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Abortion: For or Against?


Hey peeps,

I have just watched this movie and found it a great movie with important issues.
How does everyone feel about Abortions and Backstreet Abortions.

I personally am 99% AGAINST abortions. The 1% FOR abortion i believe would include young teens pregnant from being Raped, which is morally wrong and it would be extremely difficult to have a baby and as it grows it would traumatize the parent of the rape, and if the baby is put up for adoption the baby would grow up and have alot of questions once it grows up and it would be difficult for the child aswell as the mother.

Its a difficult and confusing subject to talk about, where babies are being killer/Murdered for all the wrong reasons.

How do you feel about abortion and how do you feel about this movie. I feel for Vera she was a good woman who only wanted to help but she didnt know any better and she should have really looked at what she was really doing and that she was killing a human being.

But overall 8/10 movie (Some parts dragged on)

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So often discussions of abortion are based on abstract thoughts of other peoples’ situations and morality. Fortunately, most of us are never faced with the awesome decision of what to do if we find ourselves in an unwanted pregnancy. Here is one girl's story, it will soon be clear where I stand.

Like many people in my generation (born in 1958), I was conceived outside of marriage. I love life and am very happy to be alive, but I wish my mother had had the choice of a safe, legal abortion. She was privileged, educated, and had the misfortune of getting pregnant at a time when abortion was illegal.

Because of the mores of the time and the circumstances of my conception, my mother, an enlightened and intelligent woman, to this day feels humiliation. That humiliation hugely affected me.

My fear is that by pushing abortion back into the closet we risk subjecting future mothers and children to a life of subtle, yet enormous emotional consequences.

My story has an outwardly happy ending. My parents married, had two more children and there is a lot of love in my family. But the subtleties of being an unplanned child had a dramatic, life long impact on me. I believe that if she had had a choice and had chosen to go through with the pregnancy, things would have been far less stressful for all of us. If she had chosen an abortion, I would be none the wiser.

Having a choice means just that, you have a choice, free will and control in a very important aspect of your life.

Every child deserves to be brought into a family that can fully and freely love that child.

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but you dont have to have an abortion. if you think the child needs to have married parents with money and all of that then why not adopt to the millions of couples that cant have children. theres no way around it. abortion is wrong. i can fully and freely love my child and im not rich or married and i dont even have a partner or boyfriend and only 15. everyone is capable of love.

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Oh bejesus, because she'd be none the wiser? I'd be none the wiser if you killed me in my sleep, so what?

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You need more than just love to raise a child Yummy mummy. Adoption is an option, but pregnancy is very traumatic, and often there are women who feel giving away a child that is alive and they've carried for 9 months and that will feel the consequences is more stressfull and traumatic than abortion, this is why it is a personal choice. And once again I'll point out that "right" and "wrong" are all opinion, nothing to base legislation on. I believe the "none the wiser" comment myself, being that a featus, if it has even developed a brain yet, has a brain only capable of movement and not awareness and thought, consiouse or not, there for it is very different from being killed in your sleep.

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I don't think it is up to anyone, including the parents, whether a child should die or not.

Katie: open a biology book before you spout off rubbish like that. And I think it is just selfishness in its finest form, "it will be too hard for me to give my baby a life, so i'll just end it instead". That wouldn't hold any water with anything else.

Ondedline: Call it choice if you want, I call it injustice and when I see injustice, I act.

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No, with all due respect, you aren't acting. You aren't doing anything, you are spouting crap about the rights of a foetus but you aren't actually doing anything about it. I'm not saying I want you to pipe bomb your nearest clinic, but the only valuable anti-abortion action anyone can take is to adopt a child, you're 16 and so you can't do that.

Take the moral highground when you actually have the right to because you have done something positive for your cause, like adoption. It might take years, but nothing and no not even abortion is a quick fix.




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You do not know me, and especially do not know what I have done for this cause that I believe in so much.

So now I'm 16, I can't say/do anything about abortion, but when I'm 21...?

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You can be pro-life yeah, but what I meant was that you have no right to inflict that on others until you have done something positive for your cause. SO yeah not until you are 21 and you have adopted a child or something positive for yoru cause should you be able to do more than feel personally that it is wrong but not inflict that on women making such a decision.
Basically you cannot claim that you are acting upon injustice when you aren't.



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"Katie: open a biology book before you spout off rubbish like that. And I think it is just selfishness in its finest form, "it will be too hard for me to give my baby a life, so i'll just end it instead". That wouldn't hold any water with anything else."

You open a biology book love, go to school! You think a cell, a featus, is alive its you that needs the education, try some philosophy too to go with your science.

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but women dont find out they are pregnant till 4-5 weeks and by that stage the babys hear is beating and brain waves are begining to happen. that is more than just a cell

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It may be more than just a cell, there is undenibly movement, but thats it, brainwaves do not go beyond that, they are alive in the same sense plants are really, or fish.

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sorry, yummy_mummy, but that is most definitely not correct.

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Perhaps I should of put exclamation marks over my "alive" for the smartarses among you who know what I mean but just smell :p, alive in the sense of movement and nutrition, kind of, but we must remember that they are a parasite, they are not living humans, they lack human characteristics, they lack mamal characteristics, alive in the same sense as organs but not independanly alive, not aware, not sociologically alive, not psychologically alive, not legally alive, not philosophically alive and not biologically alive in the humansense of the word, alive in the same sense the unfertilized egg that I bleed out every month is, not mourning that are we.

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the egg had potential life, it's seperate from the human continium which starts when someone is conceived.

So if it's life potentially, the next stage- conception, must be life, obviously.
Refute me all you want, but that statement's truer than stating a preborn human being is "alive in the same sense the unfertilized egg that I bleed out every month is".

Also do you think they're a parasite all the nine months?
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Hmm, last time I checked, humans didn't produce plants or fish. They produce humans though.

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"Hmm, last time I checked, humans didn't produce plants or fish. They produce humans though"

And that has what to do with anything I said? I mean, we produce piss aswell but thats got as much to do with the point as your statement.

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"So if it's life potentially, the next stage- conception, must be life, obviously."

No, conception isn't life, but it is closer to it, birth is life.

"Also do you think they're a parasite all the nine months? "

A parasite is something that attaches itself to a host and feeds from it, so yeah, while the babies in the womb it is a parasite, be it the whole 9 months or just 7 like me, it wasn't meant to be a harsh term.

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may i ask katie if you believe in partial birth abortion? (abortion after the 3rd month able to be done untill the 6th month) in this procedure the woman has to be awake and actually give birth and then the baby is killed. this is being banned in some of america at the moment but is still an option in alot of other places. do u think that it is murder when a woman gives birth to a 24 week old fetus that could survive with the right special care? if you dont think even that is murder im unsure as to what you do consider murder. also its interesting that if a pregnant woman in driving along and gets hit by someone and her baby dies , she can press charges but if she kills her own child its an exception? in australia at the moment they are hoping to make killing an unborn fetus an offence.

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"also its interesting that if a pregnant woman in driving along and gets hit by someone and her baby dies , she can press charges but if she kills her own child its an exception?"

This is true, but the charge is not murder, its actual bodily harm against the mother, not the child, and does not imply that the featus has legal rights it implies the mother does.

