I would like to know peoples opinions on this...
because I am in a similar situation.
He didn't cheat on me and i'm not pregnant (im 18)
but after three years he broke my heart
left me for a little tramp like Kim and
now he -seems- willing to do anything to fix it...
So if you were "jenna" would you take Michael back?
No. what a jerk.
shareNah, I wouldn't take him back. He has no self-control or self-knowledge. In the end his grand-standing was just silly. Everyone gets tempted, but this jerk sought out the relationship with Kim. He actively pursued her. Man has no clue what he is doing.
shareI wouldn't want her back. I mean, she came after him with a knife. That woman is somekind of psycho. He only kissed someone else (which he shouldn't have of course, but he didn't go further). Jenna totally flipped and had that big knife on her hands. I would have run off to Kim as well.
shareAre you serious? He lied to her about going out, he has been thinking of some kind of a crisis between the both of them and he started seeing the other girl WHILE lying to his pregnant girlfriend. I would never trust such a man again.
shareAre you serious? He lied to her about going out, he has been thinking of some kind of a crisis between the both of them and he started seeing the other girl WHILE lying to his pregnant girlfriend.And all that gives you the right to threaten their life? Argue, scream, shout, go to counseling, whatever. There's no reason to pick up a knife and swing it at someone because your feelings are hurt.
I would never have taken him back. I was so angry when she opened the door.
Telling someone that they have learned from their mistake is BS. That is not a simple mistake when a person already knows that cheating on someone is morally wrong. Michael had SEVERAL CHANCES to stop this "mistakes" before hurting Jenna. Nothing will ever be the same when something like that happens. You really have to think about the scar that other significant has to carry for the rest of their life.
The thing that's kind of ridiculous is that Michael was scared and thought it was wrong to tell her the true about her pregnancy, but he wasn't so afraid to tell her that he slept with Kim. I just don't understand. Tell her the truth about the pregnancy is not a hurtful truth as Jenna was just as scared as he was. I know he told her the truth about Kim later because he learned from his mistake, but just some reason hearing him say the line, "I am trying to be honest with you!" made me laugh. What did he expect when he told her that? Thinking it was ok because he's telling the truth? I honestly did not understand his reaction.
Dude they don't do it til she says it's over lol
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yeah, she breaks up with him.. technically he was single, he was deeply in love with jenna and it was still wrong, but he TECHNICALLY wasnt cheating.. im sure any guy here will tell you that if his woman broke up with him, the first thing they would do is find a rebound, the ending to this movie was awesome, 'warning sign' playing in the backround did it for me.
shareI don't think technicalities matter to most people. Unless the person who decides to take you back is a "relationship judge." Your girlfriend will probably dump you again if literally the first thing you do after being dumped for kissing someone is going back and having sex with the same person. Who cares about "technicalities" except immature people?
shareI agree. I don't care if Jenna kicked him out, she was angry and that's exactly how I would have reacted. Sleeping with Kim literally five minutes after she kicked him out was atrocious. Those are not the actions of a man who really cares about the mother of his child.
It makes me feel better to think she just opened the door so he could get his stuff. :D
shareIt depends on how you feel about him. Do you think you could ever forgive him? The same thing happened to me (I'm married). I took my husband back, but it took a long time for me to feel like I could trust him again. Even so, I still don't have the same feelings for him that I did before "the other woman", and I'm pretty sure I never will. We're happy, but it's definitely a different relationship.
"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."
Darling, is that you?! I never knew you felt this way! Oh no!
shareI would never take him back. I would have such a hard time trusting him again that I wouldn't even be able to enjoy the relationship. He could have lived on my porch for the rest of his life for all I'd care.
shareI assumed that when she opened the dooe it meant she had taken him back but on reflection I've realised this is not necessarily true. Part of me wonders (and hopes) that she opened the door and told him to get his stuff and go. We never see them make up, what does everyone else think?
I am also in a v similar situation with my ex boyfriend (tho not pregnant) and am also not sure what to do.
I would not have taken him back. Sure enough if he was scared, unsure and all that he could've ended it in a properly, you know without cheating on his pregnant girlfriend to realise that. He did a quite scummy thing really.
It doesn't seem like she took him back, cos in the earlier scenes I just felt that she was completely distraught(especially when she brandished a knife at him...hehe), I like to think that actually.
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I totally agree with you, and to answer the question in the thread, yes, I would have taken him back. All things are not just black an white in my opinion, people make mistakes and we mostly hurt the people we love. It's obvious to me that he had learn from that mistake, and what he learned is not that "It's bad to cheat on your bf/gf". I think that what he learned is that he shouldn't be afraid of the future because the future (life with Jenna, parenthood) was going to be a great thing. We all have moments in our lives when we panic - otherwise we would be robots - and there really are people who deserve a second chance. I'm not saying that all of them do, but some do :).
