keeps talking how he dumped all his girlfriends. Because he thought he wasnt good enough for them or something. And honestly - thank God. All those women are lucky that they didnt end up in joyless marriage with this addict. Because all of them got chance to marry other people and have children. And not sit with high and drunk husband who goes in and out of rehab every year.

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What is the value of these kinds of book except as a peek into some celebrities life, and what good is that? I mean, OK, so you learn that drug addiction is bad, but that it's all OK if you are a global celebrity and everyone knows your name? Kind of means that the average Joe drug addict can just die because no one cares.

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> And he blames it on addiction as if he is sick and has no control over it. But in reality he just doesnt want to stop.

Well, that is what addiction is, and why it is hard to stop and can lead to death. The frame of mind is, why live if you can never feel as good as you want to.

Imagine how any normal pereson would feel if they got to a point where they could never have sex, or love again. The rest of their life might feel like they are marking time until they die, so why not go out in a blaze of hedonistic glory?

Anyway, the individual story I don't care about and I would never read, but addiction and destructive behavior is something that needs a lot more study and understanding. Our society is set up to service the big shots, the rich, the celebrities, and addiction rarely matters or has such bad consequences for them as for normal people.

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Well the thing is - if person will not get treatment for cancer - they will die. Its a decease.

If drug or alcohol addict will go to prison or ends up on uninhabitable island for many years - they will be magically cured from their addiction. Because there will be nowhere to get to many drugs and alcohol to get. So they would just live sober. No they will not go crazy. They can do the same ting living in city but they simply dont want to.

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You don't know enough about the brain to make such pronouncements.
You can do it for yourself ... that is you can choose to be ignorant to make life easier and less thoughtful if you want, or you can be curious and thoughtful and you can open your eyes and not be judgemental and push the boundaries of your understanding, and even imagine what discoveries will likely be made and understood in the future.
Compulsive behaviors are by definintion outside of an individual's control.

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“Not be judgmental.” That is a joke coming from a hateful person like you.

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No one is ever cured of their addiction . I get your point though - if an addict is put in an environment where they can’t obtain drugs - do they still need drug treatment? Btw I think our current
Models of drug treatment need work

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Yeah it is puzzling that a guy as successful as Perry just kept on relapsing. I get that money and fame aren’t the only things that matter but they are important . I mean, if a guy like Perry can’t stay sober then what chances does an average Joe have that is penniless and addicted have to get and stay sober?

Btw his take on girlfriends and him not feeling good enough for them tells me he had deep insecurity issues . Did he ever have kids?

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His comment on Reeves seemed petty and spoke to his character.

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I can understand not wanting to say anything negative about anyone on the show. I believe the cast actually were friends. You'd think he'd have some fun stories from the set to share though, at least.

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I feel like male actors were just coworkers. While Lisa, Jennifer and Courtney actually hang out often to this day. While we barely saw David, Matt and Mathew do the same. I dont think Mather Perry was friend with anyone on the show. As he was addict and had no friends at all in general.

They were just coworkers who had to go to work with each other for 10 years. And then moved on to another job occasionally bumping to each other and politely nod. It feels like none of the male cast hang out with anyone after show ended. Just some reunions and picture posing.

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