"may i ask katie if you believe in partial birth abortion? (abortion after the 3rd month able to be done untill the 6th month) in this procedure the woman has to be awake and actually give birth and then the baby is killed. this is being banned in some of america at the moment but is still an option in alot of other places."

The only places I've heard of this being done are backwards places and it is illegal there, if a child is a born and is alive at the time of birth then it is killing if the childs life is then taken and in every democratic country I've heard off it is treated as murder, we do not have that over here and it would not be done at 3 months as there is no possible way a woman will give birth to a living child at that early stage, did you read about this in The Sun or something?! O_o

"in australia at the moment they are hoping to make killing an unborn fetus an offence."

To do that they'd have to prove the featus was infact alive in the human sense of the word as they have a democratic government, I can't see it happening, its just MP's throwing the niave public a fish.

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Katie, partial birth abortion is quite common in the U.S. - are you merely commenting on partial birth abortion at a stage earlier in the pregnancy?

You're incorrect about the legal basis for the crime against the unborn -- the sort of crime for which Scott Peterson was convicted - the separate murder of the fetus - is quite common actually. It's not because the mother has lost property but due to the harm she suffers from the loss to a separate life. Thus, for example, wrongful death suits brought by parents when their children have been killed due to negligence -- deal with the harm suffered by the parents due to the death of the child. They're identical to suits for the harm to the unborn. No, they're not consistent with Roe vs. Wade at all.

In Australia, why would it be naive to prohibit one of the cruelest methods of killing another? Why would anyone need to prove that the baby could live outside the womb to make it a crime? I don't understand. That would mean the baby wasn't alive until it was born - and no one believes that. If someone merely hacks off my arm on the street, it is a crime - yet it may not even kill me. I don't understand your comment.

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"Katie, partial birth abortion is quite common in the U.S. - are you merely commenting on partial birth abortion at a stage earlier in the pregnancy?"

No, I'm commenting on it in regards to my society which fortunately is not the US.

"You're incorrect about the legal basis for the crime against the unborn -- the sort of crime for which Scott Peterson was convicted - the separate murder of the fetus - is quite common actually. It's not because the mother has lost property but due to the harm she suffers from the loss to a separate life. Thus, for example, wrongful death suits brought by parents when their children have been killed due to negligence -- deal with the harm suffered by the parents due to the death of the child. They're identical to suits for the harm to the unborn. No, they're not consistent with Roe vs. Wade at all. "

I'm unsure what your point is here. I'm saying abortion cannot be called murder as murder is the name of a crime and abortion does not fall under that crime. There are cases where people have be arrested and charged after deliberately causing miscarriage, but they are not charged with murder even then, its actual bodily harm.

"In Australia, why would it be naive to prohibit one of the cruelest methods of killing another? Why would anyone need to prove that the baby could live outside the womb to make it a crime? I don't understand. That would mean the baby wasn't alive until it was born - and no one believes that. If someone merely hacks off my arm on the street, it is a crime - yet it may not even kill me. I don't understand your comment. "

Well then maybe you're a little slow? A featus is not considerd "alive" until it can live independantly, otherwise its like a sort of parasite as it needs its mothers nutrients and such for survival. Your other comment:


". That would mean the baby wasn't alive until it was born - and no one believes that."

This is a pretty ignorant comment, as you can see just by reading here many people differ on what they believe is "life" and when it begins. Thats why abortion is a choice, if you believe life begins right away then no one has the right to tell you to have an abortion because you're going to feel like you killed something, but at the same time you can't throw a hissy fit at a girl that did when she doesn't believe its alive. This question of life is not clear cut, if it were they'd be no need for these debates!

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Since we quote each other's posts in our reply, I hsould split this in two parts - otherwise our posts keep getting longer!

"Katie, partial birth abortion is quite common in the U.S. - are you merely commenting on partial birth abortion at a stage earlier in the pregnancy?"

"No, I'm commenting on it in regards to my society which fortunately is not the US".

I don't understand. You're saying that it is uncommon in the rest of the world? And this is fortunate? Why so? I don't understand.

"You're incorrect about the legal basis for the crime against the unborn -- the sort of crime for which Scott Peterson was convicted - the separate murder of the fetus - is quite common actually. It's not because the mother has lost property but due to the harm she suffers from the loss to a separate life. Thus, for example, wrongful death suits brought by parents when their children have been killed due to negligence -- deal with the harm suffered by the parents due to the death of the child. They're identical to suits for the harm to the unborn. No, they're not consistent with Roe vs. Wade at all. "

"I'm unsure what your point is here. I'm saying abortion cannot be called murder as murder is the name of a crime and abortion does not fall under that crime. There are cases where people have be arrested and charged after deliberately causing miscarriage, but they are not charged with murder even then, its actual bodily harm".

You're right that it isn't usually called murder - but my point was that the crime is NOT for the harm to the mother - which I understood you to be saying - the injury to the fetus is independently recognized as harm to another person. It's not wholly derivative.

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"I don't understand. You're saying that it is uncommon in the rest of the world? And this is fortunate? Why so? I don't understand."

It is uncommon in regards to the rest of the world, but it still happens. I can't say, reading information regarding the process on here, that I would consider it anything but negitive. The process itself is bound to cause emotional distress regardless of wether or not the child is desired,it much the same way as giving birth to a still born would, never mind debates of wether a process such as that is the only option before the cut-off point.

"but my point was that the crime is NOT for the harm to the mother - which I understood you to be saying - the injury to the fetus is independently recognized as harm to another person."

Wait, didn't you just type that: "deal with the harm suffered by the parents due to the death of the child. They're identical to suits for the harm to the unborn."

Does this not suggest that they are recognising the parents distress due to the precieved loss of a child? One is not convicted on the basis of murder? And are we talking criminal or civil law here? All cases such as this dealt with in criminal proceedings over here have been treated as harm against the mother, be it physical or emotional.

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"In Australia, why would it be naive to prohibit one of the cruelest methods of killing another? Why would anyone need to prove that the baby could live outside the womb to make it a crime? I don't understand. That would mean the baby wasn't alive until it was born - and no one believes that. If someone merely hacks off my arm on the street, it is a crime - yet it may not even kill me. I don't understand your comment. "

"Well then maybe you're a little slow? A featus is not considerd "alive" until it can live independantly, otherwise its like a sort of parasite as it needs its mothers nutrients and such for survival. Your other comment"

Gee, getting a little insulting, eh Katie? No, I'm not a little slow actually. You fail to understand the fetus IS alive - it's no more a parasite (what an ugly term) than anyone dependent on another - such as I supose what you'd term the parasitic two month old infant - for survival. That's why in virtually every American state, the crimes of physical harm to the fetus are NOT crimes against the mother - but crimes against a separate person.

You see, a fetus is alive from the moment of conception - a full human being with all the genetic material of yourself - who gradually develops functions and capacities and awareness - and will gradually lose these things in old age as we all do - and that's why though killing the person is not recognized as murder due to society's laws (much the way that killing a black person for specific offenses was not regarded as murder in the ante-bellum South - or killing a Jew was not recognized as murder in the Third Reich or killing a kulak in 1930s Ukraine was not murder) - because the black person, the Jew and the kulak were not regarded as human beings by the law - it is of course murder in any moral sense.

"That would mean the baby wasn't alive until it was born - and no one believes that."

