Julie's Husband was just. . . gross - Julie & Julia (2009) Discussion

[–] IdaRose 14 years ago

I can't get past those gross noises myself. Couldn't stand it when I was a kid, and it's never left me. Yuck.

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[–] thereseuphemiaabernathy 14 years ago

I can't get past those gross noises myself. Couldn't stand it when I was a kid, and it's never left me. Yuck.

UGH, same here!

In the beginning I thought he was a great guy, but as the movie went on some things (this among them) caused me to like him less. Seems many people noticed his...uh...not so attractive behaviors. ><

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[–] maisie1951 14 years ago

That's funny! I kept calling him "the dishrag" at first, but after a while his character seemed more like that of a dog: the slurping, the idea that he was only interested in food and sex, the eagerness, and the easy make-up. I might not have the dialogue right, but after the big fight, "Say you're back," she says, and he says "What's for dinner?" Nice.

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[–] lemoncello 14 years ago

In the both the character's and actor's defense, he was directed to act that way. It was one of the more interesting parts of the dvd commentary. It's weird, but I didn't even pick up on the grossness of the guy because I was too busy wondering what the attraction was to Julie before the food LOL

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[–] simba-18 14 years ago

The slurping did fit the role. He was supposed to be enjoying the food, so...it didn't bother me. I was salivating watching her cook that delicious looking food.

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[–] hab_eg 14 years ago

hmm, why wasn't i bothered by all these noises: they are acting, the character is meant to do them. and, come on, aren't some men really like that..???
I found him rather sweet, supportive, childish and in a way very manly..
it would also have been very unrealistic if he would be like Julia's husband with his fine, diplomatic background..Julie and her husband were meant to be an All-American couple who is reinventing herself and her life based on the legacy of Julia Child, no wonder Julia found her annoying and didn't meet her in real life

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[–] peskate 14 years ago

The husband was very annoying. I couldn't stand him either.

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[–] loredanaghidarcea 14 years ago

I liked him.

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[–] mv-nsoen 14 years ago

me too! i liked how supporting he was. my favourite part was when julia was rejected by the publishers and he said *beep* them" to the publisher:) it was so cute!

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[–] celebrateslife 14 years ago

I like Stanley Tucci and I think he's a marvelous actor, but not so in this movie.

Team Jacob

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[–] shananika 14 years ago

I agree. I liked him too. I'd actually like to meet a guy like him! He's cute, he's funny, he's laid-back, and he's supportive (even when his wife acts like a psycho). The eating made me laugh because I thought it was a bit exaggerated, but it didn’t bother me. I know a few men who have much worse eating habits than him, and the food they're eating isn’t anything special.

Actually, Julie was the only one who ever bothered me. I liked her, but she was a bit too obsessed with Julia. She doesn’t even know the woman and yet she acts like she’s her sister or her best friend.

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[–] Alisa-86 14 years ago

There's a way of making food look more delicious by the way you eat it. He should've been directed to do this. He made it look like he was cramming in day old pizza after a big night out.

Hey, that's 'O-neh-ders'.

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[–] Shattered_Wake 14 years ago

Well, I think the point was to try to show that he was really enjoying the food. . . but, they did it in such an awful way. He could say "mmm" or "this is delicious!" or just use facial expressions. . . instead of crunching and slurping and talking with his mouth full. You'd think that the woman who slaved away for hours making some complicated dish would stop and say, "C'mon, take it easy and savour it."

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[–] loredanaghidarcea 14 years ago

it seems that most people on this thread live in some sort of fine manners book. have you never spoken wit your mouth full, have you never liked eating something so much that you gulp it down like it's your last meal?

I know it's not polite, or pretty or that healthy but we've all done it. they were alone, in their house, enjoying a meal ... didn't find anything awful about that.

ask the spokesperson, I don't have a brain

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[–] Shattered_Wake 14 years ago

When I was a disgusting kid I spoke with my mouth full or drooled food. She was slaving for hours to make fine meals. And he was wasting them. He was disgusting and anyone who resembles him is well.

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[–] loredanaghidarcea 14 years ago

oh, good for you! glad you settled that one :roll of eyes:

ask the spokesperson, I don't have a brain

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[–] Azurejewel30 14 years ago

I agree. Good manners are good manners. I only ever acted this way as a child and even then I was reprimanded for doing it. Guess what? I learned to not eat that way and developed manners. My husband and I are both this way, even in our own home. If someone was eating like that around me, I would put their food in a bowl on the floor. Going to eat like an animal? Eat it on the floor with the dogs. People are so defensive about this, it is pretty funny.

