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Do all black women want drama and thugged up guys?

posted 16 years ago by I-Sense-A-Plot
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Don't get offended ladies, I'm a black woman too.

I've been pondering this question because I too, have a strange attraction to aggressive men. Although, I wouldn't like a man if he were aggressive and poor.

If he becomes to aggressive and uncompromising like Buddha, it would turn me off. The tank top and mc hammer weight training pants would also turn me off. The "cone head" would have been a definite turn off. Buddha is not that cute.

A slightly less pussy whipped Tailor Made would do. 1.) he has an income. A surplus even. 2.) He's not bad on the eyes. 3.) He is conniving when it comes to getting what he wants. Tailor Made has the qualities of a man worth fooling around with but none of the qualities that make him worth taking home to mama.

Punk is the PERFECT MATE. The kind of man a woman should want to marry. However, to keep things interesting, you would have to go out of your way to drive him crazy.

Do you think Black women are more inclined to have an attraction to aggressive men? If your answer is "no", what are your reasons? If your answer is "yes" to this politically incorrect topic, then why?

Thanks for playing!
ISAP

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[–] Raven34 16 years ago

Black women are like any other women. NO we do not all want drama and thugs. I love men who are intelligent, sexy, mysterious, very respectful of women. Buddha is not anyone I would have chosen. He's too attracted to himself. Any man who uses intimidation to land a woman has issues. I hate drama period.

What do you consider aggressive? I'm assertive and aggressive myself. I like a man who doesn't allow society to decide who he is and how to behave. There was nothing sexy about Buuddha at all. He was arrogant, egotistical, conceited, violent and loved to intimidate. He clearly viewed women as less than men. No, he could have never been with me. Tailor Made was too much of a doormat. Aside from the fact that I'm not ayttracted to him.

Punk is physically what I like. I LOVE big, muscular men.He was intelligent, sensitive, caring. Punk was very respectful of NY always. Great catch.

[–] LadyGlamSlam 16 years ago

I have no attraction to men like that at all. I never have been turned on by guys who carry themselves like that. When I was younger, I had major crushes on the pretty boys like Punk. I had it bad for the strong but silent types. Right now, I am seeing someone with those qualities. (if you squint your eyes and tilt your head, he even LOOKS like Punk if he were kinda chubby...lol...but I met this guy at least 2 years before the show came out..)
Money isn't an object, either. But then again, my man and I both struggle for the dollars we make. We have a LOT in common. He isn't a pushover, though. He's gentle in the sense that he will cuddle, he will kiss, and it's usually him reaching for my hand first when we go out. He doesn't put up a front. On the other hand, he stands his ground. He puts up with certain things because he loves me. That doesn't mean he lays on the ground and lets me or anyone else step on him. (well, except for that one time he wanted to try out weird massage tactics...)
But of course the partial majority of women want a man like that. I am SURROUNDED by women in my city who want these street runnin' man and think I am a lame for having standards over what kind of man I want. I am attracted to men with goals, balanced humility/aggression ratios, and passion. I'm really not interested in a man with his pants hangin' below his butt and his mind on a constant hustle having to do with a thug's life...

Happy times!! ^_^

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[–] anxiety attack 16 years ago

There's not enough men in this world like Tailor Made. There should be more

Damn!! My posts attract so many nutty B-A-S-T-A-R-D-S!

[–] pynkpanther 16 years ago

most immature women and girls like bad men...this is not a black phenomena.

[–] AlexCoxxxxxx 16 years ago

Absolutely not to the original post. Hey, I am not Black but I have known and had black friends, and that is NOT all they want. Some are into the "thugs" but not ALL. Never say "all" do because thats incredibly untrue.

"Why do we fall sir? So we can learn to pick ourselves up."

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[–] kay_cee_d 16 years ago

I'm a black woman and I can't stand aggressive thug guys. They annoy the crap out of me, sorry, I hate it when they come up to me and say "Shorty...blah blah blah stupid line blah blah" And I usually don't know what they're saying because I actually speak proper English. I usually like guys who are driven and confident but not overly aggressive or anything. I like guys who work hard to get to where they want to be. I wouldn't want to date someone like Tailor Made, he's too easy to walk over. I would want someone who would have his own ideas and opinions, someone who wouldn't agree with every thing I said (that stuff gets tired). But I wouldn't want someone who was so combative that I wouldn't get a word in.

The spirit is eternal, deathless...

[–] pynkpanther 16 years ago

why should any black women feel compelled to dispel an obviously erroneous stereotype concerning the type of men they prefer, especially a stereotype conjured up by a television program? that's like attempting to defend the statement that all white women divorce, remarry and throw their children from the previous marriage to the dogs after the children get into drugs, crime and slothfulness like all the women on that show "real housewives of orange county".
you all act as if black women has thugs on lock, but i see few with skinheads, kkk, aryan fools or hell's angels, for example.

women are the same no matter where you go. this is why they have no problem speaking with and understanding one another once the preconceptions have been dismissed.

thugs = hoes...so answer me this:

do all white men want easy, whore-type women with no esteem?
does the above make all white men thugs?

maybe that's why new york really chose tailor made...hmmmmm....

[–] Paul_Kersey_Jr 16 years ago

Wow, If I were a black male I would find this discussion offensive.

In fact I do find it offensive!

This whole thread reeks of racism, sexism and misandry.
Shame on all of you.
You are lucky I don't have this deleted.

[–] kli753 16 years ago

No offense to some of the women on here, but this is insane! Women really don't have any keen sense on what they want in a man. To want the type the threadstarter wants is pretty nuts. She seems like someone who hasn't fully matured and doesn't grasp what it means to be an independent woman (obviously attracted to the "protective" traits in a man). A real woman should appreciate a human being that she can connect with and feels a special bond with (imagine if you picked out friends this way! We'd all be crying about being friendless). A relationship is about a mutual connection that's higher than what we think our conscience minds/instincts want.

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