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This part gets me everytime!


Just saw this on TV and one of the many parts that gets me everytime is at the end before Emma passes, she looks over and smiles at Aurora...as if to say, "Goodbye...I love you..." Superb performance of those two!

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I start crying when her boys come to see her and the little one tells his brother to shut up. It gets me every time!

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I like that part where they show a close-up of boy looking very sad, then when they show them all together, the kid is forcing a sad face with the fat lip flipping up and down. Funny...

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Me, too. I bawl like a baby everytime the nurse comes in and says that Emma has passed away. The way Shirley McLaine gets up and goes over to her and cries. She's right--you think you are prepared for it when it happens, but when it does, nothing is harder.

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yeah that's the tearjerker alright. Debra Winger does one of the best onscreen deaths ever. And then Shirley MacClaine did her thing. The way she broke down had me weeping buckets. And what she was saying about thinking it would be a relief but it's not it's the hardest thing, God so sad.

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That's the exact part that kills me, too. She says something like, "I'm so stupid!" and then explains how she thought it would be easier and then breaks down and says, "It just gets harder." Absolutely stunning performance. I felt like I was in the room with her.

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What is even more interesting to know is that they didn't like each other during the making of the movie. Talk about good acting!

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Another one that tears me up and makes me smile at the same time, is when Aurora goes to the nurses station and demands that they give her daughter the shot. I'm the only one I know who has ever teared up on that one--most people I know think it's kind of funny just because it's so Aurora--but I can imagine that you're child is lying there in so much pain, there is nothing you can do, there is only one way to aliviate it, and that is a shot that the nurse has said she'll do soon, in a minute, just a second, I'll be there as soon as I can, etc..........it's very frustrating. So, I can see exactly why she went and made such a scene and then when it's over, just calms right down.

For some reason, it just gets me every time.

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just saw it and that's the part that got to me as well. i really felt fer her and started to cry. - god this movie is difficult to watch during the end.

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Yes, that part gets me too, because her baby is laying there in pain and all she wants is to make it better and it's such a hopeless feeling... This is my all time favorite movie, and once he finds that lump I'm near tears the rest of the way....

Great scene... Aurora slapping Tommy in the parking lot, there is just so much raw emotion in this movie....

while i waited i was wasting away

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Actually that is exactly the point that I start crying everytime i watch this film. I think that more than anything, Aurora's mad, shrew-like insistence in the nurse giving her daughter the shot right away, taking away the pain, show the true raw love a mother has for her child.

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Yeah, I agree that the scene when Aurora yells at the nurse to give her daughter the shot is really great. It's sad if you think of it in that way (which is probably the way it's meant to be thought). But after that I thought it was funny when right after she immediately calms down. It's also SO sad when she passes away and Aurora gets really upset and says something like, "It's the hardest thing you'd ever go through", and starts hugging Flap.

Jennie

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THAT PART GETS ME EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. i manage not to even tear up until that part and then that part makes me almost bawl... every time. my god that woman is an amazing atress.

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About the scene where Aurora screams for the shot for her daughter -- that's the scene that affects my sister the most, of the entire film.

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The littlest boy crying in the hospital just breaks my heart. He is too adorable to be so sad.

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Yes, I know just what you mean. I've probably posted this too but I saw it in a sold-out theatre when it was new. I had to set apart from my dad because there weren't any seats together (I think he sat on the floor). I sat by this very severe-looking woman, who rather obviously didn't like my teen-boy self sitting by her - she made a face, and fought me for the armrest (seriously). During this scene, though, she gave me a tissue when I got emotional - it was very nice, and one of my life's favorite memories. I guess we came to terms :)

"It's as if God created the Devil...and gave him...JAWS"

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That is one of the most beautiful things I have ever heard...????

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The littlest boy crying in the hospital just breaks my heart. He is too adorable to be so sad.

Exactly.
I weep so hard when that little boy's face begins to crumple. You can see how brave he's trying to be even though his whole world is collapsing.



I'd say this cloud is Cumulo Nimbus.
Didn't he discover America?
Penfold, shush.

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Yes, the nurse's station scene. I can't believe no one mentioned this one: When Aurora returns to the hotel lobby, picks up her key, and she sees Jack N. on the steps, who has arrived to visit her. She says, "Who, who would think that you would turn out to be a nice guy?" Then she just buries her head in his shoulder and sobs. That busts me up every time.

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I know!!! I've seen this movie SO many times and that part has me boo-hooing every time. I haven't seen it in a while, but if I'm not mistaken she even kind of gives a little wave. SO SAD!

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I don't think it's a wave, exactly - I think she reaches out with her hand. Maybe it's a wave - it does function as one huh.