"This is a pretty ignorant comment, as you can see just by reading here many people differ on what they believe is "life" and when it begins. Thats why abortion is a choice, if you believe life begins right away then no one has the right to tell you to have an abortion because you're going to feel like you killed something, but at the same time you can't throw a hissy fit at a girl that did when she doesn't believe its alive. This question of life is not clear cut, if it were they'd be no need for these debates!"

Abortion was not made a choice in the U.S. because this is what people thought or decided - after all there were strict laws forbidding all abortions except when it was a choice between the death of one life or the other - but because some Supreme Court justices decided to throw out all the laws that Americans had made in all the states.

Gee, Katie, I don't think I'm the one throwing the hissy fit (you seem to have called me "ignorant", "slow", etc.). What I think you fail to recognize is that if the fetus is another person, then saying "You don't have to kill, but you must allow others to" is an indefensible position.

You see, human beings tend to identify with other human beings - and when they're being killed, they object. Sometimes the objection is because the human being is of the same category - i.e., Christians rather than non-Christians tended to object most to Romans throwing them to lions, Jews tended to object most to Jews being sent to Auschwitz.

And of course with abortion, since we were all that age once before our births, there is a particular identification with those being killed by others before they are born - when they are most defenseless - even though the defenselessness is the basis on which you say they can be killed.

I guess simply: saying to someone that he needn't kill a Jew in the 1940s or kill a slave in the 1840s Alabama but he has no righ to object to others doing so - is a rather restrictive way of looking at the sympathy human beings may show each other.

Yes, I can avoid killing Sudanese, but please don't tell me that I can't object when others do. It's the fact that we are all human - from conception to death, that provides the common platform for the sympathy with other human beings -- and the loathing for those who do the killing.

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"Gee, getting a little insulting, eh Katie? No, I'm not a little slow actually"

No, I'm just constantly confused at how little you say you "don't understand"

"You fail to understand the fetus IS alive "

No, you fail to understand that the life is a debatable subject and that is why there is so much conflict in this issue. Some people believe life is more then motor functions and hearts pumping, lungs going, they say its all about awareness which is why we are seperated from plant life and to a certain extent animals.

" it's no more a parasite (what an ugly term) than anyone dependent on another - such as I supose what you'd term the parasitic two month old infant - for survival."

Ugly term maybe, but you think that like many do because this is an emotive issue to which people have an oversensitivity to. I think you will find a featus fits exactly into the definition of parasite, infact someone on here earlier posted how it did and how it differed to a dependent not physically attached to another much better then I can.

"That's why in virtually every American state, the crimes of physical harm to the fetus are NOT crimes against the mother - but crimes against a separate person."

Well that law seems a bit backwards to me. However, I hope those same states do not have legal abortion or they smack of hypocricy. :/

"You see, a fetus is alive from the moment of conception"

An extremely debateable issue, subject to opinion and that is why abortion is a CHOICE because people differ in opinion.


" but because some Supreme Court justices decided to throw out all the laws that Americans had made in all the states. "

Laws aren't made that way. And if that were the case why is abortion still legal there?

" What I think you fail to recognize is that if the fetus is another person, then saying "You don't have to kill, but you must allow others to" is an indefensible position. "

What you fail to recognise, which baffles me as its all those whole forum talks about, is that wether a featus is a person and alive is undetermined, partially because of the philosophical argument of "what is life". I can fully understand that YOU are against abortion because YOU believe a featus is alive but I am stunned how you can claim to be an intelligent individual yet fail too recognise the complexity of the issue. When exploring an issue such as this one tends to look at every angle, at every cog, and you seem to have ignored this.

"And of course with abortion, since we were all that age once before our births, there is a particular identification with those being killed by others before they are born - when they are most defenseless - even though the defenselessness is the basis on which you say they can be killed. "

Actually, looking from a psychological point of view, people on a whole do not identify with a featus. Not only because a featus differs physically from a fully developed humanbeing, particually in initial stages, but mostly because, through memory, we have never experienced being a featus. I don't think identification is the process you're looking for here.

You keep throwing in examples regarding the jews and the treatment of black people in early america and such as examples, but they are flawed examples and seem only to pull away from the initial topic being debated here.

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"Gee, getting a little insulting, eh Katie? No, I'm not a little slow actually"

No, I'm just constantly confused at how little you say you "don't understand"

"You fail to understand the fetus IS alive "

"No, you fail to understand that the life is a debatable subject and that is why there is so much conflict in this issue. Some people believe life is more then motor functions and hearts pumping, lungs going, they say its all about awareness which is why we are seperated from plant life and to a certain extent animals".

Every subject is debatable. So? Sartre would say we aren't alive. That's debatable. It doesn't mean that I can kill the fellow I see out my window. Nor that if I do - and say he wan't alive - that I can then say "it was my choice and you've no right to stop me -- you dno't have to kill if YOU don't want to - but you see, I'm pro choice."

Awareness is such a strange ground to choose your argument - your attempt to create another area called "alertness" doesn't work. The question of consciousness is whether a given person will gain it - even if now in a coma, now in the womb, now under anesthesia. If he/she won't, they are deemed dead. If he/she will, they are deemed alive. Thus, in terms of consciousness, the fetus is like the person who has been knocked out in a tough rugby game, but whom everyone expects will recover. Although currently utterly insensible to themselves or the world - there is every reason to expect that the person will gain awareness at a later point.

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" it's no more a parasite (what an ugly term) than anyone dependent on another - such as I supose what you'd term the parasitic two month old infant - for survival."

"Ugly term maybe, but you think that like many do because this is an emotive issue to which people have an oversensitivity to. I think you will find a featus fits exactly into the definition of parasite, infact someone on here earlier posted how it did and how it differed to a dependent not physically attached to another much better then I can".

No, actually. If you termed my puppy a parasite, it would be an ugly statement. And it's not overly sensitive to so react. You see, you are being the one emotionally involved here - not I. You chose what you thought was an ugly word. Just admit it, Katie. This has nothing to do with the topic - nothing to do with whether a creature is human. After all, I make no such cause for young Marlborough here ("sorry boy").

And you say it for much the same reason that you've decided (gratuitously) to call me ignorant, slow, etc. - because you've a hard time being civil.

"That's why in virtually every American state, the crimes of physical harm to the fetus are NOT crimes against the mother - but crimes against a separate person."

"Well that law seems a bit backwards to me. However, I hope those same states do not have legal abortion or they smack of hypocricy."

What people want in any state has nothing to do with anything. Perhaps you don't know the law in the U.S. Every state had banned abortion - but from about 1967 to 1972, five states had legalized it with very strict time constraints. Then in 1972, the Supreme Court determined that the Constitution precluded any legislature in the U.S. from banning abortion throughout the pregnancy. So the states (most of them) that have a separate crime for the harm to the fetus (NOT to the mother) are not acting inconsistently with any law they've ever passed - but it is certainly inconsistent with the Supreme Court's veiw of the Constitution.

But since only a tiny percentage of Americans (9% in the last poll I saw) now believe that abortion should be as unrestricted as the Supreme Court says the U.S. Constitution requires, there's an enormous popular movement to add crimes to fetuses and increase the penalties. The recent infamous Scott Peterson case in California (a husband kills both wife and fetus - the prosecutor added a separate count of murder for the fetus - he was convicted on both counts) has buttressed the groundswell.

