What were they thinking?! - The Duchess (2008) Discussion

[–] citromle 15 years ago

He doesn't know that at 5?

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I am confused. Why does Ross, the largest 'Friend' not simply eat the others?

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At FIVE? I should sure hope he doesn't know at five!!! What kind of mother tells their child about that kind of thing at age five?? Eight, maybe. At the earliest. Preferably more like 9.
And with the way ratings are being stretched these days, anyone going to a PG-13 movie should be at least 13. Maybe even 14.

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[–] chocolatechar 15 years ago

my mom told me at 5. not a good idea, as i didnt know what to do with the information. i just tried to impress my kindergarten classmates by my knowledge.

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[–] ah_cynicism 14 years ago

My mum told me at 3, and gave me a biology book. I am eternally grateful as it meant I grew up with a mature attitude to sex rather than a silly one.

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[–] citromle 15 years ago

When you're 9 you're in third grade. If you're in third grade, you know about sex and naughty things. But you don't understand them. And they fascinate you. So you discuss it with your friends and watch porn and such. So isn't it better if your mother tells you about it first? At least you'll know the truth, and not what some other 9 year old and porn told you. There are many things that can *beep* up a 5 year old. Seeing this movie is not one of them.

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I am confused. Why does Ross, the largest 'Friend' not simply eat the others?

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[–] Writerchick10 15 years ago

That bugs me. I see this a lot now, not just with movies but with parents allowing their children to watch mature adult oriented television. My parents were kind and loving enough to give me a childhood, and that includes following a set of guidelines. PG-13 meant I had to be 13, and I was in sixth grade before my mother would answer my questions about sex. I see these people on shows like Gossip Girl, having sex, drinking, and going on as if they're adults at age 16, and I feel so sorry for them. Except for their wardrobe, I certainly don't envy them. Don't take your kids to see movies that aren't G or PG...get a babysitter! That's what they're for.

"You are exactly my brand of heroin."

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[–] madi-840-42222 13 years ago

I see this a lot now, not just with movies but with parents allowing their children to watch mature adult oriented television. My parents were kind and loving enough to give me a childhood, and that includes following a set of guidelines

^^This, the other day when I was walking home I saw a five/six ear old kid throwing a tantrum in a park with his parents, fair enough but he goes as far as to call him a "bast-rd" . . . I was of course really shocked but the parents only looked at each other, wondered alloud where he had heard it & decided it must have been from the films & TV shows he was watching.
My parents would let me watch films that had a higher rating than my age at the time but only when they were watching it with me & able to explain things I didn't understand or they would fast forward, they never took me to films that weren't age appropriate though & it baffles me that parents take really young kids to things they won't understand & so will either be bored or will question everything for 2 hours, ruining the experience for everyone elses

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[–] Radrian_Grason 9 years ago

PG-13 meant I had to be 13

PG-13 is a cautioning to parents that something may or may not be something they want their child exposed to, not a rule that a child must be thirteen. It's the parent's decision what content their children watch, not yours.

{Look at me and mah clevah nicksies.}

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[–] ebonytower 15 years ago

Yeah... When I saw the rating this film had, I was very shocked. If I had seen this at 13, I would have hated it/been very confused.

Don't know what the film rating board is thinking. Apparently it's alright for a thirteen year old to witness rape and complicated adult relationships. Dear god.

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[–] hc_afifan 15 years ago

Don't know what the film rating board is thinking. Apparently it's alright for a thirteen year old to witness rape and complicated adult relationships. Dear god.

Yeah, because that would be just horrible if kids grew up thinking that their relationship isn't guarenteed to work out and if they had any understanding of what goes into one. And they didn't show the rape...it was more implied than anything. I would have no problem letting a thirteen-year-old see this movie, as long as they're mature enough to understand it and at least try to have some compassion. It was far more tame than just about any PG-13 comedy that's come out in the past few years. Rating aren't "one size fits all", there are some kids this just wouldn't be right for.

