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Wanting to change her name??


oh my god! what kind of people are the twiggs to try to get kimberly to change her name to Arlena. that is just ridiculus. its almost as if since, arlena died, they are having kim replace her. thats crazy and totally unreasonable. i mean, change her name to "Arlena" of all things?

Love isn't about ridiculous little words. Love is about grande gestures. -L.M.

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I agree completely. If they'd merely wanted to change her last name I could have understood that, but to change her first name to Arlena? You can't erase a 14 year old child's psychological identity. How would you have liked to have been one of Kimberly's siblings who had mourned little Arlena, then have Regina and Ernest come home and say, "Here's Arlena"?

I don't think Regina's a bad person; however, I think she suffered severe emotional problems because of her belief (a belief which has some evidence to back it up) that Barbara Mays' parents arranged a switch in the hospital. She believed her child had been kidnapped and there was nothing she could do about it. Who among us could say we wouldn't have suffered? Also, in spite of the crass insensitivity of trying to change Kimberly's first name, I suspect that Regina was trying to fill an emotional hole caused by Arlena's death. She'd just lost a second child to a heart condition, and the rage over thinking her daughter was kidnapped filled the hole in her own heart.

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I doubt you will see this but this is excellent and I agree with you totally. I feel awful for the Twiggs. But they shouldn’t have put Kimberly through that.

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The Twiggs' determination to get full custody of Kimberley, without taking the child's wishes into consideration at all, is the reason why she is such a mess today. If the Twiggs' had just settled for minimal contact, leaving the ball in Kimberley's court in deciding how much or little contact she wanted, things would have been much smoother for her and she might have had the chance to lead a stable life.



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The Twiggs come across as horribly selfish people who only cared about their own suffering and loss. They did not seek out their biological child (Kimberly) until the child they raised (Arlena) died. Only then did they start crying about how they had a right to know Kimberly and she had the right to know them - not that they were ever concerned with Arlena knowing her biological parents or allowing them to know her before her life ended (something they knew was very likely, if not inevitable). When Kimberly made it clear that she wanted nothing to do with them, they did not respect her wishes, but instead decided to keep pushing and pushing. Now Kimberly is in a terrible situation and seems to have lost complete control of her life. While Kimberly is the one who bears the ultimate responsibility for this, I think the Twiggs have to take a bit of the blame for how her life has turned out. Kimberly's life was uprooted at a very fragile time, and rather than having respect for her feelings, they only considered what they wanted no matter how much it hurt her or disrupted her life. I can only imagine how their other biological children turned out.

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From What I could tell, the didn't know until after Arlena had died that she was not their daughter. I do think, howevr that the twiggs handled it all ver badly.

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i can understand the twiggs who were mourning there loss of there raised little girl when suddnely fiding out that there is another child out there who is acatually yours and the child in the grave isnlt must seem like a miricle but i do think it was handled badly in they way they treated kimberly. from what i've read they sought visertation then full custody, moved to florida to be near her and even when she attempted to divorce them, they wouldnlt back down. they left a young girl who was mourning her mother screwed up in the head. All this time they neglected there other children no doubt since they were morning arlina suddnely getting to gripse with the fact that there much loved sister wasn't theres after all.

essentually i'm saying that the twiggs were quite selfish in this respect for the lack of respect they showed towards kimberly

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Now you know why there is going to be a second movie. There is so many holes in the story, and Robert Mays tried to make the Twiggs look so bad, but there is one fact they did try to get full custody. But yourself where the Twiggs are. Don't even think about the Twiggs kid dieing. Think of it like this. You find out after years and years that you have a child, that someone else has. I would bet that you could do anything it takes to get your child that you know is yours back. Its not human nature to keep your child. So if its selfish to want your own child, well I guess there is a lot selfish parents out there. I would say 99% of the parents out there.

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Boz, would you please learn how to conjugate a verb?

MGD

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