"You see, a fetus is alive from the moment of conception"

"An extremely debateable issue, subject to opinion and that is why abortion is a CHOICE because people differ in opinion".

Katie, every statement any human being can make is subject to opinion and debatable. Why do you keep saying this? Do you know how often I've heard people say that one race or another should not be allowed to live? It's routine. But I'm not going to say "I'm pro choice" about them taking action based on their views.

" but because some Supreme Court justices decided to throw out all the laws that Americans had made in all the states. "

"Laws aren't made that way. And if that were the case why is abortion still legal there?"

Funny - maybe not in Australia! But I assure you that is what anyone would tell you in America. About five states had changed their laws before the Supreme Court had made its decision in 1972. (The other 45 states firmly banned all abortions). In Roe vs. Wade in 1972, the Supreme Court ruled that because the U.S. Constitution prohibits unreasonable searches and seizures (in criminal cases), the "penumbras" and implications of that prohibition mean that a fundamental "right of privacy" prevents any legislature from barring abortions throughout a woman's pregnancy - and the mother alone must be able to choose to terminate that pregnancy through birth. The state does have interests in determining whether the abortion clinic is run well, etc. but those interests cannot prevent any woman from getting her abortion for any reason whatever throughout her pregnancy (though in the last three months, she must say she'd "be psychologically better" with an abortion - though needn't consult any doctor about this - her statement is enough).

It's a very good question why the Supreme Court hasn't reversed itself. One reason is the simple doctrine of stare decisis - that is, once a precedent has been established, the Court is loathe to reverse itself. For example, in 1854, the Supreme Court had ruled in Dred Scott, that an escaped slave remained the property of his master - and thus had no right to bring a suit for a declaration that he was now free. Despite repeated later cases, the Court said that it had ruled - and that was the precedent.

However, the recent Lawrence decision (invalidating Texas' laws against sodomy as against the Constitution) did reverse an earlier Supreme Court decision (I believe it was Folsom) made in 1986 (stating that the Constitution did permit the state of Georgia to prohibit sodomy). This was shocking - because it is in the same context (the so-called "fundamental right of privacy" due to the existence of a prohibition of unreasonable search and seizure in the Constitution) and bodes very badly for the continued existence of Roe vs. Wade.

So my guess is that Roe vs. Wade (the first abortion case) will be reversed in the next 5 or so years - especially since the extent of abortion required by the Supreme Court has become so unpopular in the U.S. (as everyone on every side recognizes). When Roe vs. Wade is reversed (as seems inevitable), it will simply mean that the Court reverses itslf on whether the Constitution prohibits legislatures from making decisions on abortion.

Thus, the next step will be for those lobbying for one view or another to go to the 50 state legislatures and urge that laws be passed permitting or prohibiting abortion. It will be an interesting free-for all. Further steps wil lundoubtedly be taken in Congress on the matter.

My best guess is that most states will prohibit abortion - perhaps 10-20 will allow it. None will allow it to be as broad as it currently is. And Congress will take up amendments to the Constitution to either allow or ban it - an amendment requires 2/3 of each of the two houses of Congress - and then 3/4 of the state legislatures - to pass. And they will take up such bills and debate abortion every year through at least the next half-century. But meanwhile, the states will all be different.

" What I think you fail to recognize is that if the fetus is another person, then saying "You don't have to kill, but you must allow others to" is an indefensible position. "

"What you fail to recognise, which baffles me as its all those whole forum talks about, is that wether a featus is a person and alive is undetermined, partially because of the philosophical argument of "what is life". I can fully understand that YOU are against abortion because YOU believe a featus is alive but I am stunned how you can claim to be an intelligent individual yet fail too recognise the complexity of the issue. When exploring an issue such as this one tends to look at every angle, at every cog, and you seem to have ignored this".

Sorry, the issue isn't complex. From the time of conception, there is a person complete in all the DNA that constitutes life - all the genetic material is there. The person's hair color, eye color, size, color blindnes, everyhing is there from the moment of conception. That unborn child will develop faculties over time as does any infant or any adolescent do. There is no distinction worth drawing between a two day old embryo and the two day old infant when the mother returns from the hospital in terms of which is living, which is a human being. Each will grow and develop - one is simply nine months older.

You might as well argue that the six month old isn't human - sure it's debatable because everything on earth is debatable - sure one can have a different opinion - sure, they're dependent - sure, they can't earn a living - sure, one can allow mothers the "choice" to kill them - the issue is identical.

"And of course with abortion, since we were all that age once before our births, there is a particular identification with those being killed by others before they are born - when they are most defenseless - even though the defenselessness is the basis on which you say they can be killed. "

"Actually, looking from a psychological point of view, people on a whole do not identify with a featus. Not only because a featus differs physically from a fully developed humanbeing, particually in initial stages, but mostly because, through memory, we have never experienced being a featus. I don't think identification is the process you're looking for here"

Where do you get that? Everyone identifies with the fetus! Have you never heard the enthusiasm when people see the ultrasound pictures? Never noticed people asking "how's the baby?" Never seen anyone touching the mother's stomach holding the child and asking "how the baby is doing?" Never heard a mother say "the baby is kicking"? The fetus is always thought of as the baby - it's always been considered the baby. People go WILD when they see the ultrasound pictures.

"You keep throwing in examples regarding the jews and the treatment of black people in early america and such as examples, but they are flawed examples and seem only to pull away from the initial topic being debated here".

Oh, I do because each example is so ideally suited to its use.

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" What I think you fail to recognize is that if the fetus is another person, then saying "You don't have to kill, but you must allow others to" is an indefensible position. "

"What you fail to recognise, which baffles me as its all those whole forum talks about, is that wether a featus is a person and alive is undetermined, partially because of the philosophical argument of "what is life". I can fully understand that YOU are against abortion because YOU believe a featus is alive but I am stunned how you can claim to be an intelligent individual yet fail too recognise the complexity of the issue. When exploring an issue such as this one tends to look at every angle, at every cog, and you seem to have ignored this".

I thought I'd take this up again because you don't understand my point (no, no, not because you're slow). My point is that there is no argument based on "choice" since we all (I think) agree that to kill anther human being is wrong.

Thus, for anyone to argue "Sure you believe that a fetus is a human being, that's fine. But I should still be allowed my choice" is silly. The person would acknowledge that if the fetus is a human being, they should be allowed no choice.

Thus, the question is whether the fetus is a human being - not whether people should all be allowed to "choose" their own definitions of who is human and act accordingly. Choice is irrelevant if all conceded that the fetus was human. Thus, "choice" means nothing. It is not an argument.

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("also its interesting that if a pregnant woman in driving along and gets hit by someone and her baby dies , she can press charges but if she kills her own child its an exception?")

i knew it, hehe your a dumb person. on your question " of course killing is consented by your will and mind, if not of these exist it isnt called killing its tragedy.. you know what ive been debating most of the PRO ABORTION.. most of my life they never have the chance to out reason me. for it is written on the Bible " FOR GOD THINKS. THE WISDOM OF THESE WORLD IF FOOLISHNESS" .. true wisdom comes from GOD.. human wisdom is the most dumbest and full of mistakes.. do you wznt to acquire true wisdom? have true CHARITY.. an over whelming of CHARITY of a heart..


