When Emma says "I love you as much as I love myself" to her boys....odd to me. I love my son more than myself and would give up my life for him. It came across as detached....I don't think it fit her character.
When Aurora won't lend her daughter money. "You know I hate parting with money." Emma really needed it. I would always help my kids so I cannot relate to that. Even though Aurora was a cold mother, she obviously loved Emma as we find out in the end.
Those 2 things have always bothered me too!
I agree w you
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Oh my God, I think the same thing every time! If it were my last conversation with my kids I'd be telling them how much I love them MORE than myself and more than anything else in the world! I always thought that was such a weird way to put it!
shareMe too! It looks like there are a few of us where those phrases bother us. I love my kids more than anything and I would help them out with money as well.
The only thing I can think of is; Aurora hates Flap so much and when Emma first asks her, she wants the Renoir. Aurora states she does not want that going for rent. I hate to admit it, but I get that part of it. She thinks Flap is a bum and should support his growing family. But I would find a way to help her.
Wait! Wait! Where are you going? I was gonna make Espresso!
I frankly never saw anything wrong with what Emma said to her children. I believe it was meant to show that she loved them a great deal. But that's not enough? She has to love them MORE than herself? Wow.
As for Aurora not lending her daughter money, I think partly it was a control issue. And I believe that this was in the conversation when Emma tells her that she is expecting her 3rd child. Aurora asks how her life is supposed to get better if she keeps having children with that man. Aurora feels that giving her daughter money would be enabling her poor decisions.
You must be the change you seek in the world. -- Gandhi
She has to love them MORE than herself? Wow.
I agree it's an odd thing to have said, on the surface. Perhaps though, realizing that we're all (usually) at our most selfish/self-centered when we're children, Emma wanted to express herself in terms her boys might understand best. Also, she may have been trying to send them the very valuable message to love themselves. Every mother wants that for their child.
As for the money part. Well Aurora would have done anything for her daughter and grandchildren but not without speaking her mind beforehand, that's definitely realized within the continued novels and the movie sequel. She was conflicted on the issue of out and out giving money initially because she didn't want to enable Flap's worthlessness.
I found it very odd that Aurora didn't want to lend money to her daughter. She seemed to have plenty enough and you'd actually think that controlling mother like that would probably jump at the change to lend money to her daughter because it would giver her leverage in their relationship.
shareShe was not a perfect mother (who is?) and there's nothing wrong with self-love.
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