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Did he really cheat?

posted 17 years ago by zitzy2000
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I asked this question to see the difference between men and women. I am a man, and although if I had did this, then I would have felt really guilty... but I wouldnt consider this cheating.

But then there is the flip side, if your lying to your wife because you feel guilty, thats all part of cheating anyway, but the kiss.... now would that be considered cheating? If she kissed him, and he didnt kiss her?

Even if the kiss never happened, if he had done what he had done, and went to her place, ready to do something with her, and never actually went through with it, would that still be considered cheating?

I dont think it would be, but im looking at it from a mans point of view. And Im open to reaon.... anyone comment back.

Thanx

[–] novelist99 16 years ago

yes he cheated. He kissed the girl in the cab and towards the end he practically was performing oral sex. Her panties was pulled off. I am married and I would hate for my husband to do that. When you are married you make a someone.

[–] joged-jolson1 15 years ago

i have just (2 weeks ago found out my husband has been having an"emotional affair" witha girl who works for us, she pretended to be my friend and i found texts saying to her he loves her and her him. Our relationship has not been good but i had a hysterectomy last year so our physicla relationshiphas dwindled i accept that, i have also been unhappy at the lack of care, etc but didnt look elsewhere. I felt/feel that this is worse than him sleeping with someone(they have kissed) which is far more intimate than sex. We still working out what to do but she is a needy woman and has also just had a baby, not his by the way but she rang him to take her when she went into labour. She worked for us last week and then stayed for a bit in our pub with her baby (i cant have children ) until her friend told her she was being inappropriate. So in answer to question any friendship etc that involves lying/deceipt is cheatin and it is very painful sorry i droned on x

each mans life touches so many others that when he's gone he leaves an awful hole, doesnt he-iawl

[–] zitzy2000 12 years ago

Wow, after 5 years my post is still 3rd on the list?

NICE

[–] Livana_Faolan 12 years ago

If I found out that the man I was involved with had kissed another woman, I would definitely consider him to be a cheater.

[–] DiceWest 11 years ago

Yes

[–] lizcarlo87 10 years ago

To me, theres a simple way of telling if you're cheating. Imagine it's your spouse doing what you're doing and how you'd feel if you knew she was 'talking to men on the internet,' or about to get her panties pulled down by some ex-boyfriend. If you honestly would think nothing of it then fair enough, but if you would be jealous if the situation were reversed, just don't do it.

I agree with this.

I do think sex and romance is important. A women needs romance and man needs sex. Why not talk it out and have both? It seemed to me that communication is key here.

Image your wife coming home and saying yeah I kissed the inner leg of another man. Would you be mad or not care? So yes he cheated when he stopped telling his wife the truth.

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[–] cryptobat 10 years ago

Reply to the main message.

Basically if you can't tell your partner something WITHOUT feeling guilty then you're cheating. Very simple but when you think about it, very true.

If someone kisses you but you don't kiss back and you try to stop them, then you are not in any way at fault.

You can emotionally cheat on people, especially going to someone's house to get ready to cheat on them.

Kissing for me is cheating.

For some people that's ok.

It really depends on the couple. For many open marriages the sex isn't the cheating its the lying about it that is.

[–] leyenda61 8 years ago

The OPs question and the discussion here are why i think this is an important movie for couples, especially men, to watch.

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