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I disagree. Being pregnant calls for a great sacrifice and parenthood, even more. For instance, a single woman who became pregnant could easily end up on the streets because she didn't make enough money to support herself during the period of time that she couldn't work, much less a child. And that is assuming that the child is healthy and that the mother isn't underage.

There are just some situations that children shouldn't be born into. For instance, abusive marriages and extreme poverty. And even if a women decides to bring the fetus to full term and then give the child up for adoption, this isn't a good option. It is better than the situations listed above, but it is not a panacea. Many adopted children are traumatized by having been abandoned by their parents.

Rape and teenage pregnancies are another matter. Rape leaves the mother traumatized and can make her feel resentful towards that child. Not a good equation for a happy family. And teenagers shouldn't be forced to drop out of school to take care of a child (an added disadvantage of this is that high school drop-outs make very little money and most teenage mothers are single.)

No one likes abortion and we all want it to stop, which is why more money should be spent on family planning and effective SexEd in schools. I would like to point out that abstinence-only SexEd doesn't work very well. By age 15, hormones are going crazy. 75% of teens are no longer virgins by the time they finish high school. That's why it's a good idea to talk to them about contraception and the responsibilities that come with parenting and pregnancy.

What a woman does with her own body is her business, not the government's. And even if abortion were outlawed, it would still take place, as shown in the film. It's better to have safe, legal abortion than women dying in back-alley abortions. If pro-life people want to stop abortion, they should work at decreasing the demand for it. At least on that, pro-life and pro-choice people can unite.

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But do you really believe this? In other words, are you really saying that if a woman has say a 2 year old, and it leaves her "traumatized" for whatever reason, she can kill him/her?

If so, then you're saying that mothers have rights to live happily that are greater than their children to live at all, to continue to have their heart beat, to breathe.

If you're not saying that the mother can kill her 3 year old to cease being "traumatized", then aren't you simply saying that you don't believe the fetus is human?

The mother's happiness really has little to do with the abortion argument - because I have met few who believe it paramount to, say, a 3 week old or 3 year old's right to continue to live even if he/she drives mother crazy. If the fetus is as human as the 3 year old, then I don't know where the mother's happiness fits in - since she can't kill the 3 year old and few argue she should be able to do so.

(In fact, I'm sure that in cases of rape, it's much tougher to be reminded by the resemblance of the 3 year old to the rapist than any fetus' resemblance to the rapist. The 3 year old will have at least some of the characteristics of the rapist - hair color, complexion, eye color, size, etc. - that the fetus can't be seen to have - and will far more readily remind the mother of the rapist. Thus, there is far more reason to allow the mother to kill the 3 year old than to kill the 3 month old unborn child - if the interest is simply saving the mother from trauma associated with the rape. Yet few seem to want to allow this).

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"Being pregnant calls for a great sacrifice and parenthood, even more. For instance, a single woman who became pregnant could easily end up on the streets because she didn't make enough money to support herself during the period of time that she couldn't work, much less a child. And that is assuming that the child is healthy and that the mother isn't underage".

Oh, I definitely agree - but this doesn't support abortion. If your position is that this sacrifice means that the mother can kill - then just as you say, "parenthood [requires] even more [sacrifice than pregnancy]", so your argument is that parents have yet more right to kill their say, 5 year olds than their fetuses - because their sacrifice and the expense are that much greater during later parenthood than during the parenthood during pregnancy.

Obviously I'd prefer - and my guess is that you would too - for mothers to be out on the streets if the alternative is that they must kill their children - at any age.

I suspect all you're saying is that you don't believe the fetus is human the way a 3 year old is - so the former can be killed to make mother happier, but not the latter - but there's no basis for saying that.

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"No one likes abortion and we all want it to stop, which is why more money should be spent on family planning and effective SexEd in schools. I would like to point out that abstinence-only SexEd doesn't work very well. By age 15, hormones are going crazy. 75% of teens are no longer virgins by the time they finish high school. That's why it's a good idea to talk to them about contraception and the responsibilities that come with parenting and pregnancy".

I don't think I agree that further sexual education is going to reduce either abortion or unwanted pregnancy. Compare over the last 50 years, the rise of sexual education spending on any graph to the stupendously rising number of pregnancies of unmarried women - and you see the opposite result.

I'm not saying that sexual education causes unwed pregnancies - but obviously it hasn't hurt! And when you have a half century of the opposite result - it's time to stop saying that sexual education will eliminate problems.

Half a century ago, there was no birth control. Half a century ago, there was no sexual education in schools. And the same was true a century ago, and two centuries ago, and three centuries ago. But all the figures of unwed mothers becoming pregnant were lower. I don't think teenagers' hormones have changed - but there has been a stupendous rise in unwed women becoming pregnant.

So when you say this rise is because there hasn't been enough sex education - when there was none before - it flies in the face of all the evidence.

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""No, actually. If you termed my puppy a parasite, it would be an ugly statement. And it's not overly sensitive to so react. You see, you are being the one emotionally involved here - not I. You chose what you thought was an ugly word. Just admit it, Katie. This has nothing to do with the topic - nothing to do with whether a creature is human. After all, I make no such cause for young Marlborough here ("sorry boy"). ""

Don't assume I used the word to be insulting, thats ignorant, its a perfect word to describe how a featus feeds and gains oxygen inside the womb, do think I put any attachment to the word just because you do. If a featus survives as a parasite (an unhunm quality) and cannot survive otherwise then why can we not abort it? It clearly cannot breath or digest food on its own, so if it were born it could not live anyway.

""And you say it for much the same reason that you've decided (gratuitously) to call me ignorant, slow, etc. - because you've a hard time being civil.""

I call you slow because all you ever say is "I don't understand". And I call you ignorant because you seem to view everything in tunnelvision.

""But since only a tiny percentage of Americans (9% in the last poll I saw) now believe that abortion should be as unrestricted as the Supreme Court says the U.S. Constitution requires, there's an enormous popular movement to add crimes to fetuses and increase the penalties. The recent infamous Scott Peterson case in California (a husband kills both wife and fetus - the prosecutor added a separate count of murder for the fetus - he was convicted on both counts) has buttressed the groundswell. ""

I would hope that in these states where murdering a pregnant woman carries two exact charges of murder against two persons they do not have legal abortion, either that or the do away with this. One cannot run a country of a legal system that just contradicts itself so, it renders it useless and the public will lose faith and respect for it. I think every day I found some new reason the think the American legal system is one of the worst I've ever come across.

""Where do you get that? Everyone identifies with the fetus! Have you never heard the enthusiasm when people see the ultrasound pictures? Never noticed people asking "how's the baby?" Never seen anyone touching the mother's stomach holding the child and asking "how the baby is doing?" Never heard a mother say "the baby is kicking"? The fetus is always thought of as the baby - it's always been considered the baby. People go WILD when they see the ultrasound pictures.""

How does people saying "hows the baby" mean they are identifying and relating to it? They're asking a pregnant lady how her journey into parenthood is going. Psychologists theories that there are certain criteria which apply to things we identify and relate to, of which I mentiond, I came across it in my study of child developement and I remember the criteria being finalised, so to speak, after the famouse "Bobo Doll" study.

""I thought I'd take this up again because you don't understand my point (no, no, not because you're slow). My point is that there is no argument based on "choice" since we all (I think) agree that to kill anther human being is wrong.""