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[–] suger_puff_ 15 years ago

I totally agree.
There have been a few times where I've seen adult films where parents have brought their children and it's just been completely inappropriate. I believe that whether or not a child can fully comprehend a situation is besides the point, it's still something that's mature and intended for the adult world, and that's going to affect a child. When I was a kid adulthood was something that was really confusing and scary, and so when I was witness to more adult scenes in films it just freaked me out.
I think that ratings are usually there for a reason, something which I decided at the age of about 12 or 13, after seeing a film that was rated R. I cannot recall what the film was, but it left me a bit traumatized for quite a while afterwards, and also wishing that I hadn't watched it. After that I'd check out a film's rating and if it was rated R I would literally say to myself, "I'll just watch that when I'm older."
Having said that, there are some kids who are mature and secure enough in themselves that they wouldn't be as bothered by watching a film intended for adults, though I'd say the majority of kids aren't entirely prepared to watch more adult situations.
Just my opinion anyway.

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[–] jschillig 15 years ago

Oh, I can top this.

When my friend Alan and I went to see From Hell (a Jack The Ripper-themed movie starring Johnny Depp) there was a couple with a four-year-old girl in front of us. She didn't make any noise, but I wouldn't want her nightmares.

I mean, as Alan said later...this is not a movie about Jack The Accountant! And that idiot couple should have KNOWN that!

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[–] galluslass 15 years ago

ha, went to see I Am Legend and there were very young children there. Never mind the scary, violence - it would have bored any child to tears. And I felt bad taking my 4 and 7 yr olds to see Coraline which I hadn't researched properly and was quite scary.

Also talking about the older generation, remember my mum babysitting my niece (who was still very young) and settling down to watch Alien 3 with her until I asked her if she really thought it was appropriate and that it was extremely scary and violent to say nothing of an ugly attempted rape. Bless my old mum, she would have let us watch anything and often did!!

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[–] TwinkiePon 15 years ago

I thought the same thing when I went with my friend to see Transformers and his mom told him to take his 5 year old brother with him. Just from the previews I didn't think Transformers would be appropriate and maybe too violent, but they started talking about masturbation I was like "Um..."

Oh well, when that kid ends up being f-ed up in the head, his parents will know who to blame.

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[–] Regina_Giddens 15 years ago

No, kids shouldn't be kept ignorant about sex. Of course they don't need all the details, but ignorance is how sexual abuse happens.

In and out of weeks and almost over a year to Where The Wild Things Are...

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[–] madi-840-42222 13 years ago

I agree but a five year old doesn't need to know about masturbation . . . just the general mechanics of it

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[–] silver_fly 15 years ago

i know, I myself have seen lots of parents bring small kids to movies that aren't meant for them. poor kids must be trying to figure out what the hell is going on. Well, my parents brought me to watch Titanic when I was 5 or 6. I was wondering why Jack and Rose were fogging up the window in the car...and then a hand goes over my eyes to protect me from undesired information...

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[–] kylebryant50 15 years ago

Maybe the stupid mother shouldn't take her 5 year old to a PG13 movie. Also its based on a true story, it wouldn't take 5 mins to look on wikipedia that there were affairs and illegitimate children and might just have some sexual situations.

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[–] colt45joe 15 years ago

dude, i went to see the wrestler, and there was this guy and he brought 3 kids along with him to see the movie.

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[–] hc_afifan 15 years ago

Not movie-related, but I recently saw a kid who was maybe 10, at the most, buying a copy of Grand Theft Auto. Now that's just wrong, regardless of how "mature" he is.

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[–] pjsembrdry 15 years ago

Perfect example of kids not understanding, look at Atonement. She saw something she did not understand. When you're too young to understand, you'll cook up all sorts of ideas and answers in your head. There is plenty of time to be an adult when you get old enough, let them be kids, use discretion people. If you can't afford a babysitter, forget taking them to improper movies for their understanding. Having kids means sacrificing.

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[–] blondiechickwooooman 15 years ago

I have a great mom, but she's warped that way, she took me and my sis to all the drive-in movies and crazy ones, like GOOGLE "Prophecy" it scared the crap out of us!!! My mom still does that to this day and I'm like MOOOOOM!She loves her scary, dramatic, thriller movies and doesn't believe in censoring children I guess.

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