cw_squared wrote:
But where she earns the bitch tag is her treatment of Ross.
That was certainly my initial reaction, and she treats Ross very badly. But as I started to think about just what it is that Susan is so angry about, I came to see it from Susan's point of view. I'm not saying that Susan has anything like a right to treat Ross that what, but she does have good reasons to be angry. And I think Susan is driven by those, not just by being a bitch.
Susan still played a part in wronging him by getting involved with his wife anyway.
We are not going to agree about that. I don't believe the situation falls under the normal "cheating" paradigm, and I don't judge either Carol or Susan.
No part of that is Ross' fault.
No, it is not. It is also not Ross's fault that his high school crush – a real bitch – reappeared right after Carol moved the last of her stuff out – probably the lowest point in his life up to then – and he fell for her again when he was at his most vulnerable. Shît happens.
Some part of Ross being hurt is Susan's fault.
I don't agree. Not in the sense that you can blame Susan.
The fact that she is seemingly unapologetic about it
She is angry at how this is going. This was not what she agreed to. By the time that Carol and Susan marry, she is sort of getting along with Ross.
Denying that to Ben to not hurt Susan's "feelings" is extremely short sighted
I'm not sure what you mean. Carol went out of her way to involve Ross – I am quite sure over Susan's objections. And, yes, Susan is in the heat of the moment and extremely shortsighted. By the end of the first season, she has calmed down a lot. She is much more secure in her relationship with Carol and much less afraid that Carol will go back to Ross. That is quite an important reason why she does not want Ross around. Similar to Emily not wanting Rachel around. Both very normal reactions.
and puts her above others when she has no good reason to be above them.
I think her commitment to raise the child – and she is still doing that 10 years later – puts her far above the biological father. Ross is not going to agree with that, but I don't think that Ross is at all clear on what happened and what the situation really is. He thinks it is just an accidental pregnancy and here is this person horning in on his rights as the father after taking his wife away from him.If Ross understood that he has a child
only because Carol
and Susan wanted to raise a child and committed to it, he might, after little time, come to understand why Susan is angry.Carol is not going to explain to him that it wasn't accidental because what she did was, to put it mildly, highly questionable.We are going to disagree about that.
If you want to use that argument that a father is not much more than a donated sperm cell
I am not arguing that. I am arguing that it depends on the circumstances. You, and a lot of people, have the almost religious belief that a man has very serious rights just because of his one sperm cell. I don't agree, and we are not going to agree about that.
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