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Why Did She Want Him??

posted 15 years ago by slthompson2
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Okay, so maybe as a woman with brains and taste I shouldn't even bother asking...

Why the heck does Jennifer Garner's character even want the low-life? He's trash! He objectifies and demeans women! How is a man like this supposed to be attractive? And what kind of idiotic woman falls for a man like that? Honestly, I spent the entire film trying to figure out how drugged-up the screen-writers must have been to honestly believe that a man like this would be appealing to women. Are there really that many women with that low of self-esteem that they would even cast a glance at a man like this? If so, I guess the world is filled with a lot more truly brain-dead people than I thought. Scary.

[–] JeffAtlanta2004 14 years ago

Okay, so maybe as a woman with brains and taste I shouldn't even bother asking...Why the heck does Jennifer Garner's character even want the low-life?

Maybe because his character successful, well spoken, charming, artistic, charismatic, sophisticated, confident, well dressed, physically attractive and has world wide respect for his artistic ability and skill?

Seriously, in the real world if a man with that character's credentials made a move on you, you'd drop your "brains & taste" delusion and bark like a dog and crawl around on your hands and knees for his amusement if he asked you to.

[–] Boricanator 13 years ago

The fact of the matter is, in general, when it comes to men, women are really, really, stupid.

It's not their fault, they are just born that way. As other posters have explained, women simply go for looks, money and confidence.

Unfortunately, most of the time a guy is only seen as confident when he acts like a jerk. I don't know why, I'm no scientist, but that's how women think.

Remember, a man's job is to "care" for women, not understand them. They live in their own fantasy world, men feast on that and then give them a reality check.

[–] puplover 13 years ago

This is getting out of hand. WE ALL male and female alike go for looks/sex appeal first. Why are women the idiots for that? That's the world. And if a man has Mathew M's looks, a wow job (he's famous in the movie), THAT is what is attractive to both sexes. The job, not so much when it comes to women, but sorry, looks are the very first way (unfortunately) we ALL evaluate whether we are attracted to someone or not.

By the way, no one has mentioned that all the girls that were into him were young (20 somethings). Notice how Anne Archer's character (bride's mother) reacted to him? I think that may be why that scene was in the movie. She turned him down; she wasn't young and immature.

[–] Boricanator 13 years ago

There is nothing wrong with that. It's okay for a woman to want all of these things. And, yes, physical attraction comes first when we are interested in someone.

But that doesn't mean they should simply ignore a guys womanizing history and/or jump in bed with him in a split second. It's a stupid thing to do.

[–] oneofakindplay 13 years ago

Why does he want her!??

You must be losing it, all of you. So she threatens to cut off his penis and the movie proceeds merrily along? Stupid. He should have smacked her (yes, I'm a woman) or and at the least never gotten involved with such a slut. "Sweet" the next second. She's a complete bit** in just about every movie these days. She can't wait to stab a man in the bal** and then act sweet - what was that show where she's tough girl in Iraq with Jamie Foxx?). It's become so natural no one noticed? Feels good to be a woman, huh, say whatever we want to men and let's get to the parts that really matter to us (not to him of course).

I think you're mistaken OP. So he sleeps around; did you see or hear him threaten rape or worse to the women? You need to start looking in the mirror and rejecting severe misandry when it surfaces. There's sex and there's threatening castration, and only one is fun. There's no joy in one-way success, and her stupid line was as about as low as a woman can go. And yes it's her. Actresses (and actors) have the power not to do what they are morally opposed to.

[–] celticank88 13 years ago

But the point of the movie was that Connor needed an intervention in order to change so that he can realize the error of his ways so he can be forgiven. Did anyone forget that point of the movie? Cause I thought that what the point of it was that maybe some womanizers can reform and be forgiven. Does anyone agree or disagree w/me?

[–] TheCommenteer 11 years ago

Agree completely. I don't see what was so special about her at all, personally. She seemed quite bland, with no real appeal at all, and constant judgment of anyone who doesn't conform to her way of thinking.

[–] pokerfriend 12 years ago

OP you're an idiot. It's exactly what happens with ladies. They always go for the douchebag with money and looks. That's just how the world works.

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[–] DevaSunat 7 years ago

(just answering because here the answers are timeless and like me there will be people watching the movie years and years after the launch)
You didn't had a school love, a person that was with you many years, growing up together, that you fell for but for one thing or other never happened, right? For someone who didn't pass for that i can see how hard can be to imagine Garner's feelings for him, but for example, not for a second i though about his personality to be a problem for her, because i can relate to her and knowing well a person from our past give us that vision. This is why life experiences change our view on movies^^