catbookss wrote:
It's pointless, a waste of my time and energy,
That is exactly my position.
Never did it occur to me that our friendship was based on agreement on all things.
It was never based on just agreement. It was based on the fact that we seemed to live in the same intellectual universe. And that we both seemed to agree about what constituts a legitimate argument, and that we both found the same crap to be crap.
yet never have they told me nor I told them, as you said to me, that I had no respect for them.
I know a number of people that I have never told what I think of them or their opinions. Sometimes because I like them and don't want to offend them. Sometimes because I have to deal with them don't want to offend them.
I find you completely unreasonable, unable and unwilling to find any kind of common ground, and very reactionary.
Very reactionary? I wonder what you mean by that?When it comes to whether or not Ross is a pathologically jealous, controlling person who has absolutely no reason to not trust Rachel, I don't think there is a common ground. Ross isn't. There is certainly no common ground about Mark. He is just an upscale Joey.
even though you admitted to me in priviate messages that you frequently thought your responses were absurd, having been made in the moment, for whatever emotional reaction you felt at the time.
You are lying.What I recognize and have certainly cheerfully admitted is that I'm ridiculously persistent in dealing with people when I realized early on that there was no way to get through to them. But I keep trying for reasons that come out of my
psychology.You have grossly distorted what I did say in a quite dishonest way, and I don't believe that you are just misremembering as I have reminded you of what I did say in this discussion. Lying is a very good reason to not have any respect for you.
and to realize this show is a sitcom, not a drama.
It has much more drama in it that many sitcoms do. The core of the story is nine years of unrequited love. It is hard to make that funny unless it is a black comedy, and unfortunately, this isn't.
although it would still be fiction and not to be taken anywhere NEAR as seriously as you (and 2-3 others) have taken it.
Again, you do not understand. I do not take what happens in the show seriously. I do take seriously that a number of people refuse to look at what is actually happening.I acknowledge that sometimes this is because they have never lived in a world anything like that in
Friends. Some people seem to have never had the experience of being in the grip of compulsive, unrequited love, and almost no one is going to understand it unless they have experienced it as it doesn't make any sense.
It's become very apparent to me that you have a serious problem with me disagreeing with your opinion
The problem that I have is with the quality of the arguments that you use, and your refusal to acknowledge really simple things, such as Mark is after Rachel. And that Rachel did not make any serious effort to reassure Ross about Mark. She did not make the sort of effort that any normal person would make if they wanted to keep their relationship.I would be genuinely delighted to be shown a different and legitimate way to see what is going on, but instead I got from you a post that is almost identical in arguments, and sometimes even in phrases, to what probably more than a dozen posters have written, and that I've responded to in the past. You didn't say anything new; you just said all the old stuff that I have thought about and rejected for years.
As such , although I haven't yet put you on ignore, I'm very close to it
Whatever.
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