But we do not consider a featus a living human being (as a society). Which is the whole point, so we do not all agree that "killing" it is wrong. I mean we kill plants, god we even kill animals and they actually are alive and born and fully developed. So yes, we do agree that to kill another human being is wrong, but, if a featus is not another humanbeing then this does not apply.

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I am 50/50 when it comes to abortion. I believe that abortion should be considered when the parent/s know that the child will have an unhappy life, and yes adoption can be considered, but think of the emtional strain a woman will have having to carry that baby for 9 months, with all her hormones raging and still knowing that she isn't going to have the baby anyway! It's easy to say that women who are having unprotected sex should face the consequences by having the baby, but personally I think that by getting pregnant and having to go through the abortion, knowing what they are doing is a big enough punishment!! Why punish a child by letting them have an unhappy life?? and like I sed, adoption would add so much more emotional strain that a women could never ever forget, which, to me, is too much of a punishment for something that nowadays is easily done. The reason that abortion is so popular these days is for one simple thing! the media say that sex out of marriage and under age sex is ok, as long as you use protection! and I think this is the worng thing to encourage!! As long as you use protection, sex is ok is it?? This is the reason for so many teenage and unwanted pregnancies, and then the child will grow up and normally does exactly the same thing!! Anyway to summarise all this up, I think that if necessary abortion is ok, but it should never be used as a form of contraception, and men as well as women should understand this and especially men must take into consideration the emtional strain put on women when they discover that they have an unwanted pregnancy! Also, Sex shouldn't be seen as something that can be done with anyone and any age, it should not be encouraged, after all, what is sex for? It is for reproduction and reproduction only!!!

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Some women are completely unable to take up parental responsibilies!! Yes Oprah may have been poverty stricken but one person in billions doesn't mean anything!! After all, say a very poor family have an unwanted baby, what is the chances of that baby growing up to me a vey rich and famous child??? Very slim I think!! Also, yes there is difference in a unborn child and a newly born child! an unborn chld hasnt got a heartbeat until 12 weeks!!! This means that it isn't even alive in the womb until 12 weeks into the pregnancy!! I think after 12 weeks then the child shouldn't b aborted because like you saud, it is killing a child! As I said, there are some people who are unable to take up the responsibilities of being a parent and if they do, the child will be unhappy as well as the parents and rest of the family! I agree that if you don't want to risk it you shouldn';t have sex but like I said previously, we live in a day and age where the media is saying that it is ok to have sex!!

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If only they could scream.

Count your blessings not your curses - My Grandma

God bless John Paul II

All war represents a failure of diplomacy - Tony Benn

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"If only they could scream"

They can't cause their vocal cords aren't developed yet, along with lungs and their brains. Interestingly the lungs are one of the last organs to develope, thats why I suffer from asthma, I was two months premature and they hadn't fully developed.

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". In the US, we have a social safety net for poor children. We do have social welfare that may not left them out of poverty, but it does help somewhat."

Well, to be honest, looking at some cases studies of the US welfare system, I think its debatable wether it does any good! I know if I got pregnant and that was my only means of support I'd be getting an abortion just based on that, its not way to raise a child, it should be avoided if at all possible.

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I am not giving excuses! Yes we have child benefit in the uk but this is hardly anything and would only give the child an unhappy life as well as the parents! Why cause unhappiness when it can be solved? adoption, like i said before should only be considered if the mother knows that she isn't going to feel any emotional attatchment to the child, if she is, then giving the child up for adoption is only going to make her feel worse! I understand where your coming from but the main thing is tht you cannot stop women going to ave abortions, they will and they always will as long as they can but I just don't agree with using abortion as a way of contraception!!

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" we live in a day and age where the media is saying that it is ok to have sex!!"

Well I can't see anything wrong in the "sex is ok" message. Aslong as its a "unproteceted sex is a big no-no" message too.

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" I am not only pro-life I am pro-responsibility."

Responsibility, just as morality, is subject to opinion.

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"If only they could scream"

"They can't cause their vocal cords aren't developed yet, along with lungs and their brains. Interestingly the lungs are one of the last organs to develope, thats why I suffer from asthma, I was two months premature and they hadn't fully developed”

I was too, but I don’t have asthma O.o

Are you suggesting that they are less human because their vocal chords/lungs havent fully developed? I don’t know about you, but my breasts only stopped growing recently… was I not as human at 15 as I am now at nearly 17?



" we live in a day and age where the media is saying that it is ok to have sex!!"

"Well I can't see anything wrong in the "sex is ok" message. Aslong as its a "unproteceted sex is a big no-no" message too."

With promoting sex comes promoting all sex, unprotected or not. A lot of people like to tell themselves that as long as they throw contraception at kids with the “sex is ok” message, it’ll be fine. But no amount of rubbers or pills are gonna stop diseases and pregnancies when the promiscuity message is so implanted in their minds. Don’t tell me you havent noticed respect for womens bodies and the value of sex plummet since the media became so sexually orientated? Let’s not dance around the obvious, I can’t walk to school without someone whistling at me, or in a crowded street without having my arse groped. And it’s the main topic of conversation in playgrounds! It’s gone too far and it’s not healthy.

"I am not only pro-life I am pro-responsibility."

"Responsibility, just as morality, is subject to opinion."

What about rape katie? Is that subject to opinion? Is it relative? Debatable? A matter of choice?



Count your blessings not your curses - My Grandma

God bless John Paul II

All war represents a failure of diplomacy - Tony Benn

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"Are you suggesting that they are less human because their vocal chords/lungs havent fully developed? I don’t know about you, but my breasts only stopped growing recently… was I not as human at 15 as I am now at nearly 17?"

Um, do your breasts keep you alive??? O_o

"With promoting sex comes promoting all sex, unprotected or not. A lot of people like to tell themselves that as long as they throw contraception at kids with the “sex is ok” message, it’ll be fine. But no amount of rubbers or pills are gonna stop diseases and pregnancies when the promiscuity message is so implanted in their minds. "

Nonesense, you could work your way through the entire army but aslong as you were using protection you're promiscuity isn't going to lead to disease. I see nothing wrong with saying SAFE sex is okay, because it is, sex is a wonderful thing aslong as you're being careful. Any discusion of sex that has the "look what happens when you're not careful" part in it is going to be positive. Not discusing sex openly, and this includes the media representation, leads people not having a clue, which is more likey to be unhealthy simply because people aren't sure of the consequences.

"What about rape katie? Is that subject to opinion? Is it relative? Debatable? A matter of choice? "

Okay, hold your horses, this is where your age shows, what does the subject of rape have to do with responsibility and morality being subject to opinion??

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"Katie, you seem to take up a moral relativism stance. You seem to think that all morality is subject to individual opinion-"what you think is right for you is right for you". If you believe that all morality is relative, then I assume that you don't believe in any objective morals or an objective standard of right and wrong. I believe in moral absolutism. I believe there are absolute rights and wrongs in the world. No time or place is going to change the fact that it is wrong. Abortion is absolutely wrong because it is the killing of a defenseless human life. "

My posts on morals come directly from my education, in studying psychology and sociology I learn where our morals come from and can tell you that for pretty much everything some cultures say its morally right another will say its wrong. All morals are based on opinion, no right is completely absolute to everyone and every culture, so whos to say whos got them right or wrong when everyone has a different idea?

