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i'm sure i'll get my head handed to me, but....


i caught this movie the other night on lifetime because i couldn't sleep.

my problem with the events, as in Boys Don't Cry, is that these people have to push themselves onto straight people, and when something happens, everyone is outraged and surprised.

as sad as these stories are, especially this one as this person was a minor, and had a family who loved her (per the movie)they should just stay in their circles and not try to infiltrate the straight world.

the marine guy handled himself accordingly and even tried to go find her, and the motorcycle guy (if this is true) well hats off to him for escorting the funeral.

just my humble opinion.

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Well I would always tell my partner I am trans from the start, b/c I feel I DESERVE to be loved for the whole me, being born in the wrong body and all.

But I can kinda understand how some trans ppl would not want to tell their partners.

The thought of never being with anyone and being alone all your life is scary. So I can understand how a trans person is terrified of telling about the body she was born into for fear of it messing up the whole relationship.

And Gwen was young, up until that point she had never been happy with her life, she finally at long last got to live the life she had always dreamed up and was prolly scared she would mess that up if she told.

Also, Gwen made the statement, "He already knows" so in her mind, she may have believed he DID know she was born the opposite sex and was fine with it, ~and who knows, he MAY have, and maybe he was upset at it being brought out in the open like it was, b/c I don't see how you can be that close to someone and not know for 9 monthes~

But speaking as a trans person I know I've had that thought before, "Well he or she already knows I'm trans and they are ok with it" I think we want to believe that anyway.

Like once I was in a restaurant and a guy came up to me and tells me, "You sure are cute!" and things like that put us trans women in a position that cis women are never confronted with, B/c I'm sitting there thinking, "Should I just take the compliment and say thanks, should I flirt back, should I say thanks and BTW I was born the opposite sex physcally. In my mind I wanted to think he DID know I was trans and was ok with it.

Just because we lose today's battle doesn't mean we've lost tommorow's war.

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push themselves? Yeah, how dare they go out and communicate with other humans and be themselves (sarcasm.) Otherwise hideous, straight, cisgender people with confidence issues will assault or murder them after figuring them out. Way to victim blame.

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