Joe is one of the best TV husbands

Agreed. I like the series a lot, and one of the great things about it is the positive role model Joe provides. He is patient and understanding, long suffering, and loving.

Sometimes the Alison character is written as a bit self centered, or at perhaps so consumed with her visions that she is oblivious to her husband's needs. She takes things the wrong way a lot of times; kind of strange for someone who is so intuitive. I guess they have to write one of the characters a little that way or the marriage would be too perfect to be believed.
Still, I wonder how the real life Allison Dubois feels about the way her character is portrayed in this series. I am watching S5E19 right now and there is a scene in which Allison is complaining of a headache and Joe asks if she wants him to check if their doctor can work her in the next day. Allison snaps at him. (Of course we later learn that Allison has a brain tumor so that explains her behavior in this instance). Watching that scene I am reminded of all the other times Allison gets bitchy with Joe over nothing at all; Allison takes offense and plays the victim, and snaps at Joe. Honestly, if I were married to a woman who acted like that I would have to say goodbye to her.
But the writers also have Allison as a very caring and loving mother and wife. She is almost like a multiple personality patient.
I realize that writers need to create drama and inject a lot of emotion into shows in order to involve the audience. But I think they make the Allison character too bitchy, too stupid, etc. as a way to create conflict and drama.

Their daughters are constantly fighting aren't they? WOW. A friend of mine had all girls and he complained that he had lost some of his hearing due to their screams and fights. He was half joking of course, but I can testify that their scraps were ear piercingly loud.

Nah. They tried to write him way too perfect.