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Reading your post it's not clear to me what you would have done to help Neil.

Honestly, Keating did all he could: He didn't tell Neil to "cheat," rather, he told him to make an impassioned plea to his father. But realizing in the same moment that that might not be enough, he encouraged Neil to look at the bigger picture that he would be out from under his parents wings soon enough and free to pursue whatever he wanted in life.

Let's not forget that Neil is the one who made the decision here. Neil decided there was a Plan B option and figured he could probably sneak in the performance and get away with it. This is understandable since he thought his father would be out of town. It was low hanging fruit and Neil went for it, miscalculating badly.

Neil had other options once his father did find out: Put his foot down and tell his father no. Maybe even run away if he had to. But we know that not everyone responds the same way to oppression and unfortunately suicides do occur.

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No, I'm not saying what I would have done to help Neil, I'm simply saying what I would have done if I were him. I know very well that Keating never told Neil to cheat but try to talk to his father. I know suicides do happen and it's a fact of life depending on who is strong enough to defy oppression and yes, Neil was tormented by his father (let alone helped by his mother) but yes he did have a choice not to kill himself even if his father was driving him to do so and he could have been brave enough not to take his life and instead changed his view and still lived out his dreams despite his parents' actions.

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Perhaps the final push over the edge for Neil was the humiliation of his father dragging him home in front of his friends. Add to that being exposed as a liar to Keating.

Having said that, I get the feeling that if Neil could have just held on for that one evening, survived into the next day, he might have found some resolve. Tragically, that's how it is in real life too I suspect.

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I don't think it's fair to say that Neil's parents "never loved him." They were clearly devastated. His father honestly believed he had Neil's best interest at heart. He probably considered it a kind of tough love. Acting was frivolous, in his estimation. Neil was too young to know what was best for him and would certainly thank his father later in life, so I'm sure he thought.

An absence of love would have meant Neil could have done whatever he damn well pleased.

It was misguided. But it was love.

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It may be the case, but it also might be implied (though it can't be said for sure and my statement's theoretical only), that Neil's father mostly saw his son as an object through which to live out the dreams and opportunities that he never had and thus was not going to let his son waste what his father could not have. If Neil's father (and mother) was devastated at his son's loss, then he would have taken some kind of responsibility for his son's death such as either confessing publicly that he drove his son to take his life. It's unknown whether or not he (or his wife) would have been arrested but if they really loved their son, then they should have understood that they were using their love for him in the wrong way and were not seeing his point of view in doing what he wanted to do and if that were the case Neil would not have died but yes, he did have a choice not to and despite what people say, he was too afraid to talk to his parents and explained how he felt so if he felt brave enough to having the experience of been on stage like he wanted (to be), he mustn't have felt like his life was over because his family was not allowing him to do what he wanted and bravely lived how he wanted to live, not according to what his father (and mother) wanted

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People who are devastated react in all sorts of different ways. Being devastated doesn’t mean you necessarily do the right thing. Frequently, people channel their grief into anger and quite often outwardly, as in this case. Love doesn’t mean you always do the right thing, either. Again, the father thought he was doing the right thing and he did it out of (misguided) love. Love doesn’t make one wise. Cripes, most times it’s the opposite! Neil’s father did what he did because he thought he was protecting Neil from a life of failure and guiding him toward a more secure future. Whether he also did it because he wanted to somehow live vicariously through his son, sure, I guess that's possible. But that doesn’t mean he didn’t love his son.

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