Keri Russel wife lobotomized or WHAT?

true, good points.
Was so stunned to learn the real story & how they had many more children than represented in the movie which heightens his irresponsibility enormously.
And yep. TWO farms burned down.
All I was sayin'.
thank you for input.

Good points.

Yes, I know the sad history of our Nation & how many persons (not just women) were treated incredibly poorly.

Though we stand as the greatest number, (given we're half the population. I think right now slightly more than males) so kinda staggering to consider the actual reality of that time historically.

If anything I think it does show how men are more violent, conflict-oriented & "entitled" just by nature if you look solely in context of our past.

Because if you remove (just for hypothetical case) their greater physical strength than our sex (yes, I know it's only in MOST cases, not all), they still would've led a revolution FAR earlier in history than the suffragettes---again, if we happened to be a matriarchal-centered country, dominating & ruling our society than the other way around. Which unfortunately-- if you ask me, given the state of our world--has been patriarchal since the dawn of times.

Which too, if you read up in detail about that (suffragettes), it's unquestionably harrowing what many of those women suffered through JUST to get our vote!! Opposition came from all of society in general...NOT just the males.
Now THAT'S frightful, to know most women didn't even stand tall with them to start (too afraid perhaps? And yep, I GET it!).

They had to have courage & conviction beyond belief & I dunno if many women today, put in their shoes THEN, could stand & fight with them for this "vote" right as they lost EVERYTHING in many cases, most of all their husbands, family & worse, children. Early pioneers had zero support, many killed & most traumatized. I don't believe persons believe that today, this is how it was, but any historian will tell you honestly.

So blathering on again in attempt to say I do understand but still ignites my fury. I sit here with immense gratitude for when I was born as I'd not have made it into adulthood had I forged into that world, to assimilate into another time. Just what I believe.
Then again, I know most would argue one would KNOW no different so likely to be fine (enough! Tougher!!). I just doubt that.

This wife was not "fine"!

From what we know of history, some females were lucky or unlucky back then, it was the hand you were drawn & just had to deal with it.
Maybe you hit the lottery & married a decent man, progressive in thought that treated wife with profound respect & as equal or maybe you got beat up daily or killed, with no options to change it.

And this wife clearly appeared utterly uninterested in any polygamist arrangement.

Which even today, in more than 95% of the cases is male-privileged, male-structured.

Put better, often THEIR idea & clearly to THEIR advantage where it's STILL patriarchal in structure, they call the shots & are the "boss" so to speak.

Statistically where this polygamy-arrangements exist (in many Mormon sects still today in Utah), they are ones with the many wives, you rarely see it otherwise (reversal of sexes) except in fiction movies & TV.

To me, it's outrageous mental abuse of the worst kind (these women often appear more Stepford wives than the actual movie & in those frightful Amish dresses, either are brainwashed OR brainless).
Forget the moral implications, I am not speaking to that (to be clear, personally, doesn't sit with me nor my beliefs but hey...I don't tell others what to do so long as no one's hurt. Where kids are involved & they
ARE, I find it unacceptable as they live what they learn) but again, that's simply factual polygamy as it's most often in practice today (around the globe NOT just here in US). Male-centric (yeah, what a surprise!)

You're spot on that it wasn't true democracy as half the population was not involved & playing any role. But that's how our forefathers set things up & truly, a reflection of its time (women being "property"! I can only imagine the horrors of navigating life then with NO options & having to survive whatever unjustly came your way with no fairness or equity being part of life, much less being factored in).

Agreed--Everyone absolutely feels "entitled" today, maybe the children growing up now the most diluted & worst offenders. Often through no fault of their own, I know.

And while I agree divorce is often unavoidable, it's also a complex issue.
People have no actual regard for marriage.

Then, there too, due to our sense of entitlement & lack of compromise (this ME or as I call it, the "selfie" society), little thought is given to the value of this institution. Or the "family"!

There's also a distinct lack of community (ppl looking out & caring for each other OUTSIDE just the family) that existed where I grew up;
character is spiraling FAST on the downfall---it's far more Darwinian & not advancement but stepping backward. And in my values, character is the only thing I care about (in a person & their value as a human being. It encompasses a wide area).

Sacrifice is almost a dirty word today (imagine putting someone BEFORE yourself & your OWN needs. You must be a total moron right? Well NO...the reality is that it makes one a decent person.
I can't envision anyone even THINKING to put themselves before their kids but surely today, even that I see. Not very rare either. (kinda wonder why some bother to have them! AT times I think it's due to it being expected & almost another"keeping up with the Joneses!")

Sorry for rant.
Honestly don't think I have my head in the sand & believe me, I DO write here entirely grateful I lived when I do but I also see many things being the downfall of man happening RIGHT now as we exchange missives.

People that DO put their kids last in divorce (as it often plays out) are simply part of this ME culture prevalent today; in their very actions (if NOT in words!) everyone SWEARS the world must revolve around them (how delusional & dangerous is that ideology?).
If they did NOT, there would be NO Facebook, twitter & all the rest that flourished, where they are the STAR of their own little "show" everyday.
One where the WORLD needs to go so far as to GREATLY care what they are eating for dinner (better LIKE that, I'm counting...lol)
Narcissistic some? no...not some. ALL. People were NOT drawn to such egocentric traits in past years maybe due to trying to SURVIVE. I dunno, but just wasn't like this.

My regret for not completing my rant earlier.
Maybe 1% had anything to do with topic at hand...so excuse the indulgence. As an older sociologist I have FAR too many opinions about LIFE today, as well as yesteryear. We all have our deep downsides, that is abundantly clear.

I know this, as I try to be keen observer daily:
Man doesn't even have much respect for each other anymore.
And sadly, without THAT, I fear it to be a bleak outlook.
The persons we once held up, aspired to be---our trusted examples to strive for & model after, have radically changed & been replaced by basket of deplorables (mostly horrible athletes & celebrities). And NO, not trying to be political here at ALL but so LOVED the expression as it fits largely part of today's population & nope....people fail to GET IT!!.