I'm just saying in MY EYES it's a little shallow to just automatically rule out someone as a potential date, that's just my opinion and I know people will disagree.
I consider myself bisexual or maybe pansexual, that means I'm OPEN to dating anyone, and don't just automatically rule out anyone. I mean sure I DO have my prefrences, but I'm open to anyone who's atleast 21 and illness-free.
But I think males get called shallowed minded more than women, for e.g. if a woman says she'd NEVER date a shorter guy, all well and good, but if a man says he's never date a fat woman, then he's a shallow-minded pig. SOO since I was born male, sometimes I DO get called shallow-minded for even STATING a prefrence I might have.
My point is, it's OK to have prefrences, but I don't think people should just automatically rule someone out.
And I understand perfectly how Gwen felt, she just wanted to at long last, live her life as the gender she TRULY was. She may have known that those guys were homophobic BUT, you see, trans women do NOT see themselves as gay men. So I'm sure Gwen did not see her encounters with those guys as homosexual, she saw herself as a straight woman. As her mother's boyfriend said Gwen would only be gay if she was with a girl, so he obviosly got it.
And there are some straight guys who identify as straight who DO date trans women but would never be with an ordinary man, maybe Gwen was hoping that about those guys.
I also think Gwen felt that those guys KNEW she was trans, I know a lot of trans people kinda feel and hope people know deep down, just b/c that means they are being FULLY accepted. I know I would always want my close friends at least to know that I'm trans that way I know they fully accept me. I know Gwen said about her first boyfriend, "He already knows." So I think maybe she felt maybe they did know it.
I can identify a little, at the garage where I take my car to get the oil changed and stuff the guy there always calls me his "little lady", and says "Hows my little lady today?" This has been going on for years, and deep down I wanna THINK he knows I'm trans.
And who knows, perhaps her 1st boyfriend did know it. Maybe it was only when her mom brought it out in the open that he went haywire about it. I mean how can you date someone 9 monthes and be as close as they were and not know it?
Just because we lose today's battle doesn't mean we've lost tommorow's war.
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