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Why do the men in this movie forgive these SLUTS?

posted 18 years ago by booklady1-1
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I personally thought it was really stupid that Sarah had sex with a guy she barely knew when she was engaged to someone else, and her boyfriend actually FORGAVE her almost right away. It's also really gross that about an hour before she slept with him she thought he might be her FATHER--maybe she "learned" that he wasn't but for me just the fact that I had ever thought that would turn me off. And her dad's story about how he knew that her mother had slept with another man the week before their wedding and he didn't care because he was just happy that she had come back to him--I was like, WTF?! You don't care that the woman you're marrying is a s1ut, you're just glad to have her even if she cheated on you?

If I were engaged to a guy and he fooled around with another girl, I would dump him right away. The fact that he would do that would show that he had no respect for me and no value for our relationship. When Sarah slept with Beau, she completely disregarded her relationship, just like her mother did to her father. I thought this was really stupid because in real life, I don't know many guys who have that little self-respect that they would allow themselves to be treated like that by a woman. Basically, these women were s1uts, and the men in their lives didn't care and married them anyway. So stupid.

[–] shrilltrills 13 years ago

What got to me is that the man Sarah slept with was just some guy that she didn't even know. He wasn't an ex, or a man from her past that she had unresolved feelings for - in these cases it would be somewhat understandable. But Beau Burroughs was a stranger - not only that, she had just thought he was her father a few hours earlier, and he had slept with her mother and grandmother. That's a whole lotta nasty right there.

How much can she possibly love her fiance if she's willing to cheat on him and betray his trust with a stranger?

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[–] The_Romantic 13 years ago

In reply to Alan:

quote - "Have you ever loved someone so much that losing them for any reason is more painful than accepting the betrayal?"

Have you ever loved someone so much that you could betray them by having sex with someone else?

It's one thing to focus on the fact that when you love someone, you should have the ability to forgive them. I agree that this is true. But there are some types of behaviour that are, frankly, unforgivable (at least in my opinion). Whilst some believe that a person's love is not deep enough if they cannot forgive, I believe that a person's love is not deep enough if they are able to betray their partner. Therefore, the reason to get rid of the unfaithful person in your life, is that they do not have enough love and/or respect to deserve you. I agree though that it is not an easy thing to do.

My biggest concern about movies like these is they send out the messages that 'sex is nothing special', 'it's only sex', 'it doesn't mean anything' etc. Sadly, in today's society, this actually seems to be an accurate representation of the attitudes of young people. I wonder how much of that is due to movies like this.

Regarding the terminology here: I see why some people have argued that the characters are not sluts, but my definition of the word differs from theirs. I would define a slut as someone who considers sex as 'nothing special'. Someone who can separate sexual contact from emotional contact. A person who is able to have sex with any stranger, just for gratification and without forming any intimate emotional bond. I don't agree that 'number of partners' is important, simply the person's attitude or behaviour. Under my definition, the women in this movie were complete sluts. I realise that this is not the definition listed in any dictionary, but neither are any of the others offered in this thread. :)

As a side note, it is unfortunate that there is not an equivalent term for males with similar attitudes, as they should obviously be placed into the same category!

[–] aceflyer45 12 years ago

The term for a male that doesn't think sex is special is "male."

[–] di1an 11 years ago

Yup, stupid film. Anyone who forgives this kind of thing needs to grow a pair. Nobody is that special. And saying "but she was drunk!" is not an excuse at all. People keep using that excuse because weaker people keep accepting it.

[–] Livana_Faolan 13 years ago

Sarah's fiance' didn't forgive her "almost right away." If that had been the case, then he wouldn't have waited two (or was it three?) days for her to apologize.

[–] Arkoth 11 years ago

Good times when treason had death penalty.

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[–] Rpdsf 10 years ago

I agree. She cheated and there was no excuse for it. No matter how you try to justify it, the fact of the matter is she was engaged to him and cheated. If she had issues, she should never have become his fiancé. He was also a fool for taking her back. I have made this comment for other similar movies....why is it in these movies that the woman always seems to get a pass for their behavior and end up getting the guy (happy ending) anyway? Just once I'd like to see the girlfriend/fiancé/wife suffer the consequence for their indiscretions and the guy get the happy ending after moving on. But then I guess a lot of women wouldn't watch that type of movie and would probably scream bloody murder complaining that it was sexist.

[–] Mike1388 9 years ago

The ladies are not the sluts. The writer is the pervert. I am a dude and I know this. Don't eat this *beep* up. This Hollywood double standard *beep*

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[–] zuzupetal_99 7 years ago

I had a problem with this too - there are a few movies, where the man just doesn't care about his woman cheating, b/c she's just so beautiful and special that he forgives her and they live happily ever after....That to me, is unrealistic. I believe you can get through somebody cheating (but probably with a ton of therapy and overcoming some serious trust issues). But they way it's presented in movies, especially this one, I absolutely was rooting against the cheating woman, not for her.

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