I wonder if Robert and Francesa could have been happy had they stayed together since I think they could have been good together.
shareNope and that's why Francesca choose to stay with her husband and children. The guilt she would have felt about choosing Robert over Richard and her children and all the gossip they (her family) would have to face would have killed her and ultimately come between her and Robert. From day one their love was doomed.
shareIf only it had been before she met Richard they would've been very happy.
You want to play the game, you'd better know the rules, love.
-Harry Callahan
I don't think so.
You see it was all meant to be. The husband was the rock that Robert crushed on like a wave. If there wasn't a husband (and family and all that) the feelings would never have been as strong. That was what made it so powerful, the knowledge that there could never be a tomorrow.
All these people with black and white answers. Of course they MAY have been happy. Life isn't a maths equation. Chances are the guilt would have got to her but perhaps not. They move somewhere else, start a new life... Life is shades of grey...
shareYeah, it's possible she could have abandoned her adolescent children and things would have been fine. lol
"It's Minnie Pearl's murder weapon."
Francesca was such a miserable depressed housewife I can't help think that had that whole experience with Robert not happened she would of eventually committed suicide.
You want to play the game, you'd better know the rules, love.
-Harry Callahan
She tried to find him after her husband died...wish he would have kept in touch..
Besides. Fathers always seem so much happier when THEY leave their families . So why cant mothers?
shareThey could've even met yearly. I don't understand why it had/has to be all or nothing. If their love was that powerful, there's no way either of them could've walked away with forever in mind. In reality, Robert would've been popping up in town a few times a year when the loneliness became too unbearable and had to see her.
~Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable~
Could Rosbert and Francesca have been happy?
Difficult to say. Not intending to be a spoilsport: Maybe those three or four days were as good as it could get. I think it cannot get better than that. If they stayed together, the "normal" everyday-routine life would've probably destroyed everything.
Maybe it can be compared with "Lost in Translation" where Bob and Charlotte spent three or four days together. That specific time period was perfect. And probably they will always have fond memories about those few days. But continuing that after their stay in Tokyo? Probably wouldn't have worked out (at all).
Yes, because they understood each other. Life isn't perfect and always easy but ones tries harder when really in love.
I respect everyone's opinion on this thread, but to be honest, I don't think it would've worked out.
Remember at their last candle light dinner, Francesca said that she wants to love him the way she wanted to in those 4 days they spent together. If she left with him, that love may have changed and they would be just some ordinary couple. The magic between them may have faded.
I've been there and I know from experience when 21 years ago, I tried to convince a love interest of mine to come with me and leave her boyfriend of 15 years. They had two children together. At the time, I was crushed, but 21 years later, I fully understand why she chose to stay. I haven't spoken to her in 20 years, but I know that she is happily married and I am happily married. Bless her!
It's unlikely. They had 4 perfect days together without the world interfering. If she left her family --- or tried to take her kids with her, that would bring so much drama and upset into the situation, I don't think their love could have survived it.
shareNo, Because men and women are not compatible (only the parts are) and because the affair is exciting due to being new and different and exciting because it was illicit. If they would have had a permanent committed relationship it would descend to the same mundane monotomy (yes I know redundant but that's how relationships are) as the marriage. At some point the marriage was exiting too when he was an American warrior and she was a exotic Italian miss. Eventually that too became dull. As are most marriages. I'd say all but I haven't met all married people yet but all the married people I know so far are dull as ditchwater and miserable hence Ashley Madison .com. LOL
Men and women are not compatible? Huh?
"You have bewitched me, body and soul, and I love, I love, I love you." Mr Darcy
Her bad conscience regarding her family would have interfered.
shareI think it also depends on how a marriage is broken up. If a wife or husband leaves their spouse for another person, and not just because, the other one will almost always hate the other person and make it difficult on the new couple as revenge. If a marriage is broken simply bc it's run its course, it's easier for everyone to move on. There is less guilt and resentment. You can leave a spouse for another person but still love your old spouse, just not be in love with them. But I doubt they would understand that and if you still love your old spouse, guilt will eat you up, and it will affect your new relationship. Bc she did not hate her husband, it would be hard on her to leave him without feeling that guilt and being "selfish". I think they could live happily ever after if they could overcome the personal guilt and resentment, but man that is incredibly hard to do.
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