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Why did Ray agree to marry a stranger?


I always wondered what made him do such a thing? Was it because he was sad about his brother dying?

Or he just couldn't meet anyone that far out in the sticks?
Anyway, I recorded the movie and I am watching it for the second time. The first time was in 2010. I guess it was a rebroadcast then from 2005.

Really a sweet movie but it always bothered me about his motives.
I guess in the olden days tho, many marriages were arranged between strangers.

And in the Old West, many women were mail order brides.

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Not to put too fine a point on it, but the reason HE gave was that he wanted to help and thought it was god wanted him to do or some such. IOW, he was a religious man and he felt that was god's will. I think the movie was portraying him as a very kind, honest honorable guy who had serious emotional problems since his brother died, and maybe had trouble courting women like normal. I did wonder at the beginning what his problems were...as he gay, crazy, impotent, whatever? But as it turned out, he was a good guy.

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As the older woman in the movie said...there were not that many women in the town that hadn't already married. He didn't exactly have a lot to choose from.

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LOL I had to laugh at your use of the "olden days". When I say that, I mean the 1800s.

Anyway, I answered the above thread too, so I'll repeat a little. I'm old enough to remember people like Ray: men who worked the land - ranchers and farmers - in the West (and Midwest) were often very decent people. He would have wanted to help a young woman in trouble, and would have also been in dire need of a helping hand on the farm. Farming was (and is) hard physical work, and couldn't be done alone. A wife was really necessary. It wasn't mentioned in the script, but he might have been paid a small fee to do it, too. Mail-order brides weren't that common, btw, and weren't any more common in the western states than anywhere else. But again.. where that happened, it was because the man needed help to work a farm. The deal was that she got a stable home and the opportunity to start fresh, to have children, etc. He got a helpmate on the farm.

I think that, from my perspective, people back then were more understanding of making commitments to helping someone in need. Making a lifelong commitment was taken very seriously, and it wasn't all about romance - that would have been considered a little flighty and silly and immature. It was about practical stuff: finding someone who was morally decent and a hard worker. With someone like that you could really build something, for generations to come. That was what people valued. If there ended up being a little romance, well, great. And the lucky ones found that too. Like Livy and Ray.

This story takes place btw in La Junta, Colorado. My family settled in that area (Nepesta and Fowler - a few miles away) around 1861, and were ranchers like Ray. My grandparents were Ray and Livy's generation, and so I know well how their minds worked and what their lives revolved around. It truly was "the greatest generation" and the ones that came after have been much less generous of heart.

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There was the practical element I am sure, someone to cook for him (or so he hoped) and someone to keep house, maybe keep him company. And he was also religious and thought it was God's will so he had a pretty simple outlook really and I am sure it helped that she was pin up girl attractive.

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