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Very uncomfortable watching this


I have a great taste for art movies, but I'm afraid this is waters Hollywood should never tread. I'm almost left sad just thinking of an incredible talented group of people getting together to make a great movie, and then making a movie like 'this'. Watching Dolores tease and cajole throughout the movie felt unnatural, foreign and just plain uncomfortable. It's an interesting story I'm very glad I saw, but just as sad that I actually saw it. I appreciate it, but never want to think of it again. Confusing explanation, but this is what the movie left me with. My girlfriend felt the same way in the end.

Did any else feel the same way while watching this?

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I don't understand how you can think that this sort of content is "waters Hollywood should never tread."

I get that it's sensitive subject matter, but this movie is based on a very famous book. The fact that we have such great actors and film makers that can bring these sorts of stories to life is quite incredible.

Just because something is strange, disturbing, or taboo is no reason to think it should not even exist! Life is about contrast, we can't have love without hate, we can't have comfort without discomfort. When you see a film such as this that you find "uncomfortable" take it in stride as a lesson learned and try to see the silver-lining; at the very least it will help you enjoy the movies that make you feel "comfortable" that much more based on contrast alone.



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Its just a movie with actors. Grow a pair

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It's not that I'm FOR ephebophilia, but is interesting this movie makes people "uncomfortable". No one gets upset, say, at a movie where TWENTY teenage girls are horribly murdered by a serial killer. The only explanation for that is it doesn't strike "as close to home" as a movie like this does.

In some cases it may because a person suffered some kind of sexual predation when they were younger, but with most men--let's face it--it's probably because they THEMSELVES are sexually tempted by teenage girls. It's my experience though that if you ACCEPT that about yourself it doesn't bother you. A lot of girls between 14-18 can be quite attractive to adult males, but a NORMAL adult male has enough judgment and self-control not to have sex with them. So if you don't feel you have to overly repress yourself and you can ADMIT that Sue Lyon and Dominique Swain were mature enough to be kind of attractive, this FICTIONAL movie shouldn't make you especially "uncomfortable".

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In some cases it may because a person suffered some kind of sexual predation when they were younger, but with most men--let's face it--it's probably because they THEMSELVES are sexually tempted by teenage girls. It's my experience though that if you ACCEPT that about yourself it doesn't bother you. A lot of girls between 14-18 can be quite attractive to adult males, but a NORMAL adult male has enough judgment and self-control not to have sex with them. So if you don't feel you have to overly repress yourself and you can ADMIT that Sue Lyon and Dominique Swain were mature enough to be kind of attractive, this FICTIONAL movie shouldn't make you especially "uncomfortable".



Very true.

Sadly, most people don't seem to be brave enough to admit that. Instead, when someone actually tries to explain how all of this works, people will look at him like he's some sort of pervert as well.

Without realizing that this is part of us, as human beings. No need to sugarcoat it: most adult men DO find girls between 14-18 attractive. BUT....as you said, they have enough self-control and know that there's a line that should not be crossed.



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Agreed. Teen girls, especially these days, look better than most adult women, with the confidence to match, but if they're not at least 17, depending on your state laws, they shouldn't be touched or considered. My own mother doesn't even find anything wrong with it as does other members of my family admit that its normal.

By the way, who's to say what the next "sexual" movement might be, since the homosexual right has been passed. Things will be interesting in the next 15-20 years with what we're already seeing now.

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The novel, and the movies made from it, are supposed to be uncomfortable. The story is about this hapless guy whose life is completely fucked up because of his obsession with a sexually precocious pubescent girl. Of course it's uncomfortable! It's also brilliant.

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