Oliver was a Terrible husband to Barbara

Actually, I don't think she's totally asinine for demanding a divorce. If I were Oliver, I'd have given it to her, then laid out criminal charges; multiple counts of assault and attempted murder.

He is self-centered, distant, narcissistic and a jerk, but none of those attributes are any real reason to fault him for starting the entire mess. In fact, despite those qualities, there isn't any reason for us to believe he is a malicious person, or intentionally goes out of his way to harm people. On the other hand, Barbara assaults him multiple times and locks him in a sauna to the point of near-death, runs over his car while he's in it in a monster truck, lays the "I killed your dog" bit on him, smashes his property, and countless other acts of maliciousness. He, on other hand, while a bit ignorant, has no intention of hurting her, and even writes a letter in what he believes are his final moments expressing his love for her; a letter which she attempts to use against him.

Yes, he ran over her cat in an ACCIDENT. Yes he ruined her dinner, AFTER having been the subject and victim of numerous counts of assault, battery, attempted murder, you name it. Yes, he's an a-hole. Yes, he's distant. Yes, he's self-centered. But if that justifies assault and attempted murder in your book, then I'm glad you're not a lawmaker.

Oh, and pal, some people just aren't good at getting the signals. We're not all psychics, mind-readers or experts in body language. This is especially true for people like Oliver, who are, as you say, narcissistic and too self-centered. Instead of playing these stupid games, she should have flat out told him what was up, which she did, but long after. It's funny how you'll use the feminist argument about how the man should just KNOW and understand why she wants a divorce, but you won't acknowledge that as a woman she didn't have to endure two decades of, what she perceived, as a bad marriage.

She's not only a cold-hearted b!tch, she's vitriolic, irrational and irrationally-hateful, and she should be in prison, much less in a marriage. Being a "terrible husband", as you call him (without cheating on or beating her), doesn't justify being a victim of domestic violence, the victim of multiple counts of assault, battery and attempted murder.

"Insulting someone's intelligence & Insulting their career is grounds for divorce in my book. The fact that Oliver COULD NOT understand why Barbara wanted a divorce was even more atrocious, and it explains why Barbara would not give him a reason. He was too aloof to know."

Right there, you're cutting Oliver off at the knees without understanding his reasons for being the way he was. That's not helpful.

That's like so many people today. You say one thing and that illustrates your entire personality?? And then, some irrational woman refuses to see that guy anymore. It's irrational and childish.

Because we're all human. We all make mistakes. But, it's really WRONG to demand that you can't make ONE mistake.

Oliver not understanding why she wanted a divorce is not atrocious. She dedicated so much of her life to making him so blindly happy, he can't see straight when the truth is hitting him in the face or squeezing his hips. Him not understanding her reasons, is just gonna happen. It's a natural response to her actions.

Teasing about killing and cooking the family dog is a little more offensive to me.

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He cuts her off at dinner because she is making a fool of herself trying to tell the joke.

And not showing up to pick him up at the hospital is TOTALLY heartless.

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You have to be insane to think Oliver was anywhere near as bad as Barbara. There was no contest or comparison between the two of them. Please name exactly how Oliver was bad or anywhere near as bad before she said she wanted a divorce and socked him in the mouth after not bothering to visit him in the hospital when he thought he was dying. Being a little arrogant and dismissive is the way most men are and not a big deal. She had serious anger and mental issues when they had that original dinner and she was trying to tell the story which she was ruining and Oliver helped her. From then on it was basically all her. Nothing Oliver did deserved that kind of reaction from her or resentment, it was just that she grew to hate everything about him even if much of it was not bad like the way he chewed his food, laughed, etc while Oliver still loved her.

Oliver never tried to really hurt her or injure her where she on several cases physically hurt him and even tried to kill him(punching him, throwing a pot and hitting him, gripping him and squeezing hard with her thighs, locking him in the steam room, running over his car with him in it, biting his pecker and then sliding him down a hole in the attic to the floor, trying to drop a chandelier on him. The only thing Oliver did was chase her and throw a chair at what he thought was her which was at the end with all the terrible things she did to him. Even when Oliver hit the statue with the crowbar and a piece hit her he ran up and tried to comfort her and said he was sorry and she just used that as a opportunity to again injure him and try to throw him down the stars.

It was 90-95% Barbara and maybe 5-10% Oliver, how could anyone not see that and think it was even close to even. Just because he refused to be kicked out of his own house and lose the house he worked and paid for does not make him as bad as Barbara.

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They were both ghastly people. Selfish, and squabbling over that stupid house. Glad they both died at the end.

They were both jerks. How anyone can say either is good is beyond me. They are both terrible people. She is crazy women. I think its been inside her all along. It just never came out until the gloves came off. Anyone who thinks Oliver is good guy is more in likely just like him. The Oliver's of the world are poisonous its just not obvious until you have relationship with those women/men with that type of personality. They are draining.