"I see you dodged the question Katie, is rape subject to opinion too? Is it debatable?"

Well rapes an act so saying is it subject to opinion isn't really correct! I take it you are asking if the view of rape being right or wrong is subject to opinion? You see, it has little relitivety as rape is illegal pretty much everywhere and law cannot be subject to opinion or morality as it is there to prevent chaos and stop one persons morality damaging anothers. But yes, there are people, even cultures, where rape can in some circumstances be considerd morally ok. I don't agree with it, but that doesn't mean that its not subject to opinion, the only thing that is concrete is that it is illegal and therefor, wether its morally okay for you or not, should not be done. You see, just because rape is a taboo, emotive and less then pleasent subject it doesn't mean we should all shy away from saying anything other then "its wrong, its always wrong, and everyone thinks its wrong", attitudes to rape are like anyother attitude, subject to opinion.

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"Of course no right and wrong is completely absolute to everyone and every culture. I never said nor implied that. But that still doesn't mean their exist transcendent moral principles do not exist. Relativity in moral beliefs does not entail relativity in moral truth. Genocide is always inherently wrong whether a certain culture permits it or not, just as 2 + 2 will always equal 4 no matter how strongly a culture believes it equals 5."

But with everyone having different ideas of whats right and wrong what makes you think YOU know this "moral truth" and not them? And maths, unlike morality, is based on fact and therefor not subject to opinion.

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Um, laws are subject to opinion and morality. Who do you think leglislate laws? People. And where do people legislate laws based on their morality/values. But it doesn't mean they are always right. Slavery was once legal. How does this all relate back to abortion? Well, pro lifers are trying to convince legislatures or judges to ban abortion with the case that an unborn baby has the same moral status as any full grown human. Much like abolitionists tried to convince legislatures that blacks were not subhuman, but were as human as any white person. "

Laws on slavery where there also to prevent choas at the time. They were very different times and back then white people truely believed that blacks were the same as animals (guess why? Because they didn't have our "civilised" morals) and therefor felt it their job to control them, of cause this was in the form of exploitation though. Pro-life movement, in its official stance, does not base its argument on its morality, because that would get them no where its not relevent, they base it on the argument that the unborn are as much alive as a baby, not on its "moral status". I see the link you are trying to make, back then we needed educating, and we were and as such we now know a black person is equally human as a white one, and now pro-lifers are trying to say a featus is equally alive as a baby, but pro-lifers fail where abolitionists didn't because black people are equal and a featus is different, it will one day be equal but as yet is not.

"Well, since you think all morals have no objective basis, then you have basis to say that genocide, rape, infanticide, pillaging and robbing is wrong - it just is"

I can believe it is wrong, but I'm not going to think I'm all knowing. What I do know is that they are crimes where ones morality and opinion is forced upon another or harm is done to the living, and as such law is there to protect those with one morality forcing it onto others and hurting them...As this would cause chaos and society would have no structure.

"Not only do I think that is a bleak worldview, it also hinders thinking from finding moral truths, which you obviously don't believe in."

I don't feel the need to validate my life with "moral truths". How do yours serve you? Other then to judge and feel superior?

"You would have no basis to evualate other cultures such as Nazi Germany"

Nope, I can believe it was wrong but that doesn't mean it was. The Nazis thought it was a noble cause, doesn't mean it was. No one KNOWS that they have the right answers, why do you think so many people look to religion? They look for answers from a being we are told has them all because we don't KNOW them ourselves.

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Katie, you scare me. You're in university aren't you? That's even more scary. I mean, I've grown to like you over however long we've been debating but I really hope you don't end up having a major role of power in the world.

There are absolute wrongs and if you take the view that as long as the law says something isn't wrong it is "subject to opinion" you need to study the (especially recent) atrocites against mankind in some depth.

Much love, Antonia x

Count your blessings not your curses - My Grandma

God bless John Paul II

All war represents a failure of diplomacy - Tony Benn

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"There are absolute wrongs and if you take the view that as long as the law says something isn't wrong it is "subject to opinion" you need to study the (especially recent) atrocites against mankind in some depth"

Look, I know you are young and you've mentiond you are uneducated so I get why objectivity isn't your strong point, the complexity of human nature and society isn't pleasent so I see why you want to find comfort in your "absolute truths". However, you cannot deny that morality is subject to opinion based soley on the fact that people have opposing morals, if there were fixed moral right and wrongs then everyone would share these, everyone would share the same morality. I think its niave to argue there is even an absolute moral truth when confronted with such varied moral values, but it is definatley stupid to think that it is YOU that knows what these moral truths are and that everyone else is blind.

Looking at some recent "atrocites against mankind" shows this. People commiting acts of Terrorism as retributaion for wrongs they felt the Western community has done them. Revenge...Eye for an eye....Familiar concepts, there are many people on here that probably believe retribution is a moral concept, yet even there morals become more complex as it depends on the interpritation of them as to wether you think one type of retribution is right and another wrong.

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Agree with you. Sex should be banned, it's so dirty. That white stuff - yuck!!!

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No one who is prochoice likes abortion but it is important to leave the decision up to women. Each woman best knows her own circumstances. None of us have a right to judge someone when we don't know their circumstances. For the religious Jesus himself said not to judge others. The religious people on this discussion board seem very judgmental to me.

As for the religious argument, abortions have occurred for thousands of years yet the Bible never even mentions abortion. Sharpened sticks, poisonous herbs, and pressure on the abdomin were commonly used to bring about abortions. If abortion is really murder and is supposedly such a terrible sin why is it never mentioned in the Bible? The early Christian church actually taught that abortion was acceptable until the fetus' movements could be felt by the mother. This is approximately the middle of the pregnancy.

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I'm 100% pro-choice, while adoption is more preferable as there are many couples out there who cannot concieve and adoption is their only course of action, it is ultimately the Womans choice. For those who are in favour of illegalising Abortion, you have some serious issues that you need to work out. Abortions will always happen whether they are illegal or not, like drugs, and it is 100% safer for the woman to have a safe, legal procedure in a private and annonymous situation. Emphasising, of course, the annonymous (particularly in America as the middle seems to be stuck in the 1950s), as there is still a lot of stigma in these states particularly between parent and child, so the teen or whoever deserves legal protection from disclosure and public critisism.

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"Murders will always happen no matter what you do, so make it illegal? What about rape, theft, perjury.. because it always happen should we just legalize it?"


Well thats different. Rape and murder being legal isn't going to make anything SAFER for the individul. Its not so simplistic.

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You are comparing apples and oranges. Murder, rape and other violent crimes are done by brutal psycopaths out of malice and hatred.

Abortions are usually done by the poor, teenagers, substance abusers, rape and incest victims, mothers who lives are at risk due to a pregnancy, etc. It is an act of desperation and helplessness, not malice, done by people who are unable to care for the child they are carrying. Anyone who is unable to see the difference between a violent crime and an act of helplessness lacks compassion and wisdom.

A friend of mine was raped by her uncle when she was 16. She aborted the baby that resulted. The rape was traumatic enough for her. Imagine how much more trauma would have been inflicted if she had been forced to give birth to his child as well. Thankfully a legal and safe abortion was available to her.

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Firstly, its not murder as you are not killing a human being. Secondly, its already legal, idiots (aka republicans) are the ones trying to make it illegal. Basically the republicans are not happy with the removal of goo so they intend to kill the pregnant woman as payback for doing something as irresponsible as having sex. Idiot.

