Well, first off, I care about morals. However, what I mean by "morality" is most definitely not a particular common set of moral prescriptions and proscriptions, but rather recommendable versus non-recommendable conduct in general. What is specific, recommendable conduct to me is often relatively unusual. I often disagree with the morals of others, and this is a case in point.
I'm very pro polyamory and polygamy. I'm not very fond of monogamy. I'm also very pro sex in general, and not very fond of abstinence. I dislike that our culture is so structured around monogamy and chastity. I dislike that the culture values virginity, waiting for marriage for sex, etc. rather than valuing people enjoying their bodies and the bodies of other people. I do not think that any of those common moral stances reflect the best ideas. A lot of the normal attitudes I see as morally wrong instead. I wouldn't mind monogamy and chastity so much if they were just one of many common choices, something like a ham sandwich on a deli menu, and some people just happen to pick the ham sandwich for themselves.
I do agree with you in preferring that people are honest and open with their partners, but the problem is that our culture is so structured around monogamy that it's difficult to be openly polyamorous. The mainstream culture is morally wrong, in my opinion, in its at least public near-unanimity with bad ideas about sexuality and relationships, and that can necessitate having to subvert it. Monogamy and chastity are too entrenched in our thinking, in what's acceptable publicly as the status quo. Open polyamory and hedonistic sexuality just isn't an option without unjustified consequences in most cases, and polygamy is not an option period.
When being authentic and forthright about it leads to ostracism in almost all cases, then I believe that one is justified in not being forthright about it. The culture needs to be changed first.
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