"It's as if God created the Devil...and gave him...JAWS"

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The part where Emma says "I thought it went really well, didn't you?" And the littlest boy tries his hardest to nod and not to cry, and begins to anyway....I bust out crying like a spigot every single time.

That young actor did a superb job in that scene!! I cannot imagine what he had to think about to work up emotion like that. It looked so realistic, and you knew and FELT how heartbroken and alone the boy and Emma were feeling. Even though the older boy was a punk, I cried when he broke down...I knew he was torn apart about losing his mom and just didn't know how to express it.



"I'd say this cloud is Cumulo Nimbus."
"Didn't he discover America?"
"Penfold, shush."

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If you think that's sad, try watching the sequel 'The Evening Star'. It's nowhere near as brilliant as the original, but this scene had me in pieces:

Aurora goes to the prison where Tommy has been for the past couple of years. (not surprising to learn he ended up in prison.) He has never expressed any interest in her previous visits or felt any emotion whatsoever when she talked about his mother. One day she goes in and she gives him a box of brownies with a file inside. He throws them to his cell mate, who takes the brownies and throws back the file. Tommy sits on his bed and looks through the file, which has pictures of when he was a child. He comes across a picture of his mother, smiling, and breaks down in tears. It's heartbreaking to watch. I cried my heart out.

'Wendy, I'm not gonna hurt ya. I'm just gonna bash your brains in!'
-Jack Torrance, The Shining

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That scene 'Evening Star' is wonderful - the one where Aurora visits Tommy in prison. He always blows her off. He's always rude to her and she has so much emotionally invested in him but she takes whatever he gives her. She shows up at the prison regularly even though he sits there in sullen silence.
He's her beloved grandson and she can just show up time after time - it reminds me of the way she always called her daughter even though they locked horns over every little thing.
When she gives Tommy the box of brownies, he's used to that and just acts like he will automatically throw it away, as usual.
He is walking away and she says, 'There's a file inside...' with her head turned away from him. As if it's a wry joke. Even the audience thinks it's a joke. Until he throws the box of brownies at the guy in the bed next door and the guy opens the box and finds the file. A cardboard file for papers. Inside are the sweet pictures of Tommy when he was a little kid with his mom. When he starts crying, it makes me tear up too... also to think that he might never have gotten the file (passing the trash, you can almost see him restrain himself from throwing the brownies directly in the can).

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The part where Emma says "I thought it went really well, didn't you?" And the littlest boy tries his hardest to nod and not to cry, and begins to anyway....I bust out crying like a spigot every single time.


I cried just reading that!

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This is my all time favorite movie. When I saw it in the theater I was at the same time of life as Debra and the kids in very much the same circumstances, minus the cancer.
Her saying goodbye to her kids was more than I could handle, especially that cute little boy who tried so hard not to cry. I have seen this movie countless times and I break down every time. What performances! What a movie!

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That scene tore me apart. I was just a kid when I saw this in the theater with my Mother, sister and Grandmother. I will never forget, ever seeing this movie. It was packed with a very diverse audience. There was a an older couple sitting next to me and a younger couple where my sister was to my left. I remember laughing hysterically throughout the first half of the movie, and crying hysterically throughout the last part of the movie and I mean boo-hooing with noise. When I looked around there was not a dry face in the whole theater. Grown men, women, kids, elderly, all crying. My goodness thats when you realize how good a film is. I was very lucky that even at a young age my Mother introduced me to the best music and movies. She had good taste in both and her interest were vast. This movie made me love Shirley McClaine since..and I've watched her and Debra in every movie since then. On a sidenote I also thought they both should have won an Oscar that year for their performance. They both "deserved" it.

My favorite scene in the whole movie is when Debra finds out about the cancer and Aurora is at the hospital talking with the doctor.

Doctor: I always tell everyone to hope for the best and expect the worse.
Aurora: And they let you get away with that?
Doctor: Look it is not good to seem so desperate, or to let her see your desperation (can't remember what he said verbatim but then they cut to where Patsy and Aurora comes into the room where Emma is Smiling).....

When they come in Smiling I always ROFLMAO off at there faces...

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I love the "And they let you get away with that?"

You must be the change you seek in the world. -- Gandhi

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I love those two scenes as well. The doctor basically telling them to keep a strait face keep positive, they both go in her hospital room like false clown smiles and then the best moment is Debra Winger goes what now? lol and immediately Shirley Mcclaine is like oh crap the jig is up she cant see thru our bull *beep* lol. great acting. even better comedic timing.

nailed this movie these two.

oh and yes, Flap is a jerky simpleton in this. very realistic, the cheating , the circumstance, these were unglamorous real people. but I LOVE Jeff Daniels as a n actor and a speaker. this movie is on its own, i like that they didnt cast who they originally intended. who knew scheduling could play such a huge part in the result of how a film can relate to people.







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