weird relationship..

yes! i watched it today and when she said "ill be 14" and he was all excited i said "but he'll be 18!" lol

I'm watching it right now and yeah, it's weird. But if you think that the relationship is inappropriate for a kids movie than consider this... Bre Blair (Stacey) was born in 1981 making her 13-14 during filming. Christian Oliver (Luca) was born in 1972 making him 22-23 during filming. The age difference between the actors is 9 years. So their kiss at the end was way YUCK.



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I was just watching that today! When I was younger the age difference didn't seem to matter...cause I thought of all teens as grown up. But now, I'm fifteen and I think it's slightly creepy. But that may be on account of the fact that he looked REALLY old and his eyes were demonic looking in the ice cream scene.

Its funny. I can remember when I saw the movie in the theatre thinking that the age difference wasnt that big. I was 12 or 13 at the time. I basically grew up with the books. My dad and step-mom are 10 years apart and I didnt think much of it. But Im sure if, at the time, I had thought of it more in terms of "That would be like me dating a 16 year old." Creepy.


...ok, and I have to ask, what kind of club has a 16 year old age limit? Do I just live in the dark? Are these only in big cities? Or is it something that they kind of fibbed on in the show because there's no way those girls could get away with pretending to be 18, but they could pretend to be 16.

I find the relationship extremely strange. Also, I cannot fathom any parents allowing their 13 year old daughters to go on a trip to New York with a 17 year old boy and his father. I would have to know the father for a long time as well. It's so different watching things like this at 26.

It is hard to imagine a 13-year-old dating a 17-year-old. (Actually, it's kinda hard for me to imagine a 13-year-old dating at all. When I was that age, my friends and "friendly classmates" weren't into that, or really even thinking about it...and then even throughout high school, it was never a big-deal thing.) I always thought that the girls were made to look and act older than their ages, and this kind of stuff was worked in perhaps unrealistically. Of course, once she's 20 and he's 24, the measly four-year age difference won't mean a thing. xD

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Yeah... I remember in high school one of my first "boyfriends" was a Junior, and he was almost 17. I was freshly 14. I broke up with him after a month or so because it felt soooo strange for me. I was shy and prude, I mean come on I was 14 and my parents raised me right. Lol. Not like "religiously" or anything just, I was always acting the age I should have been and doing things that age would do. I played with barbies til I was like 11. Maybe that's a tad old, but still, 14 and 17 is a huge difference. Especially if the older guy in the relationship is a certain personality type. Like the guy I dated for instance, he was an only child who's dad was never home. His dad was rich, so he had this big house and a nice car and could do whatever. He had a lot of friends that got him weed and stuff, and so by 17 he was older for his age. And I was younger for mine, or maybe just right, even though a lot of the other girls in my grade were doing some really sexual things in MIDDLE SCHOOL and drinking already. It felt so strange "hooking up" with him even though we didn't sleep together, I always told him to stop when things went past kissing. He would get super frustrated. Haha, I understand now why he did but at the time it upset me and I ended it and he told me I was a "mama's girl" and ended up dating my best friend, who was mature for her age as well and they lasted years. My friend was independent as well, didn't have family around much, was sort of a rebel. She definitely influenced me to a lot of things I never thought I would do. Being friends with her was a total blast, sometimes I was uncomfortable but I eased into things pretty naturally. By 15/16 I was ok with "foreplay" if I was into the guy, but I always ended up dating guys my own age. The whole 3-4 year difference thing made me feel weird inside.

But the funny thing is, is once I was out of high school and emotionally mature enough to even know what love was and was ready for sex and stuff, I always liked older guys. To this day, I only date guys 4 years or more older than me, never younger guys and never guys my age LOL. I mean I guess Stacey was supposed to be the mature one from NY, but she seemed very innocent and sweet to me---not ready for a relationship with a 17 year old. Very unrealistic that a 17 year old guy would be attracted to a 13 year old. She did look older for her age though I guess. My looks were totally different from 13 to 14. I looked like a child still at 13, and 14 I still looked very young but I developed pretty quickly, and probably gave off more of a sexual vibe than I intended because of my bra size :/ I dunno. I hear about relationships and age differences that shock me all the time. But for this particular film, I think they should have made him almost 15 at the oldest. I didn't see why it was necessary for his character to be that old?? Easily would have been just as cute of a romance if he was 14, 15 or even her age. Weird. And yeah the fact that the actor was in his 20's and she was so young---that makes that kiss pretty gross in my opinion. That's an adult kissing a child.

Hmm, it is a pretty weird age difference. Then I think about Sailor Moon (anime) and how the main character was fourteen and she dated an eighteen year old... I think it's due to that why I prefer older guys. My first boyfriend was seventeen and I was 14, but turning 15 a month later, so there was at least a two year difference between us. Not as drastic as 13 and 17 or 14 and 18 though.