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The Kids are All Right, Thanks to Paul.


Let's observe the redeeming character qualities of Paul and the positive impact he had on his biological childrens' lives.

1. He provided Nic and Jules the chance to conceive a boy and girl, giving the Children an opportunity to live by donating his sperm in the first place. He could have kept it to himself. Then where would the kids be? They wouldn't be alright, they'd be non-existent. Or worse, Nic and Jules obtain sperm from a different donor, a man named Pervus Elkroy who lied about his health history and becomes a con-man drug dealer. Those kids pursue that father and the $h!t hits the fan when Jules bones Pervus after sampling his strawberry kush bud, Pervus murders Nic, puts Joni out to trick and teaches Laser about the dope game. Suddenly, Paul's sperm looks pretty good right about now doesn't it? Although Pervus Elkroy would have made for a more interesting movie IMO.

2. Paul enters the children's lives only after THEY INVITE HIM IN. He was never imposing or pre-judging (like Nic had a tendancy to be), and he never tried to push his beliefs onto them. He quickly became a father on-call, something I'd say he adjusted to quite well because their was a mutual appreciation for the new dynamic Paul provided as a fatherly figure.

2a. Paul helps Laser understand self-respect and restraint and avoiding the "tools" like Klay, therefore giving Laser a new direction in life. Something Nic and Jules alone couldn't properly identify. They thought he was gay. In fact, they actually tell him straight faced they wished he was gay because according to their distorted rationale, gay = sensitive. Lame and very misguided.

2b. Paul respectfully helps Joni understand her overbearing Alpha parental unit Nic in the gardening scene, which led to her embracing of freedom on the motorcycle, and gives her a real taste of independence. Something Nic and Jules couldn't provide, and in NIc's case, forbidden.

3. Paul gives Jule's confidence in her profession, something she admits wasn't available from Nic. Something else Nic couldn't do was make sex-inducing strawberry rhubarb. If only Paul wasn't so irresponsible with his strawberry rhubarb recipe as to give it to a weak woman like Jules, innevitably making her crave the male reproductive organ to penetrate her mercilessly. Damn you Paul, you should have known better! That strawberry rhubarb gets the best of those weak lesbian women.

4. Paul's lifestyle is simple, with a respectable profession in co-op local farming and restraunt owner. He certainly doesn't appear to be the type of person looking to take advantage of others like a shady banker, attorney, or Pharmaceutical rep. He really appeared to be a leading a decent life.

5. Paul breaks off his relationship with Tanya as his feelings for Jules grow stronger. His tendancy towards mongomy is based on starting a family, even though it isn't truly his family, he's showing respect towards Tanya and Jules by dedicating himself to one woman.

6. Even though he knows he's going to be labled the bad guy, Paul desperately pleas for ongoing communication with the kids. And despite his positive impact, he is forced to accept they don't want him around, because apparently he's the one who didn't respect their family...even though they sought him out, Jules made the move on him, and he simply went with the flow...he's got to accept this as reality. A truly idiotic reality, but reality none of the less.

The only character flaw that handcuffed Paul setting him up for an ambush later was when Paul expressed disinterest of teams or team sports. To basically imply in foreshadowing effect that he has no respect for the team concept, or in this case, families. That set him up to fail. His poorly timed gesture towards Laser that took form in the shape of an awkward smile after his confrontation with Nic made him seem disrespectful and childish when in all actuality he's really a cool guy with great potential as a father. Unfortunately, that isn't the reality this psycho family wants for itself. Paul, the kids are all right because of you!

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Easypz, EXCELLENT analysis here. I do think that it's likely that Paul will have a relationship with the kids at some point in the future (symbolized by Joni deciding to take the hat he gave her, to college), and I also agree that this experience benefits him in the long haul. It's an important lesson learned about the limitations of "insta-intimacy," as you accurately call it.

I like the characters, but none of the main three are blameless in what happens. I'm guessing that a lot of people don't like that ambiguity.



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Brilliant points made, Plot. I just saw the film on HBO earlier and a heartily agree with your observations.

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Interesting points, everyone.

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I really like your ideas!

Paul is a really cool guy compared to the smothering lesbian commander Nic - she really seems a woman that tries to mock man qualities

I really, really liked The Kids Are Alright up until Nic says "Go get a family of your own!" - from there the movie precipitated in an abyss

Laser walks away from Paul after Paul just smiles - is that smile the lesbian director's way of portraying a guy as immature?

Jules apologizes in front of the family in a really strange scene - like the fact that a woman finally gets laid with a guy is wrong. I mean, it's nature

Paul is the healthiest thing of the movie and brings a male balance to a family were values amd roles were screwed up - then he just gets cut away from the movie and there's a really weak ending in college

Rock on Paul, everything gets better after you enter the picture!

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I'm not so sure

The script was co-written by a man, but that means little when it is directed and co-written by a woman - on set it's she who makes all the decisions about nuances in performances, and that's what we're talking about here, a nuance

A smile and a reaction to a smile

All up to the director and the two actors

My real question is: why would Laser not just run to his incredibly cool father after being trapped all his life in a house run by two lesbians?

And people wondered that he hung out with a tool lake the skaterboy guy? Course he does, when as he ever had a father figure? How can he discern good guy / bad guy when he grew up with two lesbian mothers and a sister?

And Laser gets rid of his dork friend just when Paul makes him realize what a tool the guy was

I guessing seeing Paul in the final sequence was what I needed to be happy with The Kids Are Alright

The last we see of Paul is the smile...

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I'm not so sure that pauls motives were 100% decent to be bonest.

He comes across as a feckless charmer who hops from one partner to the next,its a bit stretch to suddenly imagine him as a family man. Nic was absolutely bang on when she told him to beat it,the women had spent 18 years fo their lives bringing up those kids and look like they did a pretty good job into the process.

Looked to me also like paul told more than a few fibs in the course of the film,he clearly donated sperm for the money but tried to fob of his son with a "i wanted to make people happy" kind of answer, just as he clearly had lied about his background on the donor application. His past is formless and he has had no long term relationships.

I think paul seen the imbalance in the relationship and in their treatment of the 2 kids and saw a chance to further his involvement but he is only ever a "makeshift" father figure which allows the children to move over one particular point in their lives . I dont think either paul or the kids are going to be particularly enriched by any future relationship. thats if paul sticks around at all.

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Great analysis!!

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yeah this was really great.

I know the director/writer said that she tried really hard NOT to show Paul as a creepy loser weirdo by making the character seem cool and grounded. She said how she didn't want the audience to hate Paul but this is just another character.

but your analysis does show that she (Even if it was subconsciously) Did set the character of Paul to fail and to seem like a loser weirdo. Specially that smile at the end.
It makes me wonder if this story about the cheating on the man was based on a true story from the director. I almost get the feeling she was the "Nic" of that story (If it did happen)

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Great analysis of the character. It's not Paul was the one to make the move on Jule's, she did it. He just happened to start falling for her and that would ultimately be demise of his character. If he didn't fall for her and was able to break off their affair right away, his character may have had a happier ending. Instead, he loses everything though he may have gained a lot as well. He now knows what he wants in life and the movie leaves open the possiblity that his biological daughter may eventually contact him again.


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