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[–] TheTARDISNamedSexy 14 years ago

You said: Good manners are good manners.
You then said: If someone was eating like that around me, I would put their food in a bowl on the floor. Going to eat like an animal? Eat it on the floor with the dogs.

So according to you it is good manners to take someone's food that they are enjoying and put it on the floor so they can eat with the dogs? I find that very interesting, since I've never heard of that being in any etiquette book. Try not being a judgemental shrew and not telling people what good manners are when you don't have them yourself.

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[–] Howlin Wolf 13 years ago

Who should he have "good manners" for?! He's in his own house, sharing the company of his partner; I'm pretty sure he'd have more informal ways of letting her know he was enjoying the food - like, you know, talking to her about it...

Do you expect couples to sit in silence, or treat mealtimes as a social occasion to enjoy being with one another? I know which choice is more friendly; sure, it might not be the most 'proper' behaviour, but I'm assuming they've exchanged bodily fluids, so I think we can throw decorum out of the window! If she had a problem with his eating habits, she could playfully tell him it was gross, and to take more care.

Given the choice between defending behaviour you don't even have to think about, and being uptight, then I'll take defensive.

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[–] dathaler 10 years ago

"You'd think that the woman who slaved away for hours making some complicated dish...."

You think bruschetta is an hours-long project? Maybe if she BAKED the bread herself too. Otherwise, it's an hour tops.

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[–] lexiever-1 14 years ago

Wow lol I actually liked him eating like that I thought it was funny and cute. He's was enjoying that good grub!.

Lonely Chicago pie

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[–] Blondfashionisto 14 years ago

Someone made a comment about a 'food manners' book approach to food but I, too, found it quite gross when she (and especially her husband) ate the bruschetta and it was greasy and dripping all over. Now, I suppose some people might 'gobble' food up in the privacy of their homes but I don't really care to see it in a film. And, there are many instances where people enjoy their food with rapture (i.e. eyes closed or smiling) showing they love it without noisy chewing sounds and talking with their mouths full.

I'm not trying to preach here (and I am sure many people will probably disagree, too), but I think it's great when movies can actually TEACH us about somthing (i.e. manners, history,life, etc.). Yes, movies are there for entertainment but I love to come away from a movie learning more about something. And, since I knew very little about Julia Child, and even less about French cooking, I enjoyed the opportunity to get to learn more in this case.

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[–] Howlin Wolf 13 years ago

... but romantic partners know each other well enough to be relaxed in one anothers company, so therefore, 'manners' would naturally be looser in such a situation... (not saying that they don't exist at all, of course)

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[–] Howlin Wolf 13 years ago

Then I'd have to assume that you are an exception...

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[–] Howlin Wolf 13 years ago

Yes... but "good manners" makes it seem like we're back in school having a lecture on the subject... If one loves another person then they should by rights be capable of making a joke on the subject, which has a serious point to be made, underneath.

If another adult who I was friendly with told me in all seriousness to 'improve my manners' - however deserving such a rebuke might be - then I would feel as if I were being treated like a child. It's condescending to assume that out of two people on a supposedly equal footing, one has a better idea of what 'proper' conduct is. I just don't think that belittling someone I love would ever be the way to go. If you want to be taken seriously, then I think it's better to be playfully teasing about an issue, first.

When you're in a committed and lasting relationship with someone, then you tend to give a little ground - or compromise - on things that might be otherwise important to you, because you know you're in it for the long haul... Every married couple has bad habits that will annoy one another, but can you imagine them ever divorcing because of a disagreement over eating habits?! Personally I would find that ridiculous, and that's why I'm trivialising it... It seems like such a non-issue when you put it in perspective alongside other things that GENUINELY threaten a union; such as drifting apart, infidelity and such...

Dining etiquette is not worth arguing over, and if my future wife ever storms out of a room because she doesn't like the way I'm consuming my food, then yes; we would be having an argument about it, because that's ruder than the transgression that was committed, in the first place!

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[–] lilhoney42380 14 years ago

Honey, people were having foodgasms well before the Food Network came around!

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[–] scorpio22 14 years ago

Agreed. He was a hog. I hate it when people go "ummm, ahh, ummmm" when they eat.

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