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NO. Do NOT take him back...EVER.
Suffering is a waste of time and effort.
Do forgive and forget, and move on, live well, enjoy life.
PS: The character of Kim was not a tramp, she was a siren.
What if this is as good as it gets? - Melvin Udallshare
If you're only 18 and he broke your heart - i would say don't take him back, you've got your whole life ahead of you. But in the movie, the situation is so much more complex. They are not kids, and they are expecting a child. Giving birth in an already broken home, it's just awful in my opinion. The child will be deprived of a normal family with mom and dad even before he is born.. So here Jenna has to really think it through, and although i can't imagine myself in this situation and how would i react, i'm glad that the movie ended the way it ended, cause it shows she's giving their future a chance.
What i didn't understand, is why his friend didn't come back to his wife, i really thought he was going to. They are so young, everyone has problems, but they could have at least go to a couple counseling and try fixing their marriage. Whenever kids are involved, it's just really really sad, i don't even know how to describe it..
I think that this was a man movie, only man would get it, we are the ones that are afraid of commitment!... we dont want to do everything before getting married...
And then.. if your girlfriend gets really bitchy about everything..
(i think that he should have said that he went to a frat party with a girl and some friends of her and it wouldnt all be that bad...)
i understand why he got so mad and went back.... and he should have lied about the sex since it was meaningless....
now she is hurted for life... and his little flaw WILL be revenged...when married she "has the right" to get it back and he wont be able to say anything....
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Bravo, Mikey, well said! I find it funny when people say "I'd never forgive cheating!". Relationships are much more complicated than that, and when people mature they realize this. I'm not saying all cheating is forgivable, but it's not always unforgivable either.
"Seven chipmunks twirlin' on a branch, eatin' lotsa sunflowers on my uncle's ranch"
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Like Jenna's mother says, Life has lots of grays, and if you insist on only black and white, you're going to be unhappy a lot.
Am I anywhere near the imaginary cliff?share
I just finished watching the movie. I considered that a very interesting movie, cause the way of the situations were conducted by the director/writer.
But, this comment is just to agree with you, DRAGON KING, Kim is not a tramp, but a siren.
If the guy had chosen Kim, in a couple of weeks she would have left him alone. Just to have the pleasure of destroying him. Besides it, they belong to two completely different worlds.
Because they are young, I suppose they'd have great chances of having a strong relationship again.
I can't honestly say whether or not I would take him back. My boyfriend never cheated on me, but we did break up because he had feelings for another girl. I was just as hurt as if he had actually cheated. We stayed friends, and got back together a few months later. We'll be celebrating two years on Valentine's Day, and we're completely happy. I still think about it sometimes (considering we're both friends with that girl), but I know that he doesn't feel that way about her now. I think he was scared because I'm his first really serious girlfriend. He used to have a crush on her, and she didn't feel the same way. It was one of those wanting what he couldn't have things. I dunno.
I will say that one of my professors gave this advice: If someone breaks your heart, and you give them another chance, you can't spend the rest of your lives together punishing the person. If you're going to forgive them, then you have to truly forgive them. If you can't do that, then you don't need to take them back.
Personally, I was angry at the way Jenna reacted to him kissing Kim. It would have pissed me off, but it was a kiss. That's something to get angry about... but talk about. I don't think that I would let it be a deal breaker with the man who was the father of my child. I don't think that he would have ever slept with her if Jenna hadn't flipped out like that. Even if she chose to end it, she should have at least talked it out with him instead of freaking the heck out.
Disney has the best casting. If he doesn't like an actor he just tears him up.
--Alfred Hitchcock
I almost agree with acquiesce's statement. But for me, personally, I'd almost rather my boyfriend had sex with someone else rather than kissed her. Not that the one generally comes without the other, but kissing for me has always seemed more intimate, and to go that far in the first place without then having sex makes it seem as if they have genuine feelings for that person that go deeper than pure lust. And I don't know how I'd be able to continue a relationship with someone who did something with someone else they wanted enough, cared for, whatever, more than me.
~The child is grown, the dream is gone...I have become confortably numb~
I can definitely see your point there, and that makes tons of sense. I guess it's always hard to make decisions like that, because you never know why they did what they did. For instance, if I was dating someone who kissed someone else, but it was because they were just talking, drinking, etc., and they kissed, but he immediately knew it was a mistake and didn't let it go any further... I don't know. That would be a tough one. I can see where it would be easy to get caught up in the moment... then again, he shouldn't have put himself in that situation in the first place. It's a tough one! I guess there's no way to know unless we were in that situation, and let's hope we aren't!
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Disney has the best casting. If he doesn't like an actor he just tears him up.
--Alfred Hitchcock
I would not have taken him back!
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