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Abortions have occurred for thousands of years and they will occur for thousands more whether the antiabortion crowd likes it or not. I wish these so called prolifers would put their energy into helping the millions of unwanted kids who are already here instead of doing their best to bring more unwanted kids into the world.

My sister is a teacher in an inner city middle school. She said that most of the kids she teaches have been abandoned by their fathers and many have been abandoned by their mothers as well. She says many don't have any adult who really cares about them or who shows an interest in them. A lof of them are already substance abusers. She says many of these kids will end up dropping out of school, in jail, pregnant, drug addicted, etc. She tries her best to have a positive influence on them to prevent this from happening but of course there is only so much she can do.

Unfortunately, anti abortion folks generally don't give a damn about these kids once they're born. Ideally every child born should be loved and wanted. We should keep abortion safe and legal and not force people to have children they are unable or unwilling to care for.

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Just to start off, let me say that I am NOT Christian. I am a Deist and I am against abortions in MOST (but not all) cases.

Let me start off with the acceptions: Rape, incest, children under consenting age, and ONE time deals (most people who get abortions get MULTIPLE abortions).

It's called self responsibility. If you have unprotected sex, you're fault. You even have at least 2 days afterwards to prevent pregnancy if you do so.

Some of you say "Children should grow up in a loving environment. We shouldn't force people to have children they dont want!"
And you know what? Women who get pregnant DONT need to keep their children. They can put them up for adoption. There are so many people who would love to adopt children but cant. Why not give life to a human and let them grow up in a loving environment?

I know 2 girls who got pregnant in high school, and you know what they did? They kept there children and they are all doing just fine. Yes, it was all very difficult for all of them, but they all love the children they have and wouldnt give them up for the world. No, their lives are not "over." There are so many helpful programs out today for women with unwanted pregnancies that proves that they can succeed and raise their children.

I love how everyone here seems to call the pro-lifers "intolerant" when I'm not seeing much tolerance at all for other views. No, I dont think that those who get abortions should be tried for murderer, but I do think that women should think before they get an abortion. It's one thing to make a mistake once and get an abortion, its another thing to use it as a form of birth control, which is extremely unhealthy. Abortion's raise a woman's chances of breast cancer by 300%.

No, I will not join anti-abortion protests.
And no, I dont think of abortion as the same as murder.
I do, however, think its a very sad process that should be taken more seriously. If you're unwed, there are things you can do to have a great life with an unplanned child. Abortion should be a last resort, not a form of birth control.

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Adoption???? PLEASE.


Where are all of these supposedly "pro life" people once these babies are born? The non-white, crack addicted, less-than-perfect babies that are unwanted by their mothers? Somehow, I don't see these fetus-protectors stepping up to adopt all of the unwanted children out there.

All of those childless couples who are going outside the US to adopt cute little Chinese babies, or paying $10,000 for a healthy white infant.... why aren't they adopting the THOUSANDS of unwanted children in this country?

"they kept there (sic) children and they are all doing fine". Well, how nice for them. Unfortunately for the other kids who are kept and subsequently abused or killed by their unfit or drug-addicted parents, the picture is not so rosy. There ARE things worse than never having been born.

Abortion needs to be a safe and legal option for all women. This films makes that crystal clear.

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I'm am not from US of A, and here's the same:
This discussion leads nowhere. The "pro-life" people would only change their mind if happens to someone of their family, or close friend.

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"But that is just a pipe dream."

Yup.

Its just an idealistic fantasy that will never happen because its against human nature.

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I'm Against abortions only for the exception of rape and incest





times are had for dreamers.._amélie, toujours

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I personally think that is a messed up mindset tbh, basically saying "a baby should not be killed, unless it's father is a rapist or it may be disabled".

Count your blessings not your curses - My Grandma

God bless John Paul II

All war represents a failure of diplomacy - Tony Benn

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Whilst I personally don't think I would have an abortion, I am 100% for it. Not just in a 'teenage rape case' but for any woman who mentally isn't prepared to have a child at that particular time of her life. Surely it is worse for a woman to go through 9 months of knowing that when the child is born she will not be able to offer it the love and support it needs? Yes you may argue that during the 9 months she may learn to love the child that is growing inside of her or that she can give it up for adoption when born, but what if she can't find the love? What if whilst carrying the child she resents what is growing inside her and neglects the growing childs needs BEFORE birth? A child needs 100% love, support and affection even before being born. Anyway, if abortion was made illegal again, backstreet abortionists would appear everywhere and the results would be catastrophic. Don't get me wrong, woman who choose abortion as a way of contraceptive are morally wrong and for this I don't agree. One abortion is a womans choice. Two or more is just careless.

Silly Caucasian girl likes to play with Samurai swords.

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Ah, the justice of eugenics

Count your blessings not your curses - My Grandma

God bless John Paul II

All war represents a failure of diplomacy - Tony Benn

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i know someone who is a prolife and her daugther was has an unwanted pregancy, but they never get rid of the child, they say only those who has no regard on what they stand for they they wavered.. what sort of a person is that anyway, its like the DEATH PENALTY.. but if theri loved one is being murder they stand for PRO DEATH PENALTY.. makes me think that anger is reason out over their what they believe.. ANGER leads to frustration .. but good judgement leads to a better desicion and a PEACEFUL mind

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Adoption???? PLEASE.

Where are all of these supposedly "pro life" people once these babies are born? The non-white, crack addicted, less-than-perfect babies that are unwanted by their mothers? Somehow, I don't see these fetus-protectors stepping up to adopt all of the unwanted children out there.

All of those childless couples who are going outside the US to adopt cute little Chinese babies, or paying $10,000 for a healthy white infant.... why aren't they adopting the THOUSANDS of unwanted children in this country?
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Get your facts straight. There are hundreds of thousands of couples who would love to adopt children in this country but cant because there arent enough. It's about 127,000 children for 600,000 applicants. My aunt (who cannot physically have her own children) tried for EIGHT years to adopt a child but eventually gave up.

http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/FactOverview.html#head

Please state where I said that abortion should be banned. Dont look too hard because I didnt say that. Abortion needs to be kept legal for safty reasons, the whole point of my post is to say that abortion isn't the only option. People can live a good life even with having children out of wedlock and keeping them.

Besides, there are hundreds of different pregnancy preventatives out there, all very easily obtainable.

Like I said, but I'll say it again since some seem to think I'm completely anti-abortion:
Abortion should only be a last resort, not the first choice.

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"v and laurie are the only people here w/ brains. What a surprise."

Well I'd agree with you about laurie, but you and V appear to be a different story ;)

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"We should keep abortion safe and legal and not force people to have children they are unable or unwilling to care for."

I agree.

HOWEVER...

We should also not make women have abortions like threatening to fire them (or expel them from school) if they're pregnant or husbands, boyfriends and parents being emotionally and financially unsupportive. A lot of women have abortions not because they do not want to have a baby but the people surrounding her does not allow her that choice to have a baby.

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"Abortion is a form of murder plain and simple. No matter what you say is going to change the fact. "

Murder is a legal term, it is a crime that you cannot be guilty of unless found so my a court of law. The bare faced facts love is that abortion, being that it is legal, is not murder.

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110% against.

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