ya...like normal guys can pull stunning women? yea right

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You, my friend, have no game.

Any guy, any girl... maybe a stretch. But looks don't matter as much as most think.


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You need to get out more.

Clark's destiny = Superman, Lex Luthor & Lois Lane.

People need to stop citing celebrities as good examples of successful or failed relationships. They work differently than the everyday people.

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Here is the reality of the situation. Younger women date for looks as do younger men so good looking young men and good looking young women generally date for looks and turn their noses up at anyone fat or ugly, though fat seems to be more of an issue than ugly in my observation as looks are subjective and weight is not. There are exceptions of course to the rule, the rich, famous, powerful or professionally funny can compensate for weight and looks with some women, not all but some, however the level of money, power, fame, and especially humor needs to be comparatively extreme. What I mean is that a guy who is reasonably funny to his friends and reasonably good looking has the same shot as a good looking guy, where as if he is fairly unattractive he needs to be almost professionally funny to have the same shot.
That said as women age and mature they grow out of the "looks" phase and start looking for a husband and possibly father. Again those with money, power, fame or a sense of humor have an edge as they will naturally make better husbands, However those who are "good looking" also generally have an edge over the average guy because they have had more experience and have more confidence with women having more success as a younger man. The exception here is of course the "shot gun" guy who though average or unattractive hits on everything that moves. If you throw 50 balls and the other guy throws 1 even if he is a much better pitcher than you, you'll probably both still hit the target.
Basically the result is that when you start out behind your disadvantage compounds, this is true in a lot of areas of life not just women.

Someone though asked why it is that a guy should care about looks and that complaining that they don't get the good looking girls is just as shallow as the good looking ones not going out with them. and from the superficial simple view it is but when you look at it realistically it’s not. In our society though women are moving towards equality in many areas there is one they have made very little progress in and that is dating. Though it is no longer taboo to expect a date to pay half at the first date, it is still up to the man to make the first move. Women expect they guy to ask them out, to send them drinks, to attempt a conversation, and risk rejection which is more common than reciprocation of the advance. Meanwhile the woman makes little or no emotional risk at all. In this exchange, because the man is taking the risk or at least greater risk he therefore automatically choses the greatest reasonable return. At best his knowledge is limited of her from contact as acquaintances (don't even get me started on the friend zone and the very special circumstances and difficulties it brings) which is roughly the same amount she may know about him if she knows anything, he may have been very well invisible to her, when he makes his advance and she makes her choice to accept or reject his advances. The fact is most of what people know about each other is what they see and most of "attraction" is physical till you take the time to get to know each other.

Men approach women based on the idea of getting the most for what they risk, visual stimulation and attraction is key to gauging that. Women then accept and reject based primarily on the same visual system of stimulation and attraction using different cues. The confidence of the man, one of if not the determining factor, is based on his feelings of adequacy to her, the greater the difference in attractiveness the greater the effect on his confidence level the only mitigating factors being his experience and external self-worth such as money fame or power. Humor does not in fact function to mitigate and counter act any feelings of inadequacy but rather hides them. Humor is often used as a defence mechanism and way of hiding oneself by those who employ it, as such they are generally very skilled at using it to compensate for low self-confidence or fear. Those who have developed a talent for humor generally have more success with women simply because they are more able to hide their lack of confidence better.

As for the movie its BS because while getting a woman on a few dates is easy developing a successful relationship is hard and where most "average" guys fail because of either inadequacy and fears of abandonment which spawn paranoia and jealousy in him, because of his actual inadequacy to her needs or because of his in experience in relationships. There are also many ways the woman can screw up the relationship, but we are talking about why hot girls and average or below average looking men don't end up together very often.


If you wonder what God thinks of money look at who he gives it to

op is 5 years old.. but just felt like making a comment.

...good looks helps, be nicely groomed and reasonably fit looking. if you find good looking girls attractive then its vice versa.

...if you arent channing tatum type, and you are after a really hot girl then you have to ask yourself if you are being realistic.
if you know the girl then work with what have, be confident... confidence is important. if you dont have confidence then get some quick. girls like guys that are sure of themselvses as long as you arent arrogant.

Most "stunning women" are with "normal" guys. A lot of them are even with very ugly guys.