...and yet when he falls asleep we have Amy spooning him. That has always been my number one issue with Shamy, the fact that Amy doesn't fully respect Sheldon's problems with intimacy and just keeps pushing him more and more. He has boundaries and I find it quite disturbing that she just ignores them. Anyone else feel this way?
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Amy doesn't fully respect Sheldon's problems with intimacy and just keeps pushing him more and more.Amy is trying to get Sheldon to get over his problems with intimacy. She is pushing him in the direction of being human and normal. No, I do not object to that.And she is having a certain amount of success. Slowly, but he is changing. Sheldon is not going to move unless he is pushed. And I do not think that Amy is going to accept a life without physical intimacy. So, Sheldon is either going to have to move toward what Amy finds necessary, or she is going to find it somewhere else.If Sheldon wants to find someone else with no interest in physical intimacy, fine, he can do that, but if he wants to stay with Amy, he will have to make a serious effort to give her what he needs, or she will find it elsewhere. share
He has boundaries and I find it quite disturbing that she just ignores them. Anyone else feel this way?
I think their relationship is grounded in how much Amy understands and to a degree, accepts Sheldon. It's difficult to compare it to anything because Sheldon isn't interested in sex (or in the very least he's scared of intimacy).
Their relationship currently amounts to this understanding she has for him and his desire for safe, status quo relations. Every so often she tries to escalate and/or Sheldon has a long stretch of being oblivious to Amy's concerns and needs. He comes to a realization, apologizes and makes a concession(eg. Sharing a toothbrush holder).
Essentially, Amy is negotiating intimacy with him. I don't think this works but hey, it's a Chuck Lorre sitcom in its 10th season.
She thinks she can negotiate intimacy with someone who has little interest in it, that isn't how relationships work or positively develop. Her options are take a cold shower and wait for him or find a new boyfriend.
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