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Terrible Message.

posted 15 years ago by APWindows
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Spoiler for the those of you who haven't seen it.

I understand family and being with people you care about is important, but she quit her dream job in order to be with her best friend/boyfriend. It was a little ridiculous. She only there but a few weeks, and then dropped everything and moved across the country. I hope she realizes that the job market really isn't that great, and that she was lucky to have job. This isn't the time quit simply because you miss your boyfriend.

From the movie, I could tell that her dream job wasn't everything she thought it would be, but what job is? She needed to spend a little more time there before she gave up everything for a boy.

At least she's young and can get a new job...and that's the only silver lining.

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[–] SlicrSnipe 14 years ago

The guy friend-turned boyfriend was awful. I mean, the movie all but comes right out and says "If someone is devoted to you romantically, then you're kinda messed-up if you don't feel the same way." *beep* Sometimes you just don't like the person that way. The guy's admission that he's been in it all along in hopes that she'll come around (and then his passive-aggressive attitude in deciding to go to school without telling her)implies that their relationship will be full of him throwing a fit whenever things don't go his way.

They were best friends for 4 years, and failed to fall in love, and then suddenly it all works out?

And SOMETIMES, guys and girls can JUST BE BEST FRIENDS. Even if the guy is straight. Movies like this hit you over the head with "If your best friend is of the opposite sex, unless he's gay (which they do in these movies a lot, too) you should just date."

Also kind of pointless that, in spite of her hard work and determination, she lucks into the VERY FIRST JOB SHE INTERVIEWED FOR, same as if she had just sat on her ass the whole time. The movie had a good "Things don't work out like you plan" thing going, and then did a 180 at the end to say "Never mind, they do."

[–] calliopestar 13 years ago

You think they showed that job "worked out" for her? LOL. She was scraping sh*t off her boss's shoe for cripe'as sake! LOL!

I think the message was very much that "things don't work out like you plan". And maybe even that life isn't so much about what you do as who you share it with.

If she didn't get the job, then her decision to follow him to NYC would have maybe been more like her giving up or settling. Like he even said to her--once you get the hard part figured out and know what you want, you go after it. The hard part of her figuring things out was what the movie was about, and led her to realize how she truly felt.

I think what *she* did in blowing Adam off on his big night was worse than anything else. He's supposedly her best friend, has been there for her in every way we could imagine from the beginning of the film, yet she can't manage to be there for him on the ONE time he asks? LOL. Imagining that this character shouldn't be allowed to feel hurt and pissed off for a few days wouldn't even make him human. Admitting to someone--while hurt and pissed off--that you had feelings for them for a long time but now can accept that it's not going to happen is kind of understandable. I didn't see him throwing a fit. Plus he did forgive her, and we already knew he had the choice to go to law school in the first five minutes of the movie, so I'm missing where any ultimatum comes into it.

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[–] nikkiten1979 13 years ago

wow I guess i'm one of the very few who liked this movie. Maybe i'm old fashioned and maybe i'm not a typical feminist or maybe i'm not a feminist at all. Why is a job more important than someone who loves you unconditionally? someone who can love you unconditionally, do everything it takes to make you happy and feel safe and secure is better than getting some so-called dream job.

in this movie Alexis' character is very driven, she is strong yet she is still family oriented in her own way. she has a strong bond with Adam and it might not be obvious that she likes him in a romantic way, but to me it was VERY obvious that it wasn't impossible. For some girls it's not that easy to just start acting on certain feelings with a bestfriend even if you want to act on it and sometimes you're too afraid to lose that dynamic, afraid it might not work out for whatever reason and lose that friend forever because you really don't have that many other friends, which she didn't.

I loved Adam because he was so forgiving and mild tempered, which was his best quality, and thoughtful, creative, simple & of course hot. maybe i see myself in him, our personalities are very similar, or maybe i see myself in her where i would act the same as her - follow the man i love because i know that i will be able to find a job there. i don't want to come to an empty house when i know there is a place where i can be that isn't empty and where another opportunity can be found no matter how hard it might be.

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can't outrun your own shadow

[–] Howlin Wolf 13 years ago

That's movies for ya. Choices of the heart trump all. (which, personally, I think is the way it should be!)

This is where the magic happens... and by "magic", I mean nothing.

[–] mrsengk 13 years ago

My wife and I just finished watching this on HBO. I know it's supposed to be a light-hearted girly movie, but we both agreed the ending was just dumb. He already rejected her once on the basketball court. So then she gives up her job, flies 3000 miles to the most expensive city in the US with no job or living situation for a boy, and we're supposed to think everything is going to be hunky-dory?

[–] NancyLou9 13 years ago

I can understand your angst with regard to the ending. In the real world, no, you don't walk away from a good "dream" job even if there are a few bumps in the road.

No, the movie doesn't send a very good message on managing relationships, that you should just pack everything up and move 3,000 miles on a "maybe".

However, on the flipside of this...

For someone who wants to get a job in the publishing biz, New York City is the hub for this and is a target rich environment.

Also, the other message(s) is: life can't be predicted and being as rigid as she was, she was a nervous breakdown and/or alcohol or drug addiction waiting to happen, being as tightly controlled as she kept herself. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith; in other people, in yourself, in the world.

This leap of faith, however, is much easier to do when you're 22 and fresh out of college than if you're 42 and have a family to support... Life gets harder as each decade passes. And then you hit about 60, the kids are grown, the mortgage is paid off and the IRA is in pretty good shape. Then it gets fun again.

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[–] bruno-costa 12 years ago

She quit her first job to go NY...
This is not a big deal.
Most of people didn't know what really want from life at 22.
And relantionships are very important.
This movie is about seek happyness and live the life.
Being afraid is not a great way to live your life.
And by the way: she has suport from other people.

[–] gossipgirlrockstar 12 years ago

There's a line though. What's more important? Someone you love or a job? When you die what will you regret? Not getting that job or losing the person you loved because of a job?

I mean there's the part of me that thinks hey girl you shouldn't give up your job for a guy. But then there's the other part of me that recognizes that people are more important than a job.

Which as has been stated she didn't enjoy. I mean if she loved it I'd say then it would have been utterly silly. But she didn't care for it so choosing the boy you love makes more sense. Because getting a job is difficult but not as difficult as getting the one you love back.

It's a rock and a hard place.

Reality is a lovely place, but I wouldn't want to live there.

[–] saintanger3 12 years ago

Deciding to be with someone you love is a terrible message????