Originally I thought he was just sad to see other people being so happy and he felt he could never be as happy as them.
However, I just replayed the scene like 6 times on my DVD player, and I think it actually is David. I mean it's from a side angle, but 3 additional things make me think it might be him:
1) Bobby is trying to get a hold of David from work and can't.
2) Next scene, Bobby is driving around (maybe trying to find David?) and spots two guys (one looks an awful lot like David) skipping happily out of the bar together and Bobby then begins to cry.
3) Bobby then goes back to work, turns in his key card, and kills himself.
We know that the two people who's love meant the most to Bobby was David's and his moms. His mom had already stopped loving him (or so he felt) and it's possible that when he saw David with another guy, he felt that it meant that David also stopped loving him and that was the straw that broke the camels back.
I don't think the films creators would have focused in on David though because the consequence for being unfaithful shouldn't be suicide. Any two people in a relationship have to discuss it with each other and decide if they will have a polyamorous relationship, or a monogamous relationship.
Most people I've known in monogamous relationships feel that love and sex can't be separated, so if someone has sex with someone else, then they're taking your love from you and giving it to that other person so they feel betrayed.
Where as most people I've known in polyamorous relationships (and we're talking everyone from strait married swingers, to gay couples who go to sex parties) seem to be able to separate love and sex from each other (love is "companionship and intimacy", while sex is "fun physical stimulation"), so your partner having sex with someone else is no direct threat to loosing the love you two share.
If David did stray, and that betrayal was enough for Bobby to kill himself over it, then I think we can assume they were in a monogamous relationship and Bobby therefore felt he lost David's love. Someone as emotionally fragile as Bobby was might not have been able to cope with that. But either way, focusing in on it in the film would have been moot because the real problem was Bobby's lack of love for himself which was the direct result